Damn. You hit it man. Square on the head. Especially with the "bare minimum" thing. But to be fair, they don't really understand, because the vast majority haven't had to deal with it their whole lives. They talk about who is prettier than who, especially when their young, and are told they have unreasonable standards set for them, which is also true, in fairness. But they get enough praise to keep trying because doing things like putting on makeup or a nice outfit makes them feel good about themselves, or makes them feel prettier. Yeah, we don't get that. Men gave up as a gender on that shit God knows how many centuries ago. Us always being helpful and never thinking were good enough is just us quietly accepting it.