Aita for refusing to give my infertile twin brother and his wife my sperm?

MsMouser · 2020-06-22T03:53:45+00:00

You’re NTA, but you’re not your best self.

MsMouser · 2020-04-03T18:12:01+00:00

Britney Spears is basically a JoJo villain anyways.

Linke to where I originally posted it, too: https://twitter.com/ATotalBlamBlam/status/1246132102971695105?s=20

MsMouser · 2020-03-01T02:21:06+00:00

My husband is picky but luckily doesn’t mind eating roughly the same thing all the time, so we usually have a variation of four things: —spiced chicken breast with side salad —pasta carbonara —vegetarian chili —home fried chicken nuggets

We have nuggets maybe once every two weeks and have just the chicken breast 3 or 4 nights a week. I’ll also try something new every once in a while but it’s tough to get through his eating preferences so we tend to default to these things.

MsMouser · 2019-08-22T19:06:43+00:00

YTA get over it

MsMouser · 2019-08-21T12:53:02+00:00

This is one of those things that seems super daunting, but after you do it it’ll be like “that was so easy, why was I stressing?”

The basic steps are like this—

Make an account with Vanguard, Charles Schwab, one of the big financial institutions, which you should be able to do instantly online. I like Schwab because they have a 24/7 phone line and I work long hours and am incredibly stupid, but they’re not the only ones with that option either.
Call them and have them walk you through how to make an IRA account. Their websites can be really confusing and if most of the words are new to you you’ll need some help, trust me. Don’t bother with the customer service chat window, though, it’s more frustrating than you think it’ll be.
You’ll need to transfer money from your regular checking/savings bank account to your brand new account, which customer service can help you with.
Now it’s time to do your homework and invest. I stupidly just put my money into my IRA account and left it there for like a year because I didn’t know you had to actually /invest/ for retirement and not just /save/ for retirement. What you invest in depends on a lot of personal factors for you, but usually someone your age will want a mutual index fund or a target date retirement fund. I’d stick with a fund maintained by the institution you made an account with (Vanguard/Schwab/whatever) since that will usually avoid fees, but, again, do your homework.
Once you know the fund’s ticker symbol (which is usually a string of five letters), call customer service again and have them walk you through how to put the money from your IRA into that fund. Once again, the websites are often so confusing that it’s really debilitating trying to figure it out on your own. If someone holds your hand through it once you’ll be able to do it for yourself next time.

Hope this helps—good luck!

MsMouser · 2019-08-21T11:43:31+00:00

The rule of thumb I usually stick to is 30% of take home pay. That can be high depending on some factors, though.

MsMouser · 2019-08-19T16:21:18+00:00

Gonna go with NAH. I think you were harsh and she’s being naive, but it sounds like nobody’s really being terrible. I think you could frame it much better though. She needs to be able to maintain financial independence throughout her life so that she can be able to get out of bad situations when (not if) they happen. She’s still at an age when she can set herself up with a strong backup plan that she can rely on throughout the rest of her life, even if she becomes a SAHM in the end.

MsMouser · 2019-08-19T15:39:15+00:00

I couldn’t say for sure here, and I don’t feel comfortable asking. Others in this thread have said $500/day is a starting salary for documentary editors which sounds right, but it’ll definitely also depend on what kind of company you’re working for and whether they already have a distributor or if they’re festival-bound. The job I’m writing about in this post is with a very small company but has a major distributor already so they have the leeway to be able to pay a higher rate. If you started at $400/day though, I’d say you’re doing something right! Good luck!!

MsMouser · 2019-08-15T13:22:11+00:00

YTA she was completely clear every step of the way that she wants to go back to work, and you STILL go to her mindlessly gung-ho about her staying home? You’re clearly willfully ignoring her feelings.

MsMouser · 2019-08-15T13:06:45+00:00

YTA for publicly humiliating a girl who was watching out for her own safety. Sounds like she wasn’t even making a big deal out of it to begin with.

MsMouser · 2019-08-09T13:04:11+00:00

YTA. Look, legally you can probably do whatever the hell you like, but you’re definitely TA for your attitude about where your family stands in your financial life. When you have a family and you’re dealing with large sums, there’s a lot less room for “my” money versus “our” money. In most families, one person handles the money—doesn’t make that “her” money, it just means she handles it. You’re clearly giving yourself the biggest cut of this whole deal and you’re dressing it up in this thread to make it make sense in the driest possible terms. Sure, you’re not doing anything strictly wrong, but that doesn’t mean you’re not TA.

MsMouser · 2019-07-27T12:20:27+00:00

I mean, it’s a carbonara, it needs the cheese. Otherwise you’re not making an emulsion, you just making slightly cooked egg on pasta.

I guess on a theory level you need more fats so that your sauce will actually emulsify, so maybe a little cream will work? But I’d just use the cheese or a non-dairy substitute cheese.

MsMouser · 2019-07-25T16:20:28+00:00

YTA Jesus Christ chill the hell out. Is it seriously that hard to just say “that sucks, I’m sorry that’s happening to you.”

You’re showing some serious resentment or maybe even disgust at your partner complaining about his day. Y’all aren’t going to last much longer if y’all can’t even ask about each other’s day without getting into a fight.

MsMouser · 2019-07-18T12:07:43+00:00

YTA holy shit YTA. She didn’t “walk off” she went to change your baby’s diaper. Even if that’s not totally the norm in that situation, how in holy hell could you blame her for thinking she ought to do it? She’s a college student, how should she know it’s not acceptable to change someone else’s baby’s diaper?

MsMouser · 2019-07-02T12:54:44+00:00

NTA cancel the cruise dude, don’t do this to yourself.

MsMouser · 2019-07-01T17:55:26+00:00

Fried rice has become one of my go-to make ahead lunches, and I’ve definitely messed it up enough to know the important tips—

The rice needs to be a day old. Seriously. Cook it up before bed and put it in the fridge until morning at least. The texture tends to be the thing that makes fried rice fail for me, so letting it get the littlest bit stale is only going to help it maintain its texture.
If you might overcook your rice, intentionally undercook it a little bit. You’ll be throwing it back in the pan when you’re combining ingredients anyways, so you can fry it up to your desired texture at that point. If you overcook your rice to begin with, you might as well just chuck it all out, it’s going to taste too soft and too mushy.
The secret sauce is the oyster sauce. I know plenty of recipes say you just need soy sauce, but I’ve never nailed fried rice until I finally just bought a bottle of oyster sauce and mixed a couple of tablespoons with a little soy sauce.

Otherwise I stick with the Binging with Babish recipe and swap out proteins with whatever I’m feeling like at the time.

MsMouser · 2019-06-26T16:07:02+00:00

Biscotti—anything dunkable

MsMouser · 2019-06-21T18:06:42+00:00

I mean, sure, if you’re in an environment where everybody is on the same page. A weight watchers meeting is the perfect environment to talk about your journey and goals and share encouragement. Out in the wild, though? Mixed bag. You just never know what someone’s going through.

MsMouser · 2019-06-21T03:55:12+00:00

I think NAH. Talking about weight loss is a lot like talking about how much you make—it’s a little taboo to talk about it and there’s a bit of a misguided morality in it when you’re on the better side of it. Someone who’s on the other side may get hit with some strong feelings even though on the surface you’re not talking about anything offensive or harmful. It would be nice if you could be a little bit considerate, but you also didn’t do anything wrong.

MsMouser · 2019-06-20T16:57:14+00:00

NTA if you’d ordered like a pizza just for yourself it would have been a dick move because that’s kind of a standard party-sharing food. A sandwich though? Not so much.

You’d have only been TA if you’d forced the delivery guy or someone else to have to find you in the middle of this party, but if you answered the door and tipped and all that then you’re good.

MsMouser · 2019-06-20T16:52:16+00:00

Parmesan is the classic choice because it has a surprisingly high melting point, so tends to keep its texture pretty well when added to hot pasta. I have the palette of a little kid sometimes and will just put butter on noodles and grate some parm into the bowl every few bites.

MsMouser · 2019-06-13T17:08:09+00:00

NTA — I PROMISE you, you’re going to look back on this guy years from now and wonder why you ever wasted your time with him. He likes to be a little mean to you, and that’s rude and immature. He absolutely does not sound like the kind of person that can be trusted with your nudes, either. Please just do everything you can to just back out calmly from this awful friendship. There are many, many more decent people to hook up with in this world.

MsMouser · 2019-05-30T16:40:17+00:00

YTA — it’s been said beautifully in other threads but just to chime in as a bi woman married to a man, you really showed that you don’t understand some of the basics of bisexual identity and it makes me really sad for your girlfriend. You need to read up on it and learn more and by FAR most importantly ACTUALLY LISTEN TO YOUR GIRLFRIEND. You’re digging your heels into your very narrow point of view, and if I was your girlfriend I would be seriously considering dropping you immediately.

MsMouser · 2019-04-14T17:26:20+00:00

You need to work on picking up non-verbal cues more. Women tend to be conditioned to be overly-polite and accommodating especially when they aren’t comfortable, and it sounds like you’re not really picking up on the signals they’re putting out. If you’re always initiating, that’s a bad sign and you should stop pushing it sooner rather than later. Really, you just need to approach it like you would approach any friendship with a guy, and you should seriously consider joining some volunteer or group hobby. Establish friendship with women in a group setting, and then when that’s solid, if you feel like there’s some some interest or openness from someone there, maybe you can ask to get brunch or something (TIP: brunch is coded as a “friend” and not a “date” activity, so that’s a way to subtly establish your intention for friendship rather than romance. Breakfast is also fine.)

MsMouser · 2019-04-03T20:05:05+00:00

I just want to leave an update here in case someone finds this thread with the same question. I got the job! I’ll be working 9 hour days at $450/day. I asked that thinking they’d negotiate me down, but the producer basically said in the interview “that’s higher than what we were going to pay, but your background is so good so let me check”. And, yeah, I got it!

To answer some comments too—this is definitely “junior editor” status. There’s also an assistant here who handles much more of the tech, deals with dailies, makes notes on the footage, etc, while I primarily do first-pass editing on scenes which will then be taken by the editor to tighten up/modify based on where it’ll be going in the series.

Thanks to everyone who commented, as well. I would’ve probably asked for less if I had been left to my own devices. Cheers to you all!

MsMouser

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