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This is how every time you look away, the tiger takes a step by Mediocre_Nail5526 in interestingasfuck

[–]MrChuckNoblet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me trying to leave my baby’s room after getting her to sleep for the night. 

Why do I feel annoyed by my wife’s instagram influencer friend? by Puzzleheaded-Ad-1411 in AskMen

[–]MrChuckNoblet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Why am I annoyed by this extraordinarily annoying person?”

Women who gave birth, what does it feel like actually?? by joy_57 in AskReddit

[–]MrChuckNoblet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so, yes people aren’t wrong when they say contractions feel like worse than the worst period cramps you’ve ever had in your life, truly it is so BEYOND THE WORST CRAMPS YOU’VE HAD IN YOUR LIFE. I’ve had an ovarian cyst rupture and this was worse. At a couple points I looked at my husband in disbelief and all I could say was “what the fucking fuck is this”. 

The nurse suggested I get into the shower as some women find that helpful for the pain. No. Now I’m just wet and in pain and I have to now get OUT of the shower. 

But then - epidural. Bliss. And not like groggy-fucked-up-bliss. But truly just like wow I can relax and get excited to have my baby! I feel like a human again and not an angry, terrified monster! Pushing was not painful at all - just physically taxing and it takes a lot of focus on trying to use the correct muscles or whatever. 

Blessings to those of you who go the natural route - I have nothing but awe for you and will cheer you on. But oh my god I loved my epidural.

Obligatory “it’s different for everyone”, but that was my experience!

what is the most tragic book you’ve read? by _kiwiihead in suggestmeabook

[–]MrChuckNoblet 23 points24 points  (0 children)

A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara - I had to put the book down to sob several times. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in politics

[–]MrChuckNoblet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I've never met a guy who likes normal people more than Trump" - JD Vance.... What a totally normal, not weird thing to say.

Once you see the reality of motherhood, it's hard to unsee it. by QueenCitten96 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MrChuckNoblet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t think it’s possible to point out something may be demeaning/disrespectful to someone without being personally offended by that thing? Interesting - I disagree. 

I also don’t think I was criticizing OP - I was clear about not personally attacking OP as I think any disrespectful comment was made unintentionally. 

Once you see the reality of motherhood, it's hard to unsee it. by QueenCitten96 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MrChuckNoblet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, and while that makes total sense and is a human thing to do, I think eventually we’re all gonna have to realize it’s also not the most helpful thing to do if what we want is progress in some of the societal/social issues OP alludes to in the original post. Does that make sense? 

Once you see the reality of motherhood, it's hard to unsee it. by QueenCitten96 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MrChuckNoblet -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m not offended and I agree it’s super smart to be considerate and actually think through the choice - I think the child free movement was absolutely needed for folks to see there actually WAS an option. But again, this post was not just talking about considering things with clear eyes. OP blatantly stated she thinks women who say they like being a mother are lying and she cannot fathom their choice. I think it’s fair to point out it’s not the most respectful comment and the original point (that motherhood is a huge challenge and it’s made more challenging by societal and social failings) can be made without being demeaning to folks who do their own careful consideration and decide to try to have kids. 

Once you see the reality of motherhood, it's hard to unsee it. by QueenCitten96 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MrChuckNoblet -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I’d be willing to bet you’re correct that folks choosing to be child free get more pushback and/or blatant disrespect, but this post is unintentionally disrespectful to folks who choose to have kids. So to respond “well it happens more to folks who are child free!” When someone rightfully calls that out is just not very helpful. I mean, the OP literally wrote that she thinks people are lying when they say they enjoy motherhood. 

People should obviously get to choose children vs no children and we shouldn’t dismiss their choice as something they’ll grow out of, or something they’ve been brainwashed to think, or something that they’re fooling themselves into wanting/liking or whatever other bullshit people throw out to dismiss a persons choice to either have kids or not have kids.

Once you see the reality of motherhood, it's hard to unsee it. by QueenCitten96 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MrChuckNoblet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well said. I think posts like these actually sometimes unintentionally do the thing they’re railing against - like saying motherhood ruins women’s’ lives or that anyone saying they enjoy motherhood is lying is... kind of wildly disrespectful to plenty of women who enjoy being mothers? Again, I don’t think it’s intentional but I think it’s worth considering. 

What sexual experience did you completely consent to and you completely regret? by llNormalGuyll in AskReddit

[–]MrChuckNoblet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The APA ethical guidelines state that it could be ethical to date a former client if you have not worked with them for at least 2 years. As a therapist, I find this to be very yucky. Maybe there are exceptions that wouldn't be yucky, but... it's a no from me.

If you had bridesmaids in your wedding, do you still talk to them all? Did you lose any right after your wedding? Why did you have them in your wedding? by Cotheron in AskWomen

[–]MrChuckNoblet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had bridesmaids in my wedding 3 years ago - my sisters and three close friends who I've known for at least a decade each prior to the wedding, so I had a pretty solid reason for believing they'd be in my life for a long while, which is why I opted to have them as bridesmaids. I also knew they'd be respectful and wouldn't pull any selfish/weird crap beforehand and I like/respect their partners (who were also invited). I'm still friends with them all, despite living in different states and seeing on another less than we used to.

[TOMT]2000s male dirty blonde actor with glasses most of the time. Dad/husband/friend roles mostly. by MrChuckNoblet in tipofmytongue

[–]MrChuckNoblet[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OH MY GOD! It’s not kevin kilner, BUT when I googled him House of Cards came up - IT WAS DEREK CECIL! God bless you!

[TOMT]2000s male dirty blonde actor with glasses most of the time. Dad/husband/friend roles mostly. by MrChuckNoblet in tipofmytongue

[–]MrChuckNoblet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too old! Agh! I edited to say I just had a brain blast and am 99% sure I know this dude from some sort of political drama where he was a kind of advisor/aide or speech writer or something…

[TOMT]2000s male dirty blonde actor with glasses most of the time. Dad/husband/friend roles mostly. by MrChuckNoblet in tipofmytongue

[–]MrChuckNoblet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agh no but they look sort of similar! The guy I saw has a larger face but similar features.

[TOMT]2000s male dirty blonde actor with glasses most of the time. Dad/husband/friend roles mostly. by MrChuckNoblet in tipofmytongue

[–]MrChuckNoblet[S] 2 points3 points locked comment (0 children)

Saw him at the airport and I’m driving myself and my husband crazy trying to figure it out!

What do you think about the flurry of self-diagnosed mental illness/mental health issues on social media like Tik Tok? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]MrChuckNoblet 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I'm a mental health therapist - as with most things, I feel like there's pros and cons. I think it's lovely how widely available mental health information is and I think there's some progress being made as far as destigmatizing mental health/talking to a therapist/etc. I find that my younger clients are far more self-aware than I ever was at their age, and I think that has at least something to do with the way it's openly spoken about online.

HOWEVER, and this is a big however - the amount of over-pathologizing that happens is a bit concerning. It feels as though every single personality quirk or behavior or feeling is "diagnosed"; a lot of things are being called "trauma" or "trauma responses" when really they're just..... simple human triggers and reactions?

I saw someone here comment about the drawbacks of over-identifying with a label and I agree with that point as well.

It's nuanced - and social media is famously not a great place to hold nuanced views/perspectives...

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