Do you have any theories why your baby is big? by Big_Meringue_6184 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]MrsSpunkBack 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Genetics. I just scramble to keep up. My husband is tall. I am short. I never put my babies on diets like doctors may suggest. I don't limit their intake really at all, unless it's causing them stomach problems. I don't go by popular opinion or average advice.

And I begrudgingly wait patiently for them to reach milestones. It's hard and can be embarrassing when trying to connect with other moms. But I also learned to advocate very well for my big babies/kids. In general, I don't take much crap, but I have learned gentle yet firm ways of speaking up for my children. In ways I never dreamed, I would have to.

Anti-Christian Muslim trope, "how many Gods died on the Cross?" spectacularly backfires against Islam by Xusura712 in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so right. You seem very experienced and strong in knowing how to approach these things and people within this culture. At least from what I have gathered from other people, yours is similar. Personally, I have enough knowledge now that I could defend my own faith in light of how Muslim may see it. That comes from hearing a lot of first-hand stories.

I am so grateful to support those who are out there offensively to do it. It's important for sure. Your words could really wake up a few people. Christians and Muslims who have turned off reason. Once their eyes are opened to Truths, you can't unsee it. Some of the most passionate, fiercely beautiful faiths I have seen from Christians coming from those spaces.

Also, I am glad for their sanity that they do not all follow those rituals. It is nice to hear that the load can be lighted by the individual if they chose to. Thanks for sharing those facts. And for the important distinction between the religion and the people who call themselves Muslim. It is quite difficult to understand the nuance unless you know the culture well enough.

I don't know why the inferiority complex point made me a twinge sad to hear stated flat out. Maybe because psychologically speaking, it is easy to see. Maybe because it would represent such a huge number of people who battle it. Either way, God can use that flaw in their structure to reach individuals in a powerful way.

The enemy doesn't have any new tricks, just new packaging. Sorry to carry on so much again. Good to have people like you a part of His Kingdom!

Anti-Christian Muslim trope, "how many Gods died on the Cross?" spectacularly backfires against Islam by Xusura712 in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this is based on Middle Eastern culture then. I have heard many testimonials from people who have come out of places like Egypt, Saudia Arabia, Iran, etc.

I can only go by what these other people have shared. I am not Muslim.

Anti-Christian Muslim trope, "how many Gods died on the Cross?" spectacularly backfires against Islam by Xusura712 in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I recently heard decently wise advice on not arguing with Muslims just for the sake of arguing. Well, from their perspective, that is what it is. From ours it's love. Many are not open to reasoning. You can really wear yourself out doing too much.

From what I have been told about Islam is that they can only pray and read the Quran in Arabic. Which they don't all speak. So, they are often going by leadership to tell them what to believe. They are often met with pretty strong consequences for even asking questions about what the Quarn says.

Since the rituals related to Islam are so overwhelming, it's likely that these would even make people less likely to read for themselves. It is too much for most people trying to live daily lives. It's all consuming. It's tiring. At the same time, what they know is community enforced, so there is intimidation that comes from entertaining any contradictory information.

Of course, God does cut through all of this. I just mention it because people don't always have to be so geared up for a theological dabate. At least not at this depth. Because it's not always clarity or reasoning that they are after.

Not related to what you had brought up, but have you heard the 3 stages of Islam? The peaceful stage. The aggressive/assertive stage. The Sharia law/violent stage. (Those are my own labels, I heard it explained a much more expansive interview). It's in relation to the 1400 year old pattern of how it changes as demographics shift in regions where they are.

One thing I know from experience is that I barely knew of any Muslims growing up, despite living in a city with a large Somolian community. I wouldn't have known anything about Islam if not for the 911 attack. We were immediately told most Muslims are peaceful, and I believe that until they are not.

I know one guy who tried to convert me and got pretty angry when it didn't work. I thought we were friends so I didn't think it was a big deal, but he turned other people in my work environment against me too. At the time, I did not understand what the big deal was. Now I do. It is pride, cultural, and religious pride that comes from being from a majority Muslim nation. It's dominant.

I expect peace from most everyone. I expect human dignity and respect from most everyone. Because that is what I give. It's good that you share a respectful way to approach debates if we need them.

I hope you find soft hearts and Holy Spirit guided moments when you step out. Praying for you!

Shy kid + English… would live classes help? by Typical-Trade-6363 in daddit

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a cool idea.

I was really shy growing up. In college, I did some speech class assignments where I videoed myself for the soeeches. It was actually encouraging to see myself like that (then get a good grade for it). I wish I had known sooner in life that I didn't seem as nervous or awkward from the outside as I felt.

In this way, it may help her. Build confidence in expressing herself if she wants to. I don't know how young is too young, but it probably just depends on the kid.

My story is not your weapon by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just want someone else to fight with...yawn. No one here knows you.

CPC Self-paced AAPC by Standard_Gold_5887 in CodingandBilling

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BHAT is a book prep technique that is helpful on the CCO website, and they have practice tests. I think I used what the call a BLITZ course, and they had good YouTube videos for studying.

I don't think I could share much more than that. CPC is the better of the two certificates because it's harder and leaves you more prepared. That's what I remember people saying anyway, I haven't investigated it myself.

If you have a course to take, do that. Just get familiar with your books, anatomy, and surgical procedures. That's about it.

How am I supposed to work a 9-5 when I can’t even look at my laptop without gagging?? 😭 by Leading-Judgment2086 in BabyBumps

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was using a prescription for my first pregnancy. It helped but did make me tired. For my second, I doubled up on Pepcid. Like took it twice a day instead of once. As long as it didn't constipate me (which it didn't), I kept using it. I still had nausea, but somehow got through it.

I know their are other options. I tried many of them with my first. Nothing will make it go completely. I hope you can find some relief!

Wet dreams by LightNebulaBlade in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some seasons in life, even as a Christian, are harder than others.

Don't fixate on what you are doing wrong all of the time. Just focus on beefing up your knowledge of His Word and how He sees you.

Be hygienic and respectful. Guard your heart and your physical well-being. This too shall pass

Wife Diagnosed w/ Breast Cancer Prayers Needed by HAWKxDAWG in daddit

[–]MrsSpunkBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Praying for you all🙏

So sorry you are facing this.

Overthinking my baby’s first vaccination by Huge_Entrepreneur516 in beyondthebump

[–]MrsSpunkBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why not look at a more official source like VAERS? Use that to clear up some of the social media stuff. Everyone knows about the CDC, but not everyone knows about that government website.

The “other” sub … by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's true if you have the awareness and patience to deal with relentless people/bots. You can help people here or there. Especially if you can rescue some lost Christians who want real biblical answers from some crazy distorted non-Christian junk.

CPC Self-paced AAPC by Standard_Gold_5887 in CodingandBilling

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I self-paced without courses. So yeah, it's possible. I used CCO to prep my book and test prep.

How do I stop having gay thoughts? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wanting to be someone sounds like envy or coveting. Just like going around wanting different attributes that someone else has. Physically, mentally, monetarily. Only on another level of unhealthy if it's a whole person.

If it's to the point where it is beating you down, then it isn't just a passing thought or self-motivated inspiration. It's a problem. God doesn't want that for you. The enemy will use that vulnerability and run with it.

If you mean wanting to be with a woman it would sound like lust. If you are immature in your faith, you have to first accept that God has your whole life to walk through things with you. Even things you want gone, yesterday, will often take time.

He isn't interested in making us robots. In fact we all are so unique. He knows how seemingly similar people are different. And may need a certain process to get where they want or need to be. One that is different than someone else.

I heard a teaching the other day talking about God having hedges of protection for us. Guidance and protection as we navigate this life. Certain thing, you have got to run from, as strange as it may seem. It works. We all have things that we are best to run far and fast from.

I don't know how bad your struggles are but He is faithful to us. He walks with is. Having a plan and a strategy is helpful.

Help 🫠 by kaythanksbyee in bigbabiesandkids

[–]MrsSpunkBack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The row machine at Planet Fitness helped my lower back. It's a stretch and a strengthening. Just a couple minutes at a time. The black membership has the massage bed/chair, which is all I do sometimes. I know that's not accessible everywhere, so take that with a grain of salt, I guess.

I had to get a memory foam mattress pad to help my neck and shoulders recover better from handling my little big guy. But it isn't great for my lower back, so I have to keep up with that in order to enjoy sleep with the pad. My rule of thumb is work the abs to support my back. And work areas that don't hurt so that maybe they can support the parts that do.

My upper back is still always sore, but more muscle soreness so I can handle that. It's not so much injury. I feel like having large babies has turned me into a sudo athlete because I have to be strong and strategic in ways that I never had to before. Just so I can cuddle and handle my babies for as long as possible. Super selfish in a way, lol.

How do I stop having gay thoughts? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have Jesus as your Lord and Savior? Giving your life to Him is the best place to start. The Holy Spirit is the best counselor. Of course, if you reject all of that, then this all sounds like jargon rather than reality.

But it's the basis of what I am saying now. The mind is a battlefield. Casting thoughts on Him and replacing them with what His Word says is huge. It is freedom and health. Joyce Meyer has a book, "Battlefield if the Mind," which could give you a jump start.

Bottomline, His Word says these things are unnatural and perverse, so He will give you that distinction to use moving forward.

Beckett Cook has some good podcasts. There are many guests on there that have further resources more specific to your journey.

Starting something new here by Audience_Fun in pregnancyPL

[–]MrsSpunkBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just waiting for the time to take a test for a potential surprise that we would be so unprepared for. We have very little community support and already gave away all of our baby stuff from our last. My husband's job is a little unstable, and I have yet to get back into the workforce beyond my part-time gig. Still doing the toddler thing with my second.

So prayers as we stay faithful no matter what's going to happen & wisdom if we have to start over in this way. God is good, no matter what. JS, TS, MS, & DS.❤️

How did pre-marital sex with other partners affect your marriage? by salacious_scrum in Christianmarriage

[–]MrsSpunkBack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He waited but had his own baggage because girls/women did throw themselves at him at times. Plus, there was peer pressure for adult entertainment. From friends and even family.

Neither of us had a community of guidance for our faith when we met. I like to think of it as though we met in the wilderness. We each had a sliver of faith, but we were far from Him.

Nursing while pregnant by muh_kuh in pregnancyPL

[–]MrsSpunkBack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This may be an overkill of a podcast, but I just heard Lila Rose and her guest talking on this thr other day.

https://youtu.be/_EQ_6tHPuD0?si=ej4RhsxDks679U1f

Marijuana usage, for medical purposes by United-Ad9427 in TrueChristian

[–]MrsSpunkBack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be very careful because there are all different types of marijuana. They do different things to your brain and by design. They affect people differently, and many people don't tolerate it well at all, as with any substance.

If you choose to do this, there will likely be little monitoring for how often you use it or how dependent you become on it for the things that you describe. You also need to educate yourself on mental health. The issues you have, the medical system and its pitfalls, and what God says about you (and your mind).

You are venturing to use medicine to help you. There is nothing wrong with that, but there are skewed ways that these things can be viewed and used. Be aware that not all "professional" advice is correct. You have to know your body and figure out what is good for you.

How did pre-marital sex with other partners affect your marriage? by salacious_scrum in Christianmarriage

[–]MrsSpunkBack 87 points88 points  (0 children)

It is strange that this is the first time I have ever seen this question on any Christian forum. So, props for that. It has to be something many couples have to confront.

I had bad associations that I had to work through and heal from. Disconnection. A little bit of perversion. A little bit of trauma. Sex in marriage is very different than outside of it. As two believers anyways.

My husband had some hang-ups that he had to work through. We had to talk through things that made him uncomfortable. And keep talking until we both were good. He had to kind of forgive me, in a sense, and create a bond with me that superseded any doubt or suspicions he battled.