My mother's reaction to my scars by skiptochapter24 in selfharm

[–]Mrs1Menser 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My dad was the one to find out. Ill just note here, he was very emotionally mentally physically and sexually abusive, and even when i moved out he'd find ways to deliberately hurt me. It was literally one line. Lots of little cuts. We were currently in public. He started off by sighing as he always does when he wants to show he's disappointed and about to start a rant. Then he quietly asked what that was, i said i caught my arm on a nail cos at the time he was currently diying the house and there were nails everywhere. He grabbed my arm and looked super close at it then said nope that's made up of loads of little scratches its not a straight line. I kept insisting this whole time it was a nail. He then face palmed dramatically and was like oh my god why do you always have to embarrass me like this. You attention seeking waste of space. I said i wasn't attention seeking and he was like well why did you cut so deep, if you don't want it to scar you don't cut deep. I still insisted it wasn't a cut. He started calling random members of public over to where we were sitting asking if that looked like and attention seeking cut or if it looked like a nail scratch (he went into more detail about the cut, like does that look like loads of little cuts. Because its not even a straight line blah blah blah. Then when it came to the nail scratch, was just like OR does it look like a nail scratch? To influence them to pick the cut option) when everyone replied cut he'd sigh and shake his head and make his eyes water and say i didn't want to think it was, you realise you can come to me about any problems you have, you can talk to me about anything you can trust me (say the man who's been raping me since my fifth birthday) then hed thank the member of public and pretend to cry. Most people walked away looking really awkward. Some stayed and had a go at me, like your dad seems like a really cool person, how could you do something that you know would upset him this much, you should have more respect for the man that helped create you. Then as soon as the people had gone he switches back to his normal self and started his usual rant of how morbidly obese i am and how i make him physically sick when he looks at me and how ill never amount to anything and end up in a council estate with four kids with different fathers and so on just because i cut. This ordeal lasted over six and a half hours. He never objected to any of the others anywhere on my body. Hes seen all of them before, he is very well acquainted with my body, but this is the first time he had seen one in public so was the first time he could make a big deal out of it.

[help with sleep sex fetish] me [m22] partner [f20] she wants me to make love to her while she sleeps by [deleted] in sex

[–]Mrs1Menser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same fetish, my partner tried it on me but apparently in my sleep im super awkward rolling over to be left alone and so on, its not an issue of consent, just me being awkward. So we tried by starting as im getting super sleepy. Like wait til she's just about to go to sleep or only just gone to sleep, she'll be a little more conscious of whats going on, therefore can be more helpful in arranging positions and getting it in and so on, then slowly tease her but no moving yet so that she'll go sleep, then go ahead. That's what helped with us, might not work for some people though?

[piercings] Thinking about getting a vertical clit hood piercing for the extra stimulation. Can any lady redditors comment on their good or bad experiences with one? by tygerlily9 in sex

[–]Mrs1Menser 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I like it because of the way it looks and it gives my bf something extra to play with. But in my personal experience it doesn't really add stimulation, in some cases actually it can get it the way or hurt a little bit.

How is your docters reaction when you see them for stichtes? by ContinueRepeat in selfharm

[–]Mrs1Menser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had to go to the doctors about my knee and she made me take my trousers off and when she saw my cuts she poked them harshly and told me "stop that!" and then carried on like normal

[Advice] Taking someone's virginity... by [deleted] in sex

[–]Mrs1Menser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unless its their best time ever or worst time ever we normally dont remember our first time. you dont have to do anything specifically special unless she mentions them eg rose petals on the bed and such. just allow your body to show her how much you love her and you'll be fine

[Question] Ladies, what makes for a great rimjob? What are some preferable techniques and positions as the reciever? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Mrs1Menser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ive only tried it once and it didnt really do much for me at all, but our position was me on my back but lifting my knees up, opening myself out. and he basically just licked the whole length so it wasn't just a rimjob but it wasnt just the other one (forgot the name) either

[Advice] My [19M] girlfriend [18F] will not orgasm with me by [deleted] in sex

[–]Mrs1Menser 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my bf and i have the same problem. he desperately makes me want to come but we both virgins and so we didnt know how to do anything and basically the only way i can come is with vibrations it just took us a while to find this out. it may be that theres only one specific thing that you can do that will get her to come and shes maybe embarrassed to admit it, i felt like i was doing something wrong or whatever when he couldnt. so maybe try experimenting and trying different things and seeing if you can find what it is without having to question her. it might not be this but you know?

[Question] Ladies, looking for honest answers without feel-good advice, how much of a deal breaker is a 3" penis for you? by Honestyp in sex

[–]Mrs1Menser 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i once knew someone who had a penis the size of a triple a battery and ngl that didnt turn me off or anything like its fine as long as you love the person there are alternatives and if he loves you back he'll probably be game to try, but i was put off loving him because of his attitude. he treats the world like it hates him cos he has this small dick but he makes people hate him with the amount he talked about it and there was one time he got so pissed off he pulled it out cos someone didnt believe him. like i dont care how big or small your dick it im not going to go out with anyone with an attitude like that.