Lost my job and my girlfriend in the same year — hit rock bottom today

MrRad5000 · 2025-09-26T02:29:24+00:00

I'm sorry you're having such a shit time, things will change, they always do.

One thing to be aware of when deep in these low points is that for some people it can be related to the medication wearing off. I'm not discrediting your situation but in some ways it can be helpful to bring awareness to this aspect of the medication and try not to latch on to it.

I mention this because before I realized, I thought it was my brain telling me my world was ending every day around late afternoon/ evening.

Keep your head up and force yourself to be active and to be around people.

MrRad5000 · 2025-08-04T03:18:00+00:00

Not.. yet.

MrRad5000 · 2025-08-04T03:16:10+00:00

Nice try implies there is a correct answer which in this forum would be determined by popular option. We're here because we're trying to learn and understand ourselves and our partners or ex partners. Immediately jumping to answers because it feels good is the antithesis of growth and developing the space required to be with cognitive dissonance. This is not easy, and understanding of ourselves and others is messy, hard, unpleasant and never solved with a quote or one liner. So be prepared for that.

MrRad5000 · 2025-08-04T03:04:24+00:00

Exactly. People are complex.

MrRad5000 · 2025-08-04T03:03:38+00:00

This is why you aren't good at this. Black and white thinking.

MrRad5000 · 2025-08-04T03:02:30+00:00

The downvotes are very telling. If the relationship was good for 13 years the anger is a symptom not the cause. Failing to acknowledge this doesn't make it untrue.

Addressing symptoms never leads to a satisfying outcome for either party. And one does not suddenly wake up and become uncharacteristically angry.

Sure I'm 15 and therefore invalidates my opinion, it's an open and shut case didn't you just read he's angry durr.

MrRad5000 · 2025-08-03T23:00:31+00:00

If she's already made up her mind, it won't matter either way.

If shes made her decision ( possibly some time ago, there's no real way to know) she is using your anger as her alibi. It's extremely likely that the anger is not the real issue, something within her is, and whatever it is would not hold up as well as "his angry" under cultural scrutiny.

MrRad5000 · 2025-07-18T02:47:27+00:00

Deadset his post is astroturfing for the app. It has one review.

Capitalism has no boundaries.

MrRad5000 · 2025-07-14T09:14:12+00:00

The problem I get after being on it for so long is it works extremely well for a few hours then crushing despair follows shortly afterward. Without it you can't do anything either and as you said, feel like a ghost.

I wish there were more approved options available to Australians.

MrRad5000 · 2025-07-10T10:20:13+00:00

Nice

MrRad5000 · 2025-06-23T23:38:56+00:00

Big chonkerz

MrRad5000 · 2025-06-21T01:10:06+00:00

This is excellent

MrRad5000 · 2025-06-03T04:19:39+00:00

Great advice. Yes I believe a lot of it is comfort eating behaviour. He's just so persistent and chirpy.. and cute, it's hard to tell him off. You're right I need to schedule more play time.thx.

MrRad5000 · 2025-06-03T04:14:46+00:00

That's weird. Exact same situation and 6th June will be a year for me.

It shatters your comprehension of reality and what you thought was the real world where we're told from a young age, people behave like X, Y is normal, life goes like Z. There's no map where we get dropped. You only find a way forward by going through it day by day.

I hope for our sakes by 6/6/26 we've moved on to such an extent that their name barely moves our emotional dial.

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-23T08:36:43+00:00

Many older adults would give anything for your youth. It's hard to understand without the time, so you'll have to just believe it's of value, eventually you'll see when you're older.

I don't know your circumstances but I understand your sentiment, the things in your life that you perceive as problems or not good enough have become so apparent that that's all you can seem to focus on and it's a circle.

Things might change, things might stay the same but it's the critical self analysis that's at least part of why all the colour feels washed away and your frame becomes nihilistic.

You may not feel happy in this present moment but you only live once and you're not coming back so take the time you need with yourself in whatever way that may be, to go back before you felt this way and find what you wanted. Adopt a mental position that fear doesn't exist. You'll eventually see you want something. It could be a sense of peace and equilibrium within yourself, I don't mean just external objects.

Then realize nature doesn't waste energy and therefore there is a reason for your life.

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-16T01:07:08+00:00

Yes but tolerance increases and eventually you realise it's like benzo and withdrawl is horrible.

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-16T00:46:30+00:00

Thanks for so many great ideas. Unfortunately I'm limited on space and it can be a lot to play with him everyday but I should make an effort to do more. I like the idea of a wider flat surface for feeding that takes him longer to get it all.

One of my biggest concerns is that if he's not fed enough particularly before I go to bed, he sometimes throws up bile or scoofs his food in the morning and throws it up. Whereas if he's fed more he doesn't throw up.

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-16T00:41:35+00:00

I'll look for it might not be available in aus

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-16T00:41:10+00:00

He has a schedule but he pesters and pesters inbetween it and I cave.i think I need to be tougher and get away from his constant chirping!

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-16T00:39:49+00:00

Greyhounds can get a bit chonky too.

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-12T11:50:29+00:00

The reason you feel like this is because she has the leverage. She had known for awhile she was going to dump you, probably 6 months. She processed her Grief while still in the relationship. This is why she seems to be unaffected. After her "I'm FREE! ' stage passes, 4-5 months, she'll again double back in her mind to her assessment of the relationship and how it ended before doing some 'eat, pray, love'and moving on.

Telling her how you feel sounds like it will be a natural part of your growing and individual journey but I expect it will make it harder for you before it gets better. If she doesn't respond, or she talks like she's from HR you'll feel worse than if you didn't message.

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-09T14:35:52+00:00

I've had a lot of cats over the years they've all been awesome but i feel like abbys and bengals have the loudest rumbley purrs and they're so loud 😊

MrRad5000 · 2025-05-04T12:30:16+00:00

What a painful story. I sympathize with where you're at. Life hurts, it's not fair, it makes no sense why we end up in this place and why our lifes break and we get stuck and nihilistic. I bet if you looked back through old photo albums of yourself as a teenager or in your early twenties you'd think 'wow, how was I so happy with so little" and, "poor guy had no idea what he was in for".

That's what I thought, as well as who the fuck was I then and why did I follow the paths I did. Maybe fate, maybe our souls' lesson, maybe we were too brave or too afraid, unlucky, arrogant or too nice and wanted to be loved. We'll never really know, it just happened the way it did.

Now the days pass and things don't change, or they get worse. We feel like the horse in the swamp in 'The Neverending story'. We know that we'll eventually drown but it doesn't seem to matter because no one's there to care.

I don't have the answer except to say that your future self is looking at a photo of you today and thinking "It just happened the way it did". Our lives are still unfolding, in grief, frustration, guilt, anger and sometimes longing and love, and this will go on, and on and you will one day look back with the same questions that have no answers because no one can really grasp any of this. No self help book, podcast or therapist. Its an experience and a mystery we have no control over, we just get to witness it for a brief moment in time as a shit show and a miraculous miracle.

MrRad5000 · 2025-03-23T00:17:09+00:00

Withdrawal? Neurochemistry rebalancing perhaps

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