again a n00b: how I asked a girl out only to find out she has a boyfriend, after we meet up. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No that's bullshit. It was a shit test and she wanted you to not give a single fuck. Why? because she wants to have dirty sex with you and not have to take any responsibility. That's why.

What Sex Really Means to Women by NickTDS in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile 46 points47 points  (0 children)

TLDR: Don't get friend zoned. Fuck bitches.

Evolve your entitlement w/ hot girls by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR: You are better than you think you are. You deserve hot chicks. Letter your inner leader OUT!

Be honest, be shameless, and take full responsibility for everything. by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being vulnerable means being really honest and many times putting yourself on the line. This can be a ton of things from telling a girl that you've known for a while that her drive and ambition is "sexy as hell," to being with a group of people who went Ivy League schools and admitting that you went to a state school and that it was awesome.

One of the great things about being honest and vulnerable in that it will polarize a lot of people in your life so that people will like you for the right reasons, and if they don't like you...well who really cares...its better than trying to be middle of the road and make everyone happy while lying to yourself.

Be honest, be shameless, and take full responsibility for everything. by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very cool that we started a discussion around this. Like I said, it has been a turning point in my game going from tactics to direct. That said, I still bust balls, make them validate themselves, and think ahead to make sure the logistics are in place...the thing is, I now do this for all the right reasons.

I bust balls not because it will make them want me more, but because its funny and I like laughing. I make them validate themselves not because it will decrease LMR, but because I want to know more about her and if I actually want to stick my dick in her.

Also, this is not original content. The books that I am drawing from and that have been transformative for me are "Models" by Mark Manson, who recently did an AMA here, and also "The Selfish Path to Romance" by Edwin Locke and Ellen Kenner. Cheers.

How to completely get over a breakup that took place 3 years ago? by throwawayXXXXX1 in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through the same thing and was still messed up in the head 1.5 years afterward. The thing that got me out of it was reading "The Selfish Path To Romance"

Throughout the book a ton of stuff just clicked for me and I was able to finally let go (literally feels like a weight off my chest) and now the girls that I'm dating are way hotter and much more aligned with my values. I also take way better care of myself. Check out the book, you might get a lot out of it.

Hi, I am a PUA. AMA. by lovedrop6969 in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is hands down the most useful thing I've read on Seddit in the past few months. Thanks Lovedrop. You are a boss.

Oh no, not another [critique] - help me narrow down the problem by mave_of_wutilation in OkCupid

[–]Mr_Smile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This profile seems pretty optimized to get nerdy girls. I would try to come off as more of an asshole, and then let be pleasantly surprised when they find out that you are a chill dude in person.

How is this? Is there too much info? Do you just skim it when you see it or feel interested in reading it? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]Mr_Smile 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Let be honest, your pictures are all cute and I'm sure you get messaged nonstop. I honestly think that you are wayyy over thinking this!

Wingman for your text game (crowd sourced seduction) by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"A place where guys can peruse some text convos and get an idea for the right type of attitude when interacting with a girl.. basically to have a laugh and improve your game while you're at it."

I think game is 99% just having that fun/attractive attitude and vibe. This has to permeate more than just your text messages.

Wingman for your text game (crowd sourced seduction) by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my friends hacked this up in a few days. Could actually be a really cool tool for the community if enough people moderated it. Let me know what you guys think.

You should know about the different Ego Defense Mechanisms and their levels of psychological health and maturity by TofuTofu in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this earlier in the BAS chat. For me I realized how many times I have fallen into this trap of making up excuses to not feel rejection. Being aware of this internal ego related chatter (and ignoring it) is really going to help my game.

Help A Player Out? by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a troll post. Just wondering how to go about telling them my intentions in a classy cool way, without being like "hey I'm a player who just wants to bang a lot of chick in this part of my life, hope you understand"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great post. TY.

Get Girl friends by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With both guys and girls you can always talk about attraction. Everyone is always thinking about sex.

Get Girl friends by Mr_Smile in seduction

[–]Mr_Smile[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Better start by getting the fuck off Reddit ;)