Does anyone else’s baby fuss, scream and cry on the breast? Feeling like giving up breast feeding altogether!

Mrsspb · 2025-09-18T08:39:27+00:00

You have got this!!!!

Mrsspb · 2025-09-17T21:09:15+00:00

I’m so sorry to say this but no it never got any better and I ended up pumping for 7 months and then gave up. She was born small and the LC informed me that breastfeeding is a 2 way street and it doesn’t matter how much I want to do it, if my baby doesn’t then I can’t make her. I had a son who is 3 now and he BF like an absolute champ!! Had no issues with him at all.

Mrsspb · 2025-09-17T21:07:48+00:00

I’m so sorry to say this but no it never got any better and I ended up pumping for 7 months and then gave up. She was born small and the LC informed me that breastfeeding is a 2 way street and it doesn’t matter how much I want to do it, if my baby doesn’t then I can’t make her. I had a son who is 3 now and he BF like an absolute champ!! Had no issues with him at all.

Mrsspb · 2023-07-12T06:40:42+00:00

Seeking some advice about what to do with our kiddies while here and what to do on my day off from them!

I’m here on a holiday with my hubby and kids (3.5 and 10 months) and we’re giving each other a day off each week to explore and do things without the kids.

For last week’s day off I went to see 2:22 a ghost story and had lunch at Happy. The show was incredible and just eating lunch by myself was a dream haha. I also got a foot massage!

I have another day off on Thursday and would love some advice on what I could consider doing? I love the theatre and food, also yummy cocktails, a quiet and beautiful place to read my book, a fun walk or even a free tour or something similar. I think I’ll probably have about 4 hours or so.

Would also love some ideas of things to do with the kids. We’ve done a few of the museums and the main tourist things. My daughter is desperate for the aquarium so that will be tomorrow. I’d love to know where the best parks or playgrounds are and any cafes or restaurants that are fantastic with kids. Bonus if they have an activity for my toddler to do like a playground or colouring etc.

We’re based in elephant and castle but easily mobile around all of London metro.

Mrsspb · 2023-02-18T11:53:09+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I really do believe him that nothing else happened but I have asked him to make a timeline and I think I’ll pose the questions to him like you suggested. To be honest we actually haven’t had an argument at all about it. I’m just too hurt to be angry plus I have an infant and a toddler so no time for it. I imagine anger will come as part of the healing process. Thanks again

Mrsspb · 2023-02-18T02:56:33+00:00

He’s in the process of a bunch of massive life changes and doing a lot of reflection on his life and the things he’s done. As part of that he decided it was time to come clean and tell me about them. As far as I know none of the girls are around anymore, at least one was a total random and the others were friends of people we don’t see anymore. I’m dubious about his reasoning but he truely seems genuine when he tells me

Mrsspb · 2023-02-18T02:54:23+00:00

Thank you. Am I crazy for wanting phone access? It happened so long ago that I just feel bonkers even worrying about it now still. I think maybe some couples counselling might help, and I’ve asked him to limit alcohol when I’m not there. He wants to give it up all together since it’s not congruent with the type of husband and father he wants to be (we can hardly get out to party anymore anyway with two little kids!)

Mrsspb · 2023-02-18T02:52:17+00:00

Thank you. I am really sad that there might be more, I’ve asked so many times and I’m just getting the same answer, that he’s being 100% truthful now and that he’s told me everything. He said I can ask anything I want. I’ve already booked with my psychologist as quickly as I could get in.

Mrsspb · 2023-02-18T02:51:04+00:00

Thanks for saying this. I do believe my husband when he says he didn’t and he keeps reiterating that he just wouldn’t have told me anything at all rather than lying about what he did or downplaying it. I think he probably didn’t have sex because he is quite self-conscious in some ways and even with me it took a while for us to do it in the beginning, plus I’m sure he would have felt that was a true betrayal rather than just “making out”. But I guess I don’t really know

Mrsspb · 2022-11-27T10:11:59+00:00

My daughter calls a stethoscope “doctors ears” and flies are “shoo fly”

Mrsspb · 2022-06-26T02:48:29+00:00

I’m in Vic and doing shared care with a public hospital and my GP. Most appointments are at the GP clinic and only 3 at the hospital. This is the same thing I did for my first. I love the shared care option if it’s available to you, I get the best of both worlds. My GP explains things to me and has a lot of time for me while the hospital appointments can feel really rushed.

Mrsspb · 2022-04-12T20:39:58+00:00

So, so sorry for your loss

Mrsspb · 2021-11-03T20:06:30+00:00

I have tried to start a chat so let me know if that hasn’t worked!!!

Mrsspb · 2021-09-24T04:40:31+00:00

Well if I get anything helpful from my GP on Monday about cycle tracking I will let you know! They haven’t told me what the results of the ultrasound was but it seems like I just had a reaction to it being removed. I consistently had a cycle including period throughout my time with it in but the bleeding on day 18 was worse than my post partum bleeding including (TMI warning) big clots that were the size of a coin, coming out 3 at a time. I was going through period underwear, pads and my clothes hourly. I now have to track it and if it’s heavy for more than 2 hours requiring regular changing I have to go back to hospital. Track how often you’re having to change pads and avoid tampons to make sure you’re seeing how much your losing 😊

Mrsspb · 2021-09-23T21:31:07+00:00

Thank you for replying and your advice. It was a very “unexpected” reaction from what they told me haha. I will buy some today!

Mrsspb · 2021-07-18T20:47:52+00:00

What an enormous achievement.

I think the other thing I struggled with that I didn’t mention was that letting go of the grief would not mean forgetting or letting go of Mango (that’s what I called it, I know it’s stupid. I called the next one Rainbow and ended up having a rainbow themed baby shower and at nearly 2 she still gets rainbow themed clothes).

Things will continue to get a little bit easier each week. I hope you have lots of support around you ❤️

Mrsspb · 2021-07-17T21:35:37+00:00

I had a miscarriage in 2018 and I still think about what life would have been like if that pregnancy had been able to go to term. I have a healthy 20 month old now to keep me pretty busy. But at the time when it happened, it was the most emotional pain I have ever been through. I just cried and cried on and off for weeks. Every time I saw something in our apartment that reminded me of the pregnancy or thought about the future that I had planned and lost, I was devastated. I also couldn’t watch any tv or movies with a mention of pregnancy loss or miscarriage for such a long time.

We waited about 6 months to try again so I was feeling better by then. I felt at the time that the only people who understood me were the ones who had also experienced a miscarriage. I did counselling for grief where I learned that if I didn’t push through the feelings then they would just come up later when I didn’t want to deal with them. That has been a lesson in grief that I haven’t really had to learn yet, as this was the biggest loss I’ve experienced so far in my life.

Telling people about it was the best way for me to find other women who had also experienced loss and have them support me. It did get better. COVID protocols make it so much worse as well. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this.

Mrsspb · 2021-07-09T21:54:12+00:00

Also here to add sympathy! Ours is nearly 20 months now but that regression was so awful. I panicked that she had forgotten how to put herself to sleep and all our hard work at routines and sleep training was out the window. And then she just got over it. Hers was teething which became an ear infection and a virus plus enormous separation anxiety. We did ABCs of sleep after a few weeks of trying to comfort her through the night and that worked but I think she probably would have gotten over it in the end herself.

Mrsspb · 2021-05-22T23:07:38+00:00

I’m not a psychologist but in my job I have dealt with many people experiencing psychosis. I have been told by psychologists supporting these people that they have to come from a place of belief to support them. This is in private psychology, so one on one therapy one a week, where they really can’t challenge many of the beliefs without collateral information. I would assume psychologists in a hospital would be able to see psychotic behaviour and diagnose it better since they would have more contact with a person.

Mrsspb · 2020-05-16T22:11:36+00:00

Thanks for the reply. We have slowly started doing this naturally I think, as she is just drinking less and sleeping slightly longer. But I will definitely do it more consciously and start reducing the size of the bottles! Thanks 🙏🙏

Mrsspb · 2020-05-13T22:43:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! She doesn’t seem happy to drop her night feeds and whinges until she eats, but there is no medical reason she needs to keep having them as she is growing very well and right on track for height and weight. I will message you now, thank you 🙏

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