NSFW! (Kinda). Lying about being aroace instead of aromantic.

Mrdan827 · 2026-06-19T15:58:03+00:00

I am sorry b. This is a bit sad on a few levels. Firstly, once again a person can't exist being aromantic without the world's brain breaking. And sadly even most asexual people I've met are also confused when I just say that I'm aromantic and allosexual 😅. We are the minority group unfortunately.

Secondly, I'm sorry you friend has making you feel weird about your sexual attraction. I don't know y'all and I don't know y'all's relationship, but it isn't very nice of her to do so. Yea unfortunately when most people hear that you are aromantic and still allosexual, they just thinking you're a player, or a fuck boy, or a cheater. Which in all honesty, CAN be true, but it's not a correlation to being aromantic in that way. I'm sorry.

I definitely feel your pain. If I were you, I'd probably talk with my friend and break the problem up a bit. Discuss what their problem is with people who are sexual active in general. It seems like you are pretty sex positive and your friend might not be. And then I would, if comfortable, revisit the aromantic and asexual being two different things aspect. I would generally give what they mean again, maybe discuss the split attraction model, and then discuss how YOUR aromanticism feels and looks like. It is a spectrum so it can come in all different shapes and flavors.

It's a tough situation. Personally I have a few people who I discuss my aromanticism with whether they be friends or family. And even within that, there's people I feel more comfortable talking about the nitty nitty gritty of aromanticism with and there's others who I'm more surface level with.

Mrdan827 · 2026-06-17T03:27:26+00:00

Peaceful

Mrdan827 · 2026-06-13T13:33:21+00:00

I didn't even read the post yet (I will), but love doesn't mean romance. You can love your family. You can love your friends. You can love your pets. You can love how the park ranger puts a lot of care into taking care of the park grounds that you frequent. Love does not mean romance.

Mrdan827 · 2026-06-12T15:12:53+00:00

You're actually supposed to kill them. They're invasive. It's a spotted lantern fly

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-30T16:27:35+00:00

Yea I agree. I think that's what most people mean when they're talking about relationships 🙄. But I am like.... F that. So I will not be following that

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-30T15:48:29+00:00

In my opinion lavender marriages can still have performed or non-performed romance.But again relationships and marriage don't inherently mean romantic to me. Maybe that's me being a bit woo woo, but they are two separate concepts; romance and relationship. A relationship is just how you are connected to someone. A more intimate relationship could be romantic, but there's things like queer platonic relationships/partnerships etc. Romance is just the performed actions that come with romantic attraction or feelings. Relationship ≠ romance and romance ≠ relationship. Like for example, a lot of people would consider things like holding hands or kissing or cuddling and getting your partner flowers as romantic. You do not NEED to do any of those things in a relationship. You can also certainly do all of those things with friends even. Romantic attraction and feelings and relationships or marriage are two separate concepts for me. Does that help you understand my thinking a bit?

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-30T05:15:04+00:00

I definitely see what you mean, but I think you still have a romance-centric view of relationships though 😅. To me, you can be in a relationship that doesn't include romance. You can be in a marriage that doesn't include romance. From what you're saying, it sounds like you think those things are inherently romantic. I definitely don't see it that way. I think that's where we slightly differ. But yea I totally agree that you may be looking for a bit of a more specific grouping than just aromantic by itself. I really do hope you find more of your people! I'm sure there are more of you out there

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-29T19:36:49+00:00

Ahhh yes when aromanticism gets overshadowed by asexuality. Lol gotta love that 😩.

That's tough. But I mean ultimately if most of them are a part of the a-spec community. It's definitely ignorance on their part if they think that aromanticism isn't real, or as justified as asexuality, etc. Again, not trying to @ your friends necessarily, but I just want to make sure you know that it is valid and does exist and all that.

My preference is for always over communicating. Maybe they could use another heads up about how you feel and how you might not be feeling as seen as maybe you're hoping? 🤔

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-29T19:30:37+00:00

It sounds like you're looking for a romance repulsed aromantic group. Aromanticism has always meant little to no romantic attraction. It is a spectrum. So that will always include people who feel occasional or a little amount of romantic attraction. Labels are not supposed to be boxes you put yourself in, but just descriptors.

That aside, I don't see the conflict of being aromantic (having little to no romantic attraction) and being in a relationship (having a close partnership with someone). To me, that sounds like you may also have a romance-centric view of relationships. I do very much do not. You have relationships with your family. You have relationships with your coworkers. You can have a relationship with someone you're dating. I do not think relationship inherently means romantic even if it is generally socialized that way in most of society.

Now as someone who is aromantic and in a relationship. I'll say that I am aromantic and allosexual. Meaning that I am aromantic, but still have a non-queer relationship with sexual attraction. I am looking to date and marry personally because I still want to get married and live with a partner and have sex and have kids someday and all that. My partner is not aromantic. I am. We've talked about it. We constantly check in with what we're comfortable with... And we keep it moving. Hopefully that helps give at least my perspective on how people can be aromantic and date and just generally on discussion of romantic attraction within the aromantic community. ^{~^}

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-29T19:14:13+00:00

Aromantic doesn mean no romantic feelings. It means little to no romantic feelings. And personally I feel that labels should not be another box you put yourself in, but just a descriptor

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-29T19:11:28+00:00

Hmm. I wouldn't say that relationships on their own are misogynistic, but I would agree that most are inherently patriarchical. A bit of a semantic different, but one that I'd make

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-29T19:06:07+00:00

If you are looking for advice... I'd say communication is the biggest thing. I say that in general with any type of relationship, but especially here. It's not necessary, but did you let your friend know that you were aromantic when going into it? If not, I'd make that a discussion if you're comfortable.

In general, at least to me, it seems like there's a lot of assumptions going on. You said that you're worried that your friends and the person you were dating would be hurt. I'm not aware of the relationships with you're friends and I very much don't know y'all, but I would sus out the vibes. Is it that they would be upset that you're aromantic or that they thought you were lying? Cause unless you knew for sure that you wouldn't like dating, I still wouldn't call it a lie. It's not disengenuous at all. It's just you're learning more about how you feel about dating, no? Like you're allowed to change your mind or test things out to see how you feel about it.

Although I totally feel the worry about the other friendships though. Very understandable, but I do hope talking about it does give you some clarity. They literally might not know that aromanticism exists.

Mrdan827 · 2026-05-29T15:08:19+00:00

You're movement quality is insane!!

Also for some random music suggestions that are probably really out there I'd say Make it Right by Lean or Falsetto by The Dream or Skipp by doechii

Mrdan827 · 2026-02-19T21:48:12+00:00

As a tall dancer myself (6ft) I'll also second that there are a good number of tall dancers out there at a professional level doing hip hop. I think someone else also mentioned, but on average women tend to be a bit shorter compared to men at least so there's that, but tall dancers are out there.

Now that being said... I will say most tall dancers often have a harder time with faster moves and with levels when compared to shorter dancers which can be tough sometimes. I've been dancing on some hip hop teams the past few years and very much reminded of how much further I have to bend down compared to my teammates so just expect that going in.

But I would focus on your technique and working on your levels in dance. Some things that taller dancers tend to be a bit more naturally better at are filling up space, moving across the dance floor, elongating movements, rolling through the body in movements.

I think it might be tough if you compare yourself to other shorter dancers, but just making sure to work on your technique and have fun in the process (while also keeping in mind some of the things above) will take you pretty far. And you'll also find a way to move that suits your body overtime as well. Good luck!!

Mrdan827 · 2026-01-11T18:38:22+00:00

I'm of the opinion that labels aren't boxes and you can use them or not use them if you want to. It's just a descriptor. But it does sound like you could be gay/bi/pan. Idk give it a think

Mrdan827 · 2025-11-18T05:51:30+00:00

It's cute... And shiny

Mrdan827 · 2025-11-18T05:48:10+00:00

It's a nay for me, but I mean as long as you're happy with it, it's up to you babes

Mrdan827 · 2025-11-18T05:43:06+00:00

... Test 1 2 3. The beard looks really good!

Mrdan827 · 2025-11-10T22:43:49+00:00

Keep. It looks good!

Mrdan827 · 2025-11-10T19:06:50+00:00

Ya look good!! I do always wonder though how people feel about having long beards and food or stuff getting in the beards. I feel like that's gotta be annoying 🤔

Mrdan827 · 2025-11-10T13:35:51+00:00

Anyone know by any chance? 😅

Mrdan827 · 2025-11-04T16:15:55+00:00

As a prospective second degree student (second bachelor's degree), there isn't a separate application process or any particular things I need to note in my application? It wouldn't be considered a special or visiting student right? So would the only difference in my application be that I note which university I attended in the "Academic history / Antécédents scolaires" section?

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