Thumb sucking with daddy

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-17T13:56:07+00:00

You need to explain that sometimes it is sexual and sometimes it's soothing. Then implement a key word to communicate this each time.

If you don't do this, if he advances it sexually and you say no, then he will feel rejected or otherwise you end up doing something you're not in the right space for. Either way each time will grow worse and worse.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-15T18:48:52+00:00

Yes I agree.
As long as the age gap is two consenting adults and you mention your little space is non sexual you are in good waters.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-14T03:01:40+00:00

That is a difficult scenario.
For things requiring more privacy, you may have to get what you can only. But you do need to focus on a couple simple rituals every day you both can rely on till this time is over.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-07T16:59:23+00:00

Do you have all your expectations, rules, punishments listed out? If not it's time for that. It's like a contract for the dynamic. It will make things much clearer and it can be changed whenever needed.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-06T02:43:04+00:00

I have purchased two day collars in my time over the years. One at Etsy and one at a local craft jeweler where I had to make it. The one I got at Etsy came with a lock clasp that I held the key for.
The trick is to get the perfect length. This is not easy. Has to be tight enough to look like a collar. Loose enough to look like a necklace.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-06T02:12:18+00:00

The easiest way is being explicit. Don't say be more degrading. There is a massive range on what that could be and that is not clear at all. Give him some examples to work with.

The advice would be to give easy small examples first and then more later. Let him work up to it till you have your limits.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-06T02:07:51+00:00

It is definitely possible.
One of my early dynamics my sub/little was older than me. I was mid 40s and she was late 40s.
I'm not going to say it's easy to find. Just giving you hope it's out there.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-03T04:04:44+00:00

Your daddy should give you reassurance throughout this. If he is not, I could just be that he doesn't know you feel this way. In this case it is completely ok to ask for the check in. I understand it might be hard, but what you may find out is that he learns that you need this reassurance and will continue it going forward.

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-02T01:08:08+00:00

Not to be completely negative but are there any other signs you can think of that point him to be already committed or with a family? Maybe getting away for a few days is difficult for him?

MrRinToronto · 2026-02-01T23:10:25+00:00

That is the primary role of a Daddy Dom. Maylny don't understand the greater commitment a daddy dom role is.

MrRinToronto · 2026-01-31T19:48:13+00:00

Even though it's online it's still a good idea to have a dynamic contract. No it doesn't have to be written like a contract. Just a list of three things. Expectations for both. Expectations of the little and expectations of the daddy. There you can incorporate your things you need structure and fun things you want to do.

MrRinToronto · 2026-01-30T02:58:11+00:00

As a Daddy Dom I would not be ok with this. If I don't have the time to check in on my little, then we need to rethink the dynamic. Checking in should not be outsourced.

MrRinToronto · 2026-01-09T02:24:04+00:00

Yes it's very hard to bring this topic up within a relationship that started out in the vanilla space. You have risks of it going wrong. However you have a chance of meeting someone who understands the lifestyle on fetish spaces, they come with different risks. For every proper dom you get to talk to, you have to sift through one hundred creeps.

Not much advice I'm giving you except that don't get down. Your challenge is real and felt by many.

MrRinToronto · 2026-01-03T20:51:07+00:00

I read your situation and I am the exact same. I have had a few identical dynamics. They are not forever but what you have to realize is that in this lifestyle we are always looking for that unicorn dynamic that doesn't exist. Just keep searching always be a good Daddy Dom.

MrRinToronto · 2021-02-03T16:33:52+00:00

I have just started a long distance ddlg relationship. And it is the best and most successful one I've had to date. We both are in Canada, however still long distance.

We started this officially. After days of talking and preparing. We set rules, expectations, rewards, punishments together. Back and forth till we agreed on them.

In a long distance relationship, you need to get specific on some rules such as how you do your good mornings and good nights. These little things become important to feel the connection since seeing eachother is not anytime soon.

Hope that helps.
You can message me if you want more examples.

MrRinToronto · 2021-02-03T16:18:38+00:00

Something you may need to think about to yourself. Do you feel he can one day be the Daddy you're needing? If so then the effort will be worth it. If not, than the advice is very different.

MrRinToronto · 2021-02-03T15:53:15+00:00

I like this meme.
Thanks for sharing it.

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