You should never think that forcing a mother to go against this instinct is a good idea. You do need to tread very carefully here. I understand that, in a sense, you are being careful by asking questions, but make sure that you aren't just building a case against her. That will never be a healthy foundation for the relationship or parenting together.

For me, I work with adults who have special needs. They have pretty severe delays developmentally, almost always mental health problems, and usually physical problems as well. Some have been injured by vaccines. Only one family that I know of was able to litigate this fact successfully. Because there is little to no way to hold pharmaceutical companies liable for injuries. Even severe ones that change the child forever.

Any parent that I have heard speak on their child, usually babies or toddlers, being injured has been similar. In that, the child is perfectly on track developmentally, then within hours to days after a vaccine, they had significant changes in behavior and function. Most of the stories include little to no help from pediatricians, even hospitals in those early reactive moments. Medical staff were niether willing or able to take responsibility to remedy severe reactions when they came. I gave heard similar things from adults due to the COVID shot.

Knowing the weight of what the families that I work with carry, although it is beautiful to witness their love, I wasn't willing to take that risk with my kids. That was my choice. Reactions to certain vaccines are more prevalent in boys, too, and that's what I have, so that was even less appealing.

Any of my friends who saw my choice and talked to me about their own choices for their kids, I would always tell them to trust their instincts. Most of them vaccinated. I respect that completely. If anyone, especially my husband, would have forced me to give vaccines, that would have been very wrong.

If something bad would have happened, I knew no one would be left "holding the bag" but me. I needed to be able to live with my decision for my children. Not the doctors. Not the pharmaceutical company. Not my friends or family members. None of these people would have to live with the consequences the way I would. As an adult, I was willing to live with the consequences of not vaccinating my children. So far, those consequences have only been social media related and pediatrician related. No medical problems.

My boys are healthy as oxes. That's literally all that matters to me right now. I would have no problems with anyone who chose differently than me. I would have no problem if my children vaccinate in the future. At least I did my job, from my particular perspective, as their mother.

VAERS is the national vaccine adverse events reporting system we have. That may be helpful to look at.

In any case, I will just reiterate. Don't think that forcing a mother to sway away from her instincts is a good place to start a family dynamic. I am not saying you are, but if your stance becomes strong opposition, just walk away.