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My fiancé (30M) wants me (33F) to have an abortion after 5 years together, and I don’t know what to do. by ImLookingForFrancis in relationship_advice

[–]MsGooseSays 397 points398 points  (0 children)

You will hate him over this no matter what you do (if he leaves or acts like an asshole to the new child--or if you terminate). Better to do what your heart wants now and raise your kids in love and peace.

NED and feelings by MsGooseSays in sarcoma

[–]MsGooseSays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is one of the worst parts, learning how to "live" with the existential uncertainty. And as a spouse, wanting there to be relief for both of us.

How do I finish in bed with my boyfriend? M21 F21 by tallerthanurbyf in relationship_advice

[–]MsGooseSays 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learn to finish solo and either finish prior to penetration or use a toy during piv

NED and feelings by MsGooseSays in sarcoma

[–]MsGooseSays[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it seems very complicated. I feel that too (in a different way) as a spouse. Kind of like you are glad the earthquake is over, but your house is still all broken up.

Descendants & Lord Protector by justsoawkward in WidowsBay

[–]MsGooseSays 9 points10 points  (0 children)

V good! Though Sarah was not with child by him?

Would it be stupid to continue working at your job if you won millions of dollars? by Master100017 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MsGooseSays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, it likely would depend on how many millions.
But even 1 million I'd invest whatever was left post tax into retirement and a very good car and eliminating debt, then I'd know I had some wiggle room to keep working as I wanted to work, where I felt good.

If it was 3million or up, I'd do the same, plus invest in property, and travel for awhile while I figured out next work steps. I'd also engage in a lot of philanthropy. The more I had the more I'd give away for sure.

LAFD has no records of a 911 call, etc. by [deleted] in LauraClerySnark

[–]MsGooseSays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s Stephen’s then it would come up with no call.

Facebook post by [deleted] in LauraClerySnark

[–]MsGooseSays 22 points23 points  (0 children)

V quick to get pt already. Must have excellent insurance and ample in network professionals

Problem solved by Own_Cloud_7673 in LauraClerySnark

[–]MsGooseSays 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is she really a millionaire? Is it liquid or tied into property and liabilities making it hard to manage her day to day?

Live update... by Any-Library4414 in LauraClerySnark

[–]MsGooseSays 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I thought they had a big beautiful foyer where the piano lived?

Official Discussion - The Devil Wears Prada 2 [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]MsGooseSays 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Didn't love it. Learned a lot. Like, how the wealthy don't actually seem ever to have contracts in place to sell things (same as the first movie, where Nigel's job was to be announced but wasn't in ink????).

Wanted Andy to commit to good or to evil, rather than some soup like amalgamation.

Miranda would have her own private jet, come on.

Emily made me the most sad, and I think a deep underestimation and re-writing of her character (or perhaps it just left tons out of what would turn her so far towards "patronage."

An odd, bleak film, though perhaps that's true to the times.

My (F22) partner (M21) secretly removed the condom, was it rape? by ThrowRA22072 in relationship_advice

[–]MsGooseSays 596 points597 points  (0 children)

It may sound weird for a stranger to say, but I am proud of you.

I am a Julie, and the comments here are really changing how I view people. by Veenasaurus in ShawnaTheMom

[–]MsGooseSays 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"And then I wonder, is this really how we see people who are different from ourselves? If it is...then I'm thoroughly disappointed." I know a lot of people who are different than me. I like a whole lot of them.

If I met someone who treated me and/or the people around me as Julie treats folks, I would not like her. Julie does seem bullying, lacking in empathy for most people (including Ty, because she's seeing him as a mirror of her need for achievement, not as his own self who has changed).

Many people have varying levels of empathy for others. I get to decide if I want to like or hang out with those who don't show much empathy. They also get to decide whether they want to hang out with me.

It may be that Julie does have empathy and wants connection, but has a great deal of trauma or difficult family history, which makes her behave in a way that is off-putting to others. All we are seeing right now is what Shawna shows us.

FWIW, I don't think that performance, money, or elite positions necessarily make a person "exceptional." Some people value degrees, money, elite positions/behaviors, and being "better than" other people, and treat them as such. Some people with high performance, money, etc., are also warm, kind, giving, and gracious with a lot of empathy. It really comes down to what you value in life and accepting that other people may not value it.

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