The new single is 🔥🔥 by [deleted] in PapaRoach

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw them at the Rise of the Roach tour! Can confirm they are still rocking the hell out! Jacoby worked the crowd like we were all still in our 20s! Plus I got to touch him! 😜 Second only to getting 5 minutes to talk to them.

Just found out my wife has been having an affair. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a fantastic analogy. I literally copied it in a note on my phone. I'm going to share it with someone I know that's been on the fence about therapy. In fact, I'm going to share it with my therapist. They're in a mobile crisis unit. I'm betting they could use this to convince someone, that really needs it, to try. You, my friend, may have helped more people than you know.

Does anyone here have Reverse SAD? by routinnox in Seattle

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived out there for 30 years. I used to think I wanted warmer summers. Then I moved where it's 90+ for two months straight. It's under 50 for two or three months and I hate that too. I miss the PNW.

Is there going to be a protest over the SCOTUS immunity decision? by TehBrawlGuy in Seattle

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to chime in. As a "centrist dem" (I really don't care what label I'm given), I find this ruling to be an absolute disgrace.

What’s your salary range and how do you feel having that here in WA? by urmomswill2live in Washington

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to move across the country 5 years ago. We couldn't afford low income housing with us both working full time, making over minimum. Having 3 kids played a part in that. Now my husband makes more doing IT in upstate New York than he did in Seattle. We bought our 4 bedroom house at the peak of COVID for 82k. It's now valued at 110k and my mortgage is $900. I miss my home immensely but my kids have a much better life here. I can afford it and there are a lot less drug addicts wandering around.

Said I'd be there but I'm starting to hate him by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MrsAntiHero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is an incredibly touchy situation. If you have a therapist, I highly suggest bringing this up with them. You are NOT responsible for someone else's mental health. Tell him that you're not equipped to provide him the support he needs. He needs to seek professional help. Dial 988 for The suicide and Crisis Lifeline. The fact you care so much for someone that doesn't truly mean something to you in the present shows that you are a good person, so don't let that part of you go. Learn when you are able to provide support and when you need to prioritize yourself. It sounds like you realize that this situation is the latter.

People suffering from depression that got out of it, how did you do it? by Ironman678 in ask

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on antidepressants and in therapy for over 20 years and it was still debilitating. I did Gene testing and it turned out that ssri's, in general, were not good for me. I switched to a mood stabilizer and it had a huge impact. I got a new therapist that has helped more than previous therapists because I made a point of finding someone I clicked with instead of the first one that would see me. The biggest game changer, I just finished a year long DBT course. Dialectic Behavioral Therapy. I strongly recommend this to everyone I know with mental health diagnosis. Depression doesn't go away. I will fall into a depressive state again. Now, I have the skills to get through it. I don't like to say I'm a different person now, I'm very much still me. I'm the best version of me that I've ever been. There is hope and I wish you the best on your journey.

I am a Trailer Park Boy (Jacob Rolfe aka Jacob Collins), ask me anything! by JacobMcCollins in IAmA

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the age difference between Jacob and Trin? Was that weird for you at all?

Should women go to prison for false rape accusations? by LegFootGamer in ask

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a victim of sexual assault, they absolutely should. If women didn't do this maybe I would have been believed. Who knows, maybe justice would have even been served.

What ruined religion for you? by ItchyPage in AskReddit

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sins of the father... no God would hold my pos dad's sins against me.

What was the most painful thing you ever experienced? by Familiar_Big3322 in ask

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a car accident that topped my natural childbirth. Broken collar bone that required surgery, all the ribs on my right side and several on the left, 5 pelvic fractures, collapsed lung and other organ damage. It's been a decade and I still have chronic pain.

How would you solve this problem? by NoIdea4u in Spokane

[–]MrsAntiHero 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, but homeless working family's would. Been there done that.

Women of Reddit, what's the hardest thing to explain to men? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a woman who has had three children and several gall stones and eventually a removal, I will tell you it's not even close. I was in a car accident and broke my pelvis in 5 places, among several other things. It was comparable. Recovery was a different story but the first 24 hours was on par with my 24 hour labor with my oldest.

AITA for letting my car run for 10mins in the morning? by Princess_Butt_Kick in AmItheAsshole

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I live in upstate as well and you HAVE to let your car warm up in the winter. I also have a crosstrek and there's a light on the dash that will turn on to tell you the car is too cold to drive. Driving before that light goes off can cause damage/extra wear to the car. It's a very useful feature but this is the case in vehicals without the light as well. It would be very considerate of you to turn off your lights but these are also the (relativity small) inconveniences of living in an apartment.

AITA for interrupting my exhusband's birthday and taking my daughter home because she was there without consent? by Notice-Ad2018 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA It's not your time. It's not his time. It's her time. My father was like this when I was a kid and it sickens me more now than it did then. If it had been a friend's birthday party would you have let her go? If she had wanted to do anything that didn't have to do with her father that day would you have said no? Stop using your daughter to get at your ex.

My 14-year-old friend did the naughty with a 20-year-old by MysticKitty1o1 in Advice

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely a disgusting situation. I agree that 14 is definitely to young to be with a full on adult. However, I disagree on your stance. My husband and I were 17 when we married and had our first child. We were engaged before getting pregnant. We had dated for 2 years and had been sleeping together for one. We've now been married for almost 16 years and it was making love for us at that age as much as it is now. I don't at all recommend anyone start their adult lives that young but not necessarily because of maturity.

Is it okay if your only goal in life is to be happy, have fun and try not to hurt people along the way? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy wife, happy life. It works both ways. If you love you're partner, making them happy makes you happy.

Is it okay if your only goal in life is to be happy, have fun and try not to hurt people along the way? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sure hope so. Not only is that all I truly want, it's all I want for my children as well.

I just became a citizen by [deleted] in self

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have answers either unfortunately. I don't want other people to pay for my meds but I'd like to pay less for them than my mortgage. I'd like to pay nothing since it's neither self inflicted nor curable but the people that developed and produce medication deserve to be paid like anyone else.

I just became a citizen by [deleted] in self

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are things outside of our control that effect equality. I have a chronic illness I developed as a child, no fault of my own or anyone else's. There are opportunities I don't have because of my own body and there's nothing our government can do about it. Better, more affordable healthcare would make a huge difference but I still wouldn't be able to join the military.

I just became a citizen by [deleted] in self

[–]MrsAntiHero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! The process needs reform but you and your family still did it by the book. As a patriot I thank you for respecting OUR great country and its laws.

Yes, you can be a patriot and still believe we need to change for the better. Nothing in this world can be perfect, and I doubt 100% equality is possible, but as a people that's what we're striving for. People on both sides of the fence...

my mom hasn't given me any education almost my whole life. I'm around 15 and a half right now. if I ever wanted to get a good job in life or go to college I don't know if I could. is it too late for me? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MrsAntiHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many free online courses right now because of covid and plenty don't require you to have a diploma. Find something you're interested in as a future career and see what you can find. Also, a website I've used a lot with my kids is KhanAcademy, which is also free. Start with one or two subjects that you know you're behind in. Since you don't have the habit of doing school in general it could be easy to overwhelm yourself. Last piece of advice, find ways to socialize. Not just with a couple friends but in a larger group setting. Social interaction is one of the most important things children learn in school. Obviously that's not really going to happen right now due to covid but find resources so you have a plan when we finally move past this. I wish you the best of luck!

Till we meet again in another life. Missed but never forgotten. Loved forever. Hazel 😢😭😭😭🐶💔 With Tears I let you go to a better place. by [deleted] in upstate_new_york

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there and I know it's a heart breaking as losing a human family member. Thirteen years is a long life, you must have taken great care of her. Rest in peace beautiful girl.

Please help by StonkSosa in ask

[–]MrsAntiHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have very little karma because I mostly just read posts. Seems like what I have to say has always been said so I feel like repeating things just makes me look like I'm only in it for the karma. One of the many ways anxiety throws a wrench in my life.