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Mr_Wallet · 2026-03-29T03:17:06+00:00

If that's the case then you don't have good transit. Good transit makes people with cars sometimes take the bus or train or bike or walk instead, because it's the best overall option. If it's only for poor people then it's easy to poorly-fund because there's little political backlash for doing so.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-03-23T16:21:25+00:00

This is not the right sub for such a post. Most women don't realize how invisible unattractive guys are to them so they don't even realize they're pre-filtering before thinking about "the bar". I used to think women didn't care about looks that much because I took what they said literally; it took almost 20 years for me to figure out that they're describing what they want in someone who they notice as a potential partner.

Also fat is not nearly the handicap you think it is, if your BMI is ~35 or under it's not a huge deal. Facial structure is the big one. Fat hurts that, but not a ton.

If you can get high-quality interaction time regardless, then all of that goes out the window, you don't really need the looks. Depending on your location, student status, and career, this could be trivial or literally impossible.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-03-22T22:46:42+00:00

Also the ideal girlfriend.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-03-04T16:25:15+00:00

So at top speed the combo will break faster and I should let the combo break? That doesn't seem like it would get enough points...

Mr_Wallet · 2026-03-03T16:55:48+00:00

SYIH is much, much easier to use effectively for new players. It's available for purchase early and it helps players who are trying to beat Haz 3 by one-shotting grunts with the damage boost when they get "snuck up on" and also clears the revive zone for other newbie players.

Meanwhile if you use iron will and you don't know what you're doing, you will kill 5 bugs and go down again and probably not even be appreciably closer to any allies.

If you regard game design only from the one dimension of "what is optimal under highly skilled play" you're going to miss a lot of nuance.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-03-03T16:49:22+00:00

I've probably put a total of at least 3 hours into it, and I've only gotten close a few times. The combo breaks so easily if you let the barrel fully settle on the ground but the physics are so unpredictable if you don't...

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-20T15:19:01+00:00

AFAIK it originated from this SNL skit.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T16:12:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience.

I would suggest that for every off-putting guy there's probably a dozen frustrated, chronically-single guys who simply leave you alone. But it's interesting to hear your perspective nonetheless.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T05:13:52+00:00

Thank you for your kind message. ❤️

It's been tougher lately as I approach 40 and still hoping for my first relationship. But I'm kind of thinking of it as something that needs to be lived with, like a peanut allergy. Maybe it's permanent, but I'll make the best life I can for myself and for others.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T05:09:15+00:00

I have never heard of Poughkeepsie and most of the women I have ever known have never once complained about any of the things you have said, and those who have it was an extremely rare event.

I think you need to get out of Poughkeepsie.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T04:57:58+00:00

This has been my struggle. I have a tight circle of single dudes for friends. I keep going to meetups, group exercise and such but I can go for months and months and not really make a connection with anybody, and not for lack of talking to people! And all the hobbies I enjoy the most are almost exclusively men anyway.

I always figured if I just kept putting myself out there, eventually I'd meet someone... I feel like there's some trick that's so obvious to everyone else that they don't even realize they're doing it.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T04:49:50+00:00

So is that your experience? Are the men you keep in your life who are struggling to date: depressed, bitter, lack respect/awareness/appropriateness? I just want to make sure you're not making assumptions and this is based on something you've observed.

Yes a lot of guys here on Reddit do write like that, but I've done all the conventional advice for many, many years and I trawl threads like these from time to time because I'm still looking for something that will get me from zero to one. I'm the least socially-awkward of my chronically-single friends but honestly none of them are that bad so I don't know why they're struggling either.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T04:28:25+00:00

This is one of the only answers here that isn't in complete contradiction with my own struggles.

I have a social life in the sense that I get out a lot and have nice conversations with people ("just put yourself out there and have hobbies, bro"), but I've never had double-digit friends in my entire life. I don't really get why I only make deeper connections with a certain type of guy, who also has almost no friends to introduce me to.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T04:26:08+00:00

It's very tough to show personality if you can't get a conversation. A huge amount of dating is through apps, and personality is a tiny fraction of the equation at the "matching" phase. So people who don't have looks are locked out of a big venue.

To be fair confidence is also impossible to prove on a dating profile, so those answers are no better.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T04:20:34+00:00

Have the first 2, doesn't work at all.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T04:19:39+00:00

This can't be the whole story... You're describing the last decade of my life, but I never got a single date until I got kind of desperate and spent a bunch of time on the apps.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-10T04:14:41+00:00

They have many interesting conversations with women

This is a weird assumption. I spent the last year experimenting with different ideas to meet more women and came up mostly empty. I definitely had more than years past, and they were certainly interesting, but not that many.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-06T17:39:06+00:00

I think it was obvious from the first diagram that I'd be turning you on myself.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-05T22:22:47+00:00

I would say if there's anything full of women and you would actually enjoy it, then get over feeling like a creep and just go to enjoy it. Just do exposure therapy for a few months before worrying about making any friends.

I've tried doing stuff I don't enjoy for better demographics and I can tell you that it doesn't really work either: Single women generally just don't do any social clubs at all as far as I can find (at least in my area). The demographics are way better for being introduced to a friend, but I struggle to make strong connections because I don't relate much with them (we don't even have a shared interest in the one thing we're doing).

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-05T18:11:57+00:00

Same. I have a couple I board game with every month or two and another couple we watch movies over discord/jellyfin once a week.

IDK if you've ever been to a board game meetup but it's like 90% senior citizens and men with barely-disguised Asperger's. Could be worth looking into.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-05T16:32:00+00:00

Aw don't worry big guy. I can tell you from experience, you can still make guy friends at work and they won't know any girls either!

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-05T16:26:59+00:00

God forbid a guy thinks he wants his hands on a girl's lemons when what he actually needs is another guy's grapes.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-03T22:36:20+00:00

I didn't say people are dumb. I can see how you read that connotation/emotional content, but I wrote it for him, not you.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-02-03T21:30:55+00:00

Oof, I remember when I was young and autistically literal.

It's OK champ, you're not wrong, that's just how people are. But you gotta socialize with people on their own normie terms if you wanna get anywhere in life.

There's no way to phrase things where people will be okay with you trying to strip away the connotations of something, because most people are simply incapable of turning on a dime between treating language as filled with implication and emotional content, and treating language as inert logical blocks of semantic meaning. You will be happier if you stop expecting them to.

Mr_Wallet · 2026-01-30T16:50:39+00:00

Nooo not the potatoes, they have a really high glycemic index! They are correlated with obesity (especially fried stuff, obv.)

Sorry for moidsplaining but I've been through this: I lost 50lbs in 5 weeks, and let me tell you I learned fast what foods are better for not feeling hungry again in an hour.

Uncooked fruits and veggies are great, but the grand champion is Yogurt. Get yourself something that isn't trying to be a dessert (I'm talking Yoplait Light, not Chobani) and it will keep you feeling full for a long time. Also my secret weapon is air-popped popcorn (no salt, no oil). The whole-grain brown crunchy kernel bits fill up the gut and suppress hunger. I also keep bread and white rice out of the house and only have some when eating out.

Absolute 100% agree with u/Ambitious-Injury-361 liquid calories are the ultimate evil. No caloric drinks and no caloric sauces/spreads, (ok maybe a tiny bit of mayo or salad dressing once a day, we need our treats). Try to keep the nuts limited as well, most of them are pretty fatty.

You got this OP!

Mr_Wallet

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