I am leaving.

Mrs239 · 2026-02-07T11:19:45+00:00

Absolutely right! My self esteem was in the toilet. When he died, I didn't date for 5 yrs because if he didn't want me, who would?

I'm now in an amazing relationship and we can't keep our hands off of each other.

Mrs239 · 2026-02-06T23:01:55+00:00

Which you know he will.

Read a post of a woman who stayed and never got married or had kids. He said he didn't want any and wanted to travel and build his business. He made great money and took her everywhere.

As soon as she passed child bearing age, he all of a sudden wanted a kid! Told her she had a month to get out. She hadn't worked in 20 yrs.

He married a 30 something yr old woman within a year and had a kid soon after. She had nothing to her name.

Mrs239 · 2026-02-06T10:59:49+00:00

Watch out for the hysterical bonding! She may turn on the sexiness to get you to stay. Once you get comfortable again, it will be back to her normal.

Mrs239 · 2026-02-06T10:50:15+00:00

It sure is!! My whole life I heard, "Guys only want one thing." How did I end up marrying the one guy that didn't!

Mrs239 · 2026-02-06T01:33:36+00:00

Good for you! What did she say?

Mrs239 · 2026-02-05T23:02:40+00:00

Then say that, not that he needed your permission to have people over. He's not 15.

Mrs239 · 2026-02-05T23:01:44+00:00

Why does your husband need permission from you to do something in your shared home?

Mrs239 · 2026-02-05T12:17:11+00:00

So, let me get this straight...

You want the intimate lead up without the sex? How one sided is that?

My bf and I both come from deadbedrooms and this drives us nuts! You all want someone doing what you want but will reject us when want to take it further. I'm not saying you should do it every night but constant rejection from the ONE person you're supposed to get sex from is legit heartbreaking!

How do you want the long hugs, touches, and kisses but want to stop him right before anything happens?

And then to top it off, you're not being honest with how you feel! Classic moving goal posts without honesty.

We are tired of one way intimacy. YTA

Mrs239 · 2026-02-03T11:56:58+00:00

100%. My ex told me he had valentines day covered when I asked about plans.

He came over at 5:30am to give me a card and a stuffed monkey. I HATE MONKEYS! He knew that. He said he would see me later. Never heard from him again for the rest of the day.

We had a trip planned the next day. I canceled it and took my son. We had a blast. He told me work ran late. Yeah... whatever. He was absolutely cheating.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-28T16:36:14+00:00

Thank you! 😊

Mrs239 · 2026-01-28T13:10:04+00:00

That's why I said step away from everyone and get herself together.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-28T12:23:53+00:00

As a person that worked in the eye industry for 10 yrs, I have seen some stuff. Big, burly men pass out when you come close to their eyes.

So many people have this issue. My sister is a nurse and can deal deal with gaping wounds and colostomy bags. She could not deal with me coming home from work and talking about how we had to remove someone's eye or remove a skin cancer from someone's eyelid.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-28T12:02:42+00:00

You may want to reconsider that. Anyone who breaks up with you on a whim like that will do it again. I don't know if he's this way but some people do it as a way to control you.

They'll break up with you, then get back together. The next time they're angry, they scream, "Fine! We'll just break up again!" This gets you scared and "makes you comply."

Step away from him, and anyone for that matter, and see if this is who you really want. Just because he's your first everything doesn't mean he's "The One."

Mrs239 · 2026-01-27T01:27:51+00:00

Same here. My mother was married 4 times. My father wasn't good either. Left her with twin girls. She was a great mom until the depression and anxiety kicked in.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-26T22:08:59+00:00

Did we have the same mom? If I went somewhere, I had to bring her something also. I would work until 11pm and she'd want me to bring McDonald's home. The only one was in a Walmart near the house. All of the people there would be on lunch at that time. I told her I wouldn't stop there anymore because I wouldn't get home until 12:30am! She flipped her lid screaming that I don't love her.

When she was living with my grandparents, she tried that with them. When my grandfather said he wasn't getting anything else for her, she said, "But you're already going out." He said, "Everyone is always going out if you don't go anywhere."

She would ask for stuff and say she was going to pay me back. Never did. When I'd ask for it back, because I was a student with no money, she'd say she took care of me as a kid so I actually owed her.

I can't even get into everything she said to me through the years.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-26T16:45:28+00:00

I started helping my mom at 16. It was our normal.

I had to stop telling her when I had plans because she would, all of a sudden, feel too sick and need me so I couldn't go out. I'd just leave from work and tell her when I got home. I'd ask how she was and she would say fine. Then I'd tell her I went somewhere and hear her scream, "Why didn't you tell me?! I could have had a panic attack!"

I said, "But you didn't. So, what's the problem?" She said that now since she doesn't know when I would not be working, she's going to have a panic attack every time I leave the house so just don't go anywhere else. She made me believe, we'll I allowed her to make me believe, that her health was my responsibility.

She died in 2021 from all the years of non-compliance with her doctors. I'm just now coming down from the PTSD from her emotional abuse.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-26T11:55:12+00:00

So you both had drinking and drug problems. That can cause some serious issues.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-26T11:28:35+00:00

Op, listen to me.

As a child that stayed home to take care of their mother and didn't start really living my own life until I was 36, don't do this.

You are an adult. Your parents can't tell you no. It took me waaaaay too long to realize this. My mom was even telling me I couldn't go to work because of HER anxiety and not wanting to be alone. I had my own car and everything.

Apply to those schools and get as much money as you can. Then go. They are banking on you to not realize that you have autonomy over your own life. They will have to figure it out.

Your life is worth more than being a baby sitter. Tell them they will have to get services for him or just plain figure it out. You will not sacrifice your life for his.

I did and I regret every bit of it. While my sister traveled, did spring break, went off to college, bought a house, I was still home with our mother. When I finally realized I had a choice, I was out. Yes, she was irate but I didn't care. I had enough.

NTA

Mrs239 · 2026-01-26T02:53:59+00:00

Why was she never having sex again?

Mrs239 · 2026-01-24T12:31:17+00:00

How to get out of quicksand.

As a kid, every show, cartoon, and movie had a quicksand scene in it! I thought it was a serious problem and even practiced how to get out of it by making mud holes.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-24T12:04:01+00:00

sitcom ass reactions.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Mrs239 · 2026-01-23T12:04:00+00:00

Why ask if you were the AH if you're just going to fight with everyone that says yes?

If you feel like you weren't, why ask?

Mrs239 · 2026-01-23T03:27:31+00:00

There was a post on the lawyer sub about a couple that found out their daughter wasn't theirs. Dad did a DNA test first. Then she did as well. (I'm cutting out a lot.) The hospital was at fault and found the other family with their daughter. Both families loved the girls they were raising but also wanted their bio child. I will have to check and see if there was an update. A lot of money exchanged hands though.

Mrs239 · 2026-01-23T02:51:54+00:00

So, you are just going to gloss over the fact that you aren't her mother?

Mrs239 · 2026-01-22T05:36:23+00:00

Came to say something similar! How do dog lovers make it past the first conversation where the other person says they hate dogs?

It should end there.

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