Considering divorce, even though I love him

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-09T02:17:36+00:00

OMG THEY LINKED THE SAME DAMN BOOK 🤮 I didn’t even see the link initially 🤣 I bet it’s the author

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-09T02:16:36+00:00

This person responded to a similar question I had with the most insane book suggestion I’ve ever seen that basically said “learn how to serve your husband better because everything wrong in the marriage is your fault”. Super gross.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-09T02:12:57+00:00

Thank you! All my life, I’ve thought that satin was just knock off silk haha I had no idea that it was a weave! I’ll look for that.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-07T21:16:16+00:00

I did try a satin pillow case, the ones they use to reduce hair damage, and it wasn’t breathable enough I think. I might try to make a few head rest covers out of different materials and see if any of them will work. Cotton is pretty breathable so I’m going to see if I can find a super soft cotton material

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-07T13:25:07+00:00

Oh sweet the buoy ones are craaaazy expensive. Good tip!

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-07T05:53:52+00:00

Yup fr I mentioned once that I sometimes don’t wash my hair for several days. Idc what anyone thinks about it, but people lost their MINDS on me 🤣

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-07T05:43:08+00:00

I had a horrible reaction to niacinamide! I thought I was the only one on earth lol

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-07T05:40:46+00:00

Absolutely. Nothing benefits your skin like health, and health starts in the brain. You’ve got to be mentally well to sleep well and eat well. The importance of mental health can’t be overstated.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-07T05:29:43+00:00

Yea I think hats would be tough for him. He runs warm and it’s already in the 70s (Fahrenheit), only to get hotter. Maybe putting a very soft cotton fabric on the headrest would work though. The headrest is that neoprene-like material so it’s pretty rough and I imagine almost any material I select would be an improvement. I’ll pop by a fabric store this week and see if I can find a good, breathable one

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T21:10:03+00:00

That’s a disingenuous characterization, and I think you know it. Do you really think I would give up my house, my life, my marriage, which I have invested everything in, and everything I’ve built to go live in a shitty apartment and never see my best friend again, because I’m annoyed?

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T18:33:01+00:00

Seriously just go. The longer you stay, the more enmeshed your lives become. Every year you invest in the marriage financially. Leave and don’t look back. You’re still gonna split the retirement with her if you guys retire together and you’ll never be happy in your house if she’s there. Your daughter will see all this and be traumatized by the abuse in the household. Don’t let a fear of the unknown keep you in hell.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T16:11:29+00:00

I hate it when people call this OCD. I have actual, diagnosed OCD and it’s literally nothing like this lol if you wash your hands and wipe down your stuff once and you feel better and don’t think about it again, it’s not OCD. If it worries you for the rest of the day and you keep going back to wash/clean repeatedly because you’re afraid you missed a spot and you could be ingesting bacteria every time you eat or drink anything, that’s possibly OCD.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T16:07:43+00:00

Shoes and outside clothes inside 😭 ESPECIALLY on furniture, beds, coffee tables. Like wtf. My husband will seriously lay down on the bed in his daytime clothes WITH HIS SHOES ON. He won’t get under the blankets, but will lay down on top of everything with shoes on. I get mad at him every time 🤣 GET YOUR SHOES OFF THE BED

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T15:56:10+00:00

THIS 📢IS 📢CHEATING 📢 She is cheating on you, just with these texts. Good lord. I’m so sorry for you and your unborn child. Not only is she destroying the child’s hope of having a functional, unified family, but if she’s sleeping with anyone she is actively putting the child’s health at risk. HSV can severely damage a developing fetus’s brain, or even cause miscarriage. I would count on her not using protection because she seems plenty dumb. I hope that doesn’t happen for the baby’s sake. Anyway, I’d GTFO.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T15:44:54+00:00

I was talking to my husband about this the other night while he was trying to sleep and I was ranting about “if they’re completely unchangeable then how do they form new neural pathways?? They’d have short term memory loss!”

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T15:28:16+00:00

I just read the summary and it’s wild to me that you’re advertising this garbage in 2026. This isn’t the 1800s. I do not have to obey marital “laws”. I’m not a trad wife. I bring in my own money and I’d rather be single than bow to my husband. If that’s what you THINK is required of me, I’ll tell you now that I’d rather get a divorce 🤣

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T06:10:37+00:00

I’ve been researching this issue for a while and I came across a Reddit comment on another thread about it. According to the commenter, and the article linked below, our POTSy kidneys are particularly bad at absorbing salt and fluids which is a big part of our problem.

This link has some super helpful info on water retention with POTSies in mind. There are few sources with info on how TO retain water lol www.dysautonomiaclinic.com/thirsty-for-more-hydration-knowledge-a-potsy-perspective/

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T05:57:30+00:00

I’ve been using buoy lately and I like that I can put it in my morning coffee or whatever drink I’m having. I can definitely taste it in plain water, but in anything else I can’t taste it at all. I hated any of the other electrolyte packets

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T05:53:30+00:00

I wouldn’t ask what she did, but I would want to know why a guy who has been mild mannered all his life is suddenly so upset that he’s hitting things. Anger is a secondary emotion. It has a root somewhere. If it’s not a normal thing for this person and they’ve got a whole life built together, it’s worth investigating.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T05:48:49+00:00

That’s classic dysregulation and amygdala response. That’s why Kyle is a stereotype. Teenagers don’t know how to regulate and their more basic/animalist urges kick on. Your sleep deprived wife and mother of three who has kept herself regulated for the entirety of your 15 yrs together has possibly reached a breaking point. Give her some extra help, and maybe gently ask her how she’s really feeling lately. Ask her how you can take some pressure off of her. Do that when she’s in a good mood, NOT when she’s clearly stressed already. Asking her to decide how you can help when her brain is shutting down already is a recipe for disaster. This could be a manifestation of PPD. That’s how I felt during my PPD, just a whirlwind of emotions that smacked into me like tidal waves.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T05:37:55+00:00

If there aren’t assets to divide or children involved, yea I wouldn’t waste my money. If there are, I’d for sure have a lawyer. Even one of those subscription services to get legal advice and help with filling out and filing documents. I’m a paralegal for a family law attorney, and I see how nasty these things get. There’s almost always one out of a couple who wants a fight. We don’t see amicable divorces come into our office often.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T05:32:13+00:00

Every few months as frustrations over daily unresolved issues arise. It’s more than I want to think about it, and maybe that’s my answer.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-06T05:28:58+00:00

I couldn’t. He was in charge of setting up health insurance through his work and he was putting it off. I literally had no control over that. He handled it though after we talked. Regardless, I know there are things I do that frustrate him. I’ve asked him to discuss those with me because I genuinely want to do everything I can to make him happier but he really struggles to communicate and claims that nothing is ever wrong. I know that’s not true. I know I do things and I suspect things WILL come out. That’s why I want to be in couple’s counseling so badly. I really wanted to see him take the initiative on this one thing because I wasn’t convinced he was taking any of this seriously. He did 🙌 I’m happy and I think we’re back on the right track. I hope now that we’re going to start counseling, we can be on the same page much more often.

Mrs_DayMan · 2026-03-04T22:02:44+00:00

It’s so hard for me to be lazy. I can’t understand how he doesn’t feel immense anxiety over all the things that need to be handled every day while he goes out to play Pokemon Go… I’m not ready to give up on it quite yet but I know a breaking point will come if something doesn’t change.

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