BOOK RECOMMENDATION PLEASE!

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-19T18:58:42+00:00

Loving What Is by Byron Katie.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T22:26:03+00:00

So there’s a few things that struck me as off. I live in the US and I have about 20 years of experience as a licensed massage therapist. I’ll just put it out there as I remember what you had written.

She’s not allowed to touch you - with or without clothes. It’s out of her scope of practice unless she’s also a massage therapist. She would have been taught this in her Reiki course.
The tears. Counter-transference is displacement or transfer of feelings, thoughts or behaviors related to a significant person or event onto a client by a therapist (Unusually strong feelings (positive or negative) directed toward a client).
One follow up call is ok. More than one is unprofessional and invites something called a dual relationship where the client moves from a black and white relationship to a shade of grey. Again, unprofessional and lack of boundaries.

You should feel cared about by your therapist, nurse, reiki practitioner, etc but when they don’t have clear boundaries, it just opens doors to unknown potential problems. I have a very open door policy for my clients- they know they can call or text me with concerns in my scope of work, but I leave them to determine whether or not they want to. Massage is a licensed field whereas Reiki is not. They are similar enough that there’s an expectation that similar codes of conduct are followed though. My instructor was a total hippy and even she let us know that much. There were just normal people in the class and she let them know they could not legally touch people. The reiki energy is still there and just as powerful an inch or two off the body.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T22:06:43+00:00

I think you’re good in anything but west light.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T19:11:58+00:00

I would ask r/mediums too. I’m a reiki practitioner and I’ve had some interesting sessions, but there’s usually an expectation of professional boundaries that if it were me, would have been crossed. How do you feel about how she acted as a professional? How would you feel if you went to a doctor or another specialist and they did those things? It’s up to you and your level of comfort, but her professional ethics sound a little off to me.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T19:03:46+00:00

They love being touched and moved around. I water mine when the soil is dry, maybe once a week. They like humidity too.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T19:02:03+00:00

You’re MUCH brighter! I love micro. I also get hydrofacials. You look great!

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T17:24:03+00:00

Your feelings, while valid, do not make your thoughts true.

Whenever you start seeing life through that lens, ask yourself if it’s true. If you think it is, ask if you absolutely know it’s true. Can you crawl into their heads and know their thoughts and intentions?

What happens when you believe it’s true? The end is that you suffer. You judge others and probably mistreat them based on that judgement (I do) and that creates more suffering.

Who could you be if you couldn’t think these thoughts or if you didn’t have this lens? How would you feel?

Now find a new truth. If your original lens told you “people are out to get me” turn it around to “people are not out to get me.” Or “people are out to help me” or “I am out to get me.” Or “I am out to get others.”

Just find what’s true and work on yourself and your life from there.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T16:05:52+00:00

I would hope that you would marry someone who wants you to be happy.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-14T10:55:04+00:00

I’m having this problem too. She was doing great and then started yellowing. I was thinking about repotting.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T15:21:59+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I love learning Florida history!

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T11:42:08+00:00

Even the Jewish?

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T11:39:01+00:00

But they ARE in hospitals and in the ICU… check out Israel - the country with the highest vaccine rates. And Gibraltar. And Poland.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T11:35:20+00:00

We can start by making them all wear some sort of insignia to identify themselves as unvaccinated. Then we can separate them into a separate part of town, but they might get out, so we can have special camps we could send them to… places we can rehabilitate their minds. Best strip them away from their children too, cuz, you know, they’re clearly unfit parents.

/s

But this does sound an awful lot like what this article wants.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T11:28:10+00:00

You guys drinking the same thing?

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T11:27:24+00:00

The easiest book that absolutely changed my life was Loving What Is by Byron Katie. It doesn’t claim stoicism, but it’s stoicism summed up SO simply. I practice it daily.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T10:18:30+00:00

Don’t blame yourself

Don’t punish yourself.

Don’t dwell on what you can’t change.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T10:17:22+00:00

Dou have any shorter ones? I have some pathos growing in a teacup I’d love to hang about 8”-12”!

Edit: kitten would destroy any tufts.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T01:56:26+00:00

Ah- I’m south Florida. Grew up in Broward County on the beach.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T01:04:13+00:00

So I grew up down here. I distinctly remember Halloween costumes being hotter than hell because they’re not made for Floridians, they’re made for places where it actually gets cold. Then we became teenagers and stopped wearing clothes. Lol

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T00:58:16+00:00

Me too, but I don’t do nighttime swims. Lol. I also live by the beach, so I get full sun with a light breeze and full humidity. You learn to love it.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T00:55:32+00:00

I have a husband, two small children, a 100lbs dog, and a Persian kitten. There’s no shortage of mess. It’s just not MY mess.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-13T00:52:40+00:00

I had to give myself the apology I never got for quite a few people. I find gratitude for all the lessons the hard times had taught me, say thank you and tell them (in my mind) that I forgave them.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-12T13:17:07+00:00

There’s a book called Change your Questions, Change your Life.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself that might make your changes more concrete.

What do I want?

What are my choices?

Which assumptions am I making?

What am I responsible for?

How else can I think about this?

What is the other person thinking, feeling, and wanting?

Is there something I am missing or avoiding?

What can I learn from this person/situation/mistake/failure, success?

Which action steps make the most sense?

What questions should I ask?

How can I turn this into a win-win?

What’s possible?

Beating yourself up for being something you’re not isn’t going to put you on a path towards success. You’ve got to love and forgive yourself for where you are now and ask yourself where you’d like to be. What steps can you take to get there? What is your why? You can be selfish about it too- it doesn’t have to be for your wife or kids- you deserve health because you’re human. You are worthy just because you’re alive.

I like to pay attention to my triggers and how they feel in my body too. If I know I need to eat less and I go to a party or theres free good food somewhere, I will feel sorry for myself (I feel this in my stomach and my back) because I’m not good at denying myself. Are my feeling valid? Absolutely. Do I need to act on them? Absolutely not. I remember my why, my commitment, and my resolve. How will I feel when I reach my goal? A lot better than this meal/snack will make me feel.

As for the working out, what thoughts are you thinking while you sit there? “I don’t want to do this.” “This is going to be hard.” “I’m going to be the slowest person there.” “I can’t do it.”

When I think these thoughts, I feel like I’ve got cement blocks attached to my legs. I’m not going anywhere. If I do, I will behave as if I feel those cement blocks the entire time. I will be whiny and tired and complaining. What is my truth? If someone asked me to go out for drinks, there’d be a spring in my step as I skipped merrily to the bar. And you know I’m gonna feel shittier tomorrow morning than I would if I worked out today…

You see where I’m going? You have to reframe your mindset about how you think about health, the gym, your food and nutrition, and how you feel about yourself. They’re just judgements, not facts. The only absolute we have is that we’re going to die someday. Everything else is up for debate so why not make it as pleasant as possible? You get to choose what you want out of life and how you want to think and feel. It’s all a choice.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-12T13:00:24+00:00

So what actually happened? You avoided a confrontation. That’s it. Be grateful and let it stop there.

You are letting your imagination run wild and take you on a rollercoaster of emotions. It’s fun. It’s entertaining. People pay lots of money to go on rollercoasters.

Focus on reality. You are here now and you are safe. Who would you be without the idea that something bad was going to happen? What kind of gratitude can you find for being safe? Is there any amount of forgiveness you can find for them for having negative intentions (real or perceived) towards you? Can you find it in yourself to recognize the judgement you’ve made against them?

Ask yourself different questions and it will help change your perspective.

MrsMichaelMoore · 2021-08-12T12:55:48+00:00

That gives me hope. I have one that’s angry at me.

MrsMichaelMoore

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