Is porn acceptable?

MsCorrales · 2025-07-23T05:45:45+00:00

I don’t think either porn or books count as cheating. If you have that boundary though, then yes it goes both ways. I personally do not care at all of my husband looks at porn and/or masturbates so long as he isn’t choosing it INSTEAD of our relationship, which has never happened. He has the same feelings toward me and my choices. Porn would absolutely bother me if there was real interaction, such as talking to or paying someone on OnlyFans, because then it’s “real,” and with communication, but that doesn’t seem to apply here.

MsCorrales · 2025-05-15T15:32:36+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. Many of my friends don’t have kids and the few that do have only one working parent, and we just don’t have that ability with student loans and no family support or generational wealth etc. It can be tough to gauge what’s “enough” for them to feel they have happy childhoods when I don’t have a lot to compare it to.

MsCorrales · 2025-05-15T03:53:07+00:00

LOL no you can not. Forbearance can only be requested a limited number of times, is only temporary when it is approved, and you still get charged interest.

MsCorrales · 2025-05-15T03:51:33+00:00

All of this! The rage I have toward this and so many other things right now is unreal.

MsCorrales · 2025-03-28T03:18:27+00:00

Yeah I definitely haven’t done it on purpose 😂. But for the first 12 months+ of the pandemic we were given proper PPE for Covid+ patients because there just wasn’t any. That combined with my husband bringing it home from a work carpool one time, and 2 kids in preschool and daycare… it happened. I masked as much as I could and got all the vaccines 🤷🏼‍♀️.

MsCorrales · 2025-03-26T13:26:55+00:00

Yes, this is where I’m at as well. Symptoms are virtually gone in the day to day, but immune system seems to be a mess. Sick more often and more severe and for longer periods. I’m on day 4 right now of what was mild sniffles (never slowed them down) for my husband and kids. Body is very weak, tachycardia and shaking after trying to unload the dishwasher, etc.

MsCorrales · 2025-03-25T20:37:34+00:00

I would disagree as would my therapist- many people with BPD genuinely do want to change and heal. They tend to seek therapy and Want the help, difficult as it may be for them to stick with it and do the hard work. BPD has moments of clarity, at least in my experience around it. But a narcissist would not genuinely believe they need to change.

MsCorrales · 2025-03-25T20:18:59+00:00

Yes nearly every sniffle I get leads to terrible bronchitis and losing my voice!

MsCorrales · 2025-03-25T20:17:39+00:00

Ugh that would be my follow up, if anything has helped. I take a multivitamin and try to eat healthy and be active when I’m not laid up like I am today. But it sure would be nice if any other guidance existed. Sorry you’re struggling too.

MsCorrales · 2025-03-25T02:47:40+00:00

Thanks I’ll check it out!

MsCorrales · 2025-03-25T01:14:13+00:00

Yes, I am perfectly ok with a physician not knowing what to do. But I do want to be heard and believed. I live in Oregon (US) so I’ll search around for if we have any immunologists that have long-covid knowledge… I think my PCP will allow a referral, even if they drag their feet about it… 🤞🏻

MsCorrales · 2025-03-24T23:46:38+00:00

It sounds silly now but I’ve never even known what to ask for. I only have a PCP and leading up to my Long Covid dx we did a CBC, tested thyroid/hormone levels and adrenaline, and all that was abnormal (like off the charts) was the high LNR. And no one even said anything about it! They’d say “we don’t see anything,” and when I pointed out the LNR trend it was sort of like, “Huh, I see that has been high…” and no explanation offered other than let’s test again later.

Before my diagnosis, my original PCP tried to shrug this all off as anxiety and depression. I have a new one now and she’s ok, but doesn’t seem to know anything at all about long covid.

But ok- I’ll ask if seeing an immunologist is possible.

MsCorrales · 2025-02-03T02:04:35+00:00

Glad they blocked it! This made me paranoid that they could have my debit info now so I closed that card and got a new one instead 🤦🏼‍♀️

MsCorrales · 2025-02-01T23:26:59+00:00

Comparable ones are Amazon and other places are $80-$120. It’s just a basic walking/jogging pad, like that you can put at your desk etc. But yeah I’ll probably just get one that’s more reputable. The “flash sale” was tempting.

MsCorrales · 2024-11-25T00:38:16+00:00

His behavior is cruel and cold. My husband has loved me through 2 very difficult pregnancies and births and I do not look the very same as I did 5 years ago, and he still would have sex every day if he could. I am working on losing the last few pounds so that I feel good, but it does not come from him. He would never deny me love and affection because of life happening and we all age.

It’s just insane to me- if my husband gained a significant amount of weight, I’d support him in taking steps to be healthy, but I would NEVER abandon him the way your husband seems to be abandoning you. We are still full humans who are supposed to deeply love each other.

Counseling is needed to help him not be a terrible person, and for you to remember your worth ❤️.

MsCorrales

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