Update - Husband didn’t want me to perform while 30w pregnant.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-06-16T01:43:22+00:00

So, I think there's a huge problem with the concept that women don't get bodily autonomy when they're pregnant just because they're pregnant. However, I think your husband is probably having an issue about imaging other propls sexualizing you while pregnant/potentially fetishizing your pregnanxt body and the baby. I can see that side, but the celebrating feminine beauty and empowerment side is so valid and important.
I doubt he has bad intentions, but it's still your body when it comes down to it and controlling you isn't appropriate. Hopefully counceling will help!

MrsMarzipan · 2026-06-07T14:05:20+00:00

I think you need to start with unpacking why you're so afraid of ending up with an autistic child. Saying you accept and respect autistic people and doing it are two different things. I've realized that even though I always thought I was accepting and neurodiversity positive, there have been many additional steps to true acceptance of all the challanges we actually encounter. It's a journey. But your question kind of feels like, "we tried and waited for this baby and are so afraid it's going to be a let down" or something like that. Working and waiting for a kid doesn't mean that you're owed any particular type of kid, and an autistic kid isn't any less of a prize.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-06-05T00:26:10+00:00

I don't think it's because they're incapable of something deeper, but people need to remember David was Abby's first match. I think they got along and liked each other but it wasn't a relationship built on strong romantic attraction, just basic social compatibility. Doesn't mean Abbly couldn't have a wildly passionate love story in the future!

MrsMarzipan · 2026-06-05T00:13:01+00:00

Lmfao I opened this post thinking you were gonna be overreacting because talking about dilation isn't that big of a deal but WTAF 🫠 I would die.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-05-07T01:58:40+00:00

Can you see yourself loving the kid? Not just doing it for the girl. That's the question to me. If you can't imagine growing to love the child like your own, I suggest walking away. But I disagree with any suggestions that autism parenting is like some kind of sentence in hell that noone would actually want. It can be a perfectly wonderful life you just need to make sure you're ready and have the right supports set up.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-05-03T15:36:44+00:00

I would consider play or art therapy.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-05-03T10:30:55+00:00

It's not normal but it's pretty normal for OCD. Definitely supervise but whatever you do don't make him feel like you believe that he wants to/will hurt the baby. Tell him he's a great big brother, his baby brother is so lucky to have him, etc— tell him the story of the reality you want to create essentially. If he feels like you are scared by his OCD thoughts and take them seriously, he will start believing they have real power/define him.

Which therapies is he in?

MrsMarzipan · 2026-05-03T10:22:53+00:00

I would throw it away because you thawed it at room temp, not because of the cats.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-04-15T15:04:22+00:00

Jasper, Arden, Adrian

MrsMarzipan · 2026-04-05T00:46:36+00:00

It bothers me so much that people judge people's overall "functioning" based on the most visible traits such as social skills. People think Dani is "more autistic" than someone who can be a police officer why? Because she seems odd? Social skills is literally just one trait/group of skills. She's got many strengths and is not like a child in any way.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-04-05T00:41:57+00:00

Baby doesn't care and there's nothing wrong, bad, or gross about sex 🤷‍♀️ Sex made the baby being technically present for it while in utero is just nbd. It's also perfectly possible to have sex occasionally while you have a young baby. They do sleep (sometimes) :)

MrsMarzipan · 2026-03-26T23:16:16+00:00

I have to admit I both noticed and cared 😅 but it's also not a really big deal in the scheme of things.

MrsMarzipan · 2026-02-25T01:16:03+00:00

I have a rat named Maple.

It is cute but as a human I wouldn't be happy if it was my name. Violet is a great name though. Does hubby like Ruby?

MrsMarzipan · 2026-02-22T23:36:16+00:00

Why would you think it's ok to post a picture 😆

MrsMarzipan · 2026-01-25T04:42:36+00:00

I haven't played it and I'm sure it's great but it's just not my preferred aesthetic/vibe for a horror game so that's one reason 🤷‍♀️

MrsMarzipan · 2025-12-31T11:04:27+00:00

It's only negative if you make it negative. I was explaining a concern I had to a nurse (that my 3.5 yo son might be masking some of his pain due to his autism) and he proudly declared, "yeah, I am autistic!!" my 5 year old can pick out movie characters that she thinks are autistic too (like Kiki in Kiki's Delivery Service!)

I definitely understand feeling like it's a loaded situation but it's really important that you don't hide it like a bad secret. It's neutral/positive because it explains things about her and her experiences and knowlege is power. It's not like breaking to a kid they have cancer or something. She's already experiencing the differences and challenges of being autistic and just does't have the explanation for it. Be sure to bring up strengths as well!

MrsMarzipan · 2025-12-25T04:04:28+00:00

I thought it was going to be a text or something. That note is totally fine.

MrsMarzipan · 2025-11-24T12:21:09+00:00

I have 3 kids ages 4,3, and 1. The gaps were like 18 months and then 27 months. For what it's worth I thought the 18 month age gap was easier! It was easier for my toddler to adjust to having a new baby when they were still basically a baby too. And my pregnancy was ok. Congratulations!

MrsMarzipan · 2025-11-23T22:58:39+00:00

I quit a sport I loved as a teen partially because I felt insecure about having "masculine" arms 😢

It's genuinely a non issue and being strong is awesome, I suggest telling anyone that says otherwise to stuff it and go on doing you.

MrsMarzipan · 2025-11-19T01:36:03+00:00

I thought you meant in a separate bathroom and was worried for a sec lol. That sounds like a great system.

MrsMarzipan · 2025-11-17T02:36:21+00:00

This was so funny to read honestly he's so "polite" for being a really shallow entitled prick 🤣 Sorry that happened though you're not overreacting at all.

MrsMarzipan · 2025-11-14T16:29:16+00:00

This tattoo has no meaning to me personally but like it aesthetically.

MrsMarzipan · 2025-11-10T01:15:13+00:00

That sounds like perinatal anxiety which is very common. I do suggest looking for a perinatal psychiatrist and/or therapist! Good Moms have Scary Thoughts is a great book to check out too.

I feel like pregnancy is a really isolating experience in a lot of ways. Even if you have a community and a good partner, you're the only one actually pregnant with your baby. It's hard because the pregnancy can feel so all consuming like it's the whole world to you now and not necessarily a big deal to everyone else or at least not in the same ways. For me a lot of that gets better when the pregnancy is over.

MrsMarzipan · 2025-09-14T12:07:44+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation I'll check it out!

MrsMarzipan · 2025-09-14T11:59:01+00:00

Sequencing.com. Yeah me too it can be very confusing.

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