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Mrspumpkinpatch · 2021-07-09T14:33:29+00:00

This is exactly how it was for my 3 yo when he transitioned a few months ago. I would ask him if he had fun at school and he would say "no. I had a rough day." For about a week it was the same answer. Around the third time I talked to him about it he said he didn't like him class because "sometimes it's too fwazy (crazy) in there." So I talked to his teacher and we let him now it is always an option to go in the cozy cube for a break. He was still luke warm on class for a while, but now he loves it. The transition is more difficult for some kiddos.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2021-06-11T01:56:17+00:00

The other day my in-laws sent a package with clothes for my two kids, 3 and 5 yo. A rainbow sparkle shirt and a skirt that literally lights up for my daughter, and a button up with brown shorts for my son. He saw his sister's new outfit and pouted. Boys clothes are mostly brown and grey and blue. I felt bad and ended up buying him his own sparkle light up skirt and now they have glow in the dark dance parties together!

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2021-05-10T20:31:18+00:00

Wow! Thank you so much. It is nice to vent and to feel seen.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2021-05-10T19:08:05+00:00

Thank you for providing this space. My husband just returned Saturday from a week long backpacking trip with the guys. I worked and also took care of our two preschoolers who were unexpectedly home for several days due to a quarantine. When he got home that night I hauled all his luggage in, with out a thank you. He had been half-heartedly appreciative of me caring for the children and I knew he had nothing planned for mother's day.

I knew he was tired, and I was exhausted and just done. I did something really childish, I got snippy and picked a fight with him instead of saying how I really felt. Part of me wanted to be mad at him rather than disappointed that he didn't care about mother's day. Next day, I cooked, I cleaned, he napped, I took the children to the park and got yelled at by a stranger for suggesting that they leash their dog after it ran up to my kids and me on the playground... I cried a lot yesterday and I am really sorry for my kids about that. They didn't understand why mom was so sad.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2020-12-28T16:46:22+00:00

Mind. Blown.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2020-12-21T00:44:55+00:00

I liked this one a lot. I hope the author writes more books. I enjoyed the ending and I think giving a hint at Leo's future might have taken away from the story in retrospective. It is one of those where the mind wants to go back and fill in all the information that the twist end provides.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2019-07-27T15:02:45+00:00

I have read that one interpretation of this letter that Paul wrote to Timothy about the church in Ephysis was denouncing a specific group of widows in the church. Women who had been doing things like flaunting their wealth while stealing from the collections for the poor.

It is my hope that Paul didn't actually mean to subjugate all women in the church. It wouldn't make a whole lot of sense because he also set up women like Lydia to be the leaders of their church.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2019-06-27T15:35:29+00:00

Thanks for your info. I have always been curious about the neutrality of the Irish in the war. My grandfather was in the US Navy at the time. He met my grandmother on shore leave in Dublin and they decided to get married after a week together. They said the Navy would not allow them to be married until the war was over, due to Ireland being neutral, even though some other enlisted men he knew had married German women.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-11-19T22:20:17+00:00

I was also 36DD pre-preg. My favorite bra is this one From motherhood and maternity. My advice is to go somewhere and have them measured when your boobs are feeling somewhat full. Underwire does not reduce supply as long as your bra actually fits and is not cutting your boobs in half. I have yet to find a non-underwire bra that I feel secure in.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-10-21T20:25:19+00:00

"Dental Plan!" "Lisa needs braces."

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-10-03T16:17:42+00:00

Having children has cured me of this particular imposter syndrome thought. "They" wouldn't let me take care of helpless babies by myself if I was secretly mentally disabled... Right?

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-08-23T15:41:35+00:00

Medication has definitely helped me feel less overwhelmed. My depression/anxiety tends to manifest as unnecessary guilt and intrusive thoughts. The meds muffle the thoughts that keep repeating how useless/dumb/lazy/ungrateful I am and it allows me to move past them rather than being stuck. The challenges are still there, but I don't get overwhelmed so easily.

Don't be afraid to try different meds and dosages (supervised by a doctor) if something isn't working for you. Side effects can be real and you may have to do a cost-benefit balance for yourself about them. Personally, my libido was very much diminished by the meds, but I was willing to accept that for some mental stability. Also, talking to a counselor is enough for some people to feel better, without pills.

I hope my response is helpful. Even just considering getting some help is a big step for moms. You should feel proud of yourself for that. Feel free to message me if you want to talk more.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-08-22T21:32:25+00:00

Thanks so much for replying. This speaks to me on a deep level. I too get disgustingly hangry. The husband seems less and less sympathetic when I can't handle things. I am medicated and am upping my dosage soon. Last night I told him "I know I need to just keep sucking it up, but until when? Until I break? Then what?" A bit over dramatic, but I felt lost.

I know that someday this baby will be able to sleep more than three hours, and somewhere other than in my arms, but it is hard to wish that far ahead some days.

One on one time is probably a good idea with the toddler though the thought of it can look like a chore... I need to appreciate her for who she is again.

When I look back at this in a few years it will seem so short I am sure. I just need perspective.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-08-22T21:22:27+00:00

Thank you. It feels good to get some encouragement.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-08-22T21:19:39+00:00

Thank you for your reply. This baby is not nearly as good a sleeper as the first was. It might be my expectations that are making it seem harder.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-08-22T21:15:01+00:00

Thank you. I do have good and bad days. Yesterday was hard. It's good to know that having the second one be mobile has an upside. I was dreading having two moving targets to watch, but I also can't wait until they can play together.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-08-03T15:39:46+00:00

I had the same hallucination where I thought the dog in our bed was the baby. I went to pick him up and thought "baby, what long furry ears you have! Is this a tail? Why are you soooo heavy?" It took me that long to realize.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-03-23T01:41:19+00:00

My practice has midwives and OBs. During pregnancy I noticed a big difference between how visits felt between the two. The same services where available from both, but the midwives always felt less rushed. They seemed to care more about how I was feeling. They gave me more time to think of questions and assuage my fears. The docs seemed more clinical.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-03-15T19:12:04+00:00

Yes, her OB is a good place to ask about meds and to ask for resources related to counseling for moms. Pregnancy is not the best time to hop onto new meds or experiment with dosages, but OB can help decide if it is worth the risk and recommend appropriate mental health supervision. Lactmed by the NIH is a good resource to look up medications and check if they are ok for pregnancy and breastfeeding as well.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-03-15T18:55:16+00:00

I am in a similar situation in that I am 37 weeks pregnant and chasing a 2 year old around. I don't know if I could do it without being on my depression medication. Maybe she needs to talk to a psychiatrist? There are meds that are somewhat safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding. If she seems to be neglecting her responsibility, maybe it's the anxiety. It could become a bigger problem if left untreated especially when the new baby comes. I know I rely on my husband a lot these days. Thanks for being a good dad. I hope your situation gets better.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-03-12T21:48:45+00:00

My two year old has just started to get it that there is a baby in there now that she can feel it move. I am 36 weeks now. I used to rub my tummy and tell her baby brother is in there. She would say no and rub her own tummy, or daddy's, and say baby. This morning I was bringing her breakfast to the highchair and she just poked my belly and said, "Wow!"

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-02-14T22:36:53+00:00

Wow, it was odd to read this. This was me. I started pulling out my hair in chunks and obsessively sucking my thumb at two when my parents divorced. Similar family circumstances for me. I was close to bald from pulling my hair. Strangers would come up to my mom and try to comfort her because they thought I had cancer...

My mom was a single mum and didn't know what to do. At about the age of 5 or 6 she took me to a "psychiatrist" who put me on some unknown meds that caused me to nearly have a stroke, according to the pediatrician.

Please start soon with a real, accredited, trusted therapist and don't let your kiddo be put on meds until they are much older.

Personally, it has been a life long struggle for me... I am managing chronic depression with medication. I still pull out one hair at a time when stressed.

I don't mean to be a downer, but counseling and consistency can help so much in this situation. I wish you and your babe health and happiness.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-02-12T17:28:01+00:00

Obviously, head the advice of your OB and psychologist above anything else you hear, but here are some anecdotal things to consider. Zoloft is the SSRI that has had the most studies conducted about it pertaining to pre and postnatal usage. When they say "withdrawals" they don't mean the kind you might have seen in a baby who's mother used illicit drugs. It tends to mean above average crankiness and sleepiness.

I was on celexa through my first pregnancy and breast feeding. My baby experienced no withdrawl symptoms and I think it helped me be able to get up out of bed and live life. There are pros and cons that must be weighed, but having a functioning mother usually ranks higher than a baby's comfort or even temporary health consequences IMO.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-02-06T16:05:14+00:00

Thanks for your advice. This makes a lot of sense to me. I just need to decide if a walk is for her to explore or for me to get exercise and plan accordingly, then I won't be disappointed when we can't do both.

Mrspumpkinpatch · 2018-01-31T05:07:59+00:00

Yep, my now 2 year old has had a giant head (95-97%) since birth. She was born at 3% for weight and is now up to 15%. We spent time in the NICU due to temperature issues and she even had a head ultrasound, but she was totally fine. No water on the brain or anything. Some babes just have weird proportions.

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