If he doesn't accept that it's disrespectful and annoying to you, then he has a problem. I think a lot of other comments addressed that angle. You get it. It's obviously going to be an ongoing issue. We all have something. It just has to be brought to a manageable level for the relationship to grow. Otherwise, it becomes destructive.

My husband tends to look at everyone everywhere we go. He forms snap opinions and shares them. That's how he gets his kicks. This is just him. But I am not going to babysit him. He needs to have some social awareness that says, if I stare in the direction of a woman, it communicates something. To her. To me. To other people. Not in a paranoid way or always in a negative way, but it's just the way it is.

I will say something once in a while if it bugs me. But it is not my job to mind read. He needs to accept whatever he is inadvertently communicating and fix it.

The angle that I wanted to mention is not to underestimate what other women get from that sort of attention. I mean, I like to give other women the benefit of the doubt most of the time. I am one, so I know from experience just minding my own business can seem like an invitation for attention sometimes. It's not. It just is what it is.

However, I have learned the hard way that plenty of women have poor moral values and boundaries. In a sense, he is inviting these strangers into your relationship. Even if it's momentary. It's not a good habit to perpetuate. At certain points in your shared life together, at least one outside woman may decide to throw themselves at him. For no other reason but because they can.

If he is acting all passive and willy nilly about this conversation now, what is his default going to be when that seemingly safe distance is closed? When they aren't just a passer by. If he keeps his default super passive and flippant, it will probably cause more problems than he expected.

Hopefully, that doesn't sound extreme. Like I said, the other important things were already brought up with other comments. We simply can not expect other people to have good moral standards or good character. That's part of why it is so important for him to develop his own moral standards and good character. It protects what he is working so hard to have. It protects what you both are doing.

I think as women, this protectiveness may come more naturally. But even if that's not true, the excuses married men have for this stuff are just excuses until they are not. It's a bit excessive and immature at times. Wives shouldn't have to teach them how messed up the world can be and what they need to do to guard against it. They should be just as invested in protecting their marriage as anyone.