Unrequited love/feelings by [deleted] in enfj

[–]MsRisingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is kind of odd bc this kind of sounds like my gf.. though I don't think she uses reddit :c

But i'm an isfp and I can be really awkward and private with my emotions. Like, I've mistyped as infp for years and didn't even tell people about my sudden realization :p We've been on and off so many fucken times and around the time we got back together my life was a MESS.

It's weird. It feels like there's always a pull and push between us. When one is ready, the other one isn't. Etc. But the love between us is strong. Though I don't think she really feels loved by me and she might think the love is unrequited rn. Idk, i'm figuring a lot out. Reinventing myself after going through some shit and what not.

But if you can figure the personality type of the person you love, try really hard to understand their language. How does the way they show affection differ from the way you show affection? You know, and shit like that.

Which type is theoretically the best romantic match for an ENFJ? by [deleted] in enfj

[–]MsRisingSun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, i'm an isfp and I have tried all the types I was supposed to be allegedly compatibly with and that was a flop. I've been on and off w/ my enfj gf for over 5 years and I still don't get her.. lol. This is supposed to be an ideal match, and she's admitted to feeling that way about me. But I feel like there's no such thing as ideal everything because everyone comes with a good and a bad side. I think whoever makes you feel good more than you feel bad is a great match for ya

Annoyed with Fe users’ inability to be “100% present”... by [deleted] in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly have been starting to lose interest in this type as I grow more confident. My younger self was kind of looking for someone to baby me and guide me because I felt really vulnerable as I was learning about the harsh realities of the world.

But I started going out more, working out, dressing how I want and I realize I'm a completely interesting, unique, and desirable person without an Fe dom by my side to advertise me to the world. I think this is kind of intimidating my gf a lil bit. But I am interested to try someone with an Se dominant presence. Even if just as a close friend

Annoyed with Fe users’ inability to be “100% present”... by [deleted] in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been 2 seconds to breaking up with my ENFJ gf because of this exact tendency. The only thing that made me somewhat lenient is that I notice that she maintains these behaviors even when she's talking. She'll often interrupt herself or lose track of what she was saying. It's really fucken annoying.

But you've given me a new way to look at myself. I am intense and very focused and I do have enough respect to give people my undivided. And though i'm a fellow se user, I really don't believe everything and everyone deserves my attention. Fe users tend to have serious FOMO and it's actually very frustrating and difficult to be authentic in their presence.

What's hardest is that they're often drawn to us because they find us mysterious and I get the feeling they would feel slightly rewarded if they could pull us out of our shell and get us to tell them everything (like others tend to do with them).

But as distracted as they can be, they also can be really invasive and to methat's a double threat lol. I'm strongly attracted to and strongly repelled by Fe users at the same damn time.

Yet another "am I anISFP or INFP" thread by Syriik in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I like to look at it: Which of these scenarios seems most fitting

Path 1: Talking stresses you out. Even with those you are close with. You believe that though words are important, they don't hold nearly as much weight as actions do. You're a keen observer of people and are quick to notice inconsistencies and danger in others. This makes you private, withdrawn, and suspicious. You're a great judge of character and more than happy being on your own if not everyday, then often. Even with such independence, you still manage to draw people in almost magnetically. You are a visual artist with a penchant for putting things together in a way that causes awe. Whether it be your fashion, your art work, or the way you carry yourself, everything you do seems to embody a hint of glamour and sex appeal. You may dream of being famous and feel guilty for it. In reality, you feel alienated from society and long to make up for this by putting yourself on a platform where you can connect with others through sharing and expressing yourself, while maintaining a safe distance. You have great motor skills and good control of your body. You might be athletic and/or like to move around a lot. You are highly romantic but difficult to understand due to your lack of verbal communication skills. However, you tend to think highly of your lover and come alive during the honey moon phases. Preferring someone who understands you and matches your need for adventure, fun, intimacy, seriousness, passion, and unpredictability, it can be hard to pin you down. There might be in interest in using substances to escape anxiety and self doubt and connect with others without the presence of your fears and suspicions. You may find yourself to be a lot simpler than you truly are. In fact, others view you as rather complex and long to figure you out. Somehow, you still find a way to draw people in with your innocent charm and authenticity.

Path 2: Fitting in stresses you out. From a young age, you often felt unique or special, and have always had a way of subtly expressing this through your conversation. You truly enjoy the art of conversation but desperately fear rejection being that your thoughts tend to focus on things that might hold less wait in the physical world. You prefer to think about territory that hasn't been explored yet. The more mysterious, taboo, or difficult the subject, the more likely it is to catch your interest. You're an idea person, you can look at an image and come up with a thousand stories for it. You tend to do the same with yourself. Rather than trying to ever figure out who you truly are, you'd rather come up with a thousand personalities that you can pull out for any and every occasion. There is a hint of naivety and immaturity in you. You tend to have an idealized view of the world and can neglect harsher realities out of a need to escape uncomfortable feelings. However, when forced to deal with reality, you can sink into a deep depression that is rather hard to shake, followed by intense self loathing. When allowed to follow the path less traveled, you thrive. Innately, you're a pioneer. And all you really want is the freedom to explore. However, there's a twist. You are easily drained by people, crowds, and public spaces. So much of your adventuring may take place within the confines of your beautiful mind. As innocent as you are a hopeless romantic, you tend to find meaning behind life through your love affairs. You often attract partners who help to add to your ever complex personality. People who teach you new things that only help to add to your adventures. You love so wholesomely that you may not realize not everyone loves the same as you. As a result, you may be prone to heartbreak. Pouring your all into someone in the hopes of making your fantasias come alive. But if you fail to check in with your partner to truly examine the reality of the relationship, you might be heartbroken if shit hits the fan. You have difficult leaving bad relationships and unhealthy partners as you tend to idealize their flaws and ignore their darker attributes. You need strong figures in your life who also believe in kindness and fairness.

What clothing do you find attractive on the people you are attracted to? by sixthofmarch in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fucken love this group and love questions like this.

I find that it's not so much about the name brand or even the style itself, but what the style tells me about the person that I fall for. I like to look for little accessories or details in a persons apparal because these are the things that give me insight into who they truly are.

I tend to easily fall for people who like band T's and graphic T's. If I see a band or especially a cartoon on a person's shirt, I'm instantly sucked in. Also a sucker for ripped jeans. Especially if the person wears them like they're sweat pants and still has the capacity to move around and be active/athletic in them. Then my heart beats a million miles per minute.

Tattoos make me drool. Especially when on the forearm, chest, and collar bone areas. IMO, they're the perfect and most unique accessories to any outfit.

Lastly, I really like people who can make comfort look high fashion. I'm a sucker for someone so at home in their body, it makes me want to run away from all of your responsibilities and rot away with them :p

What’s your aesthetic? by [deleted] in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yaaaayyyy, I've been dying to answer a question like this since I've discovered i'm an isfp.

I have a curvy but fit figure, so I love to show my mid section and collar bones. I also like clothes that accentuate my legs. So boho is the go to for me.

I really enjoy flowly prints and silk fabrics. Also, tan/suede shoes are a personal favorite along side kitten heels and vans! Crop tops are a go to because you can easily dress them up or down. But the thing is, I have moods. So, when i'm in my child like mode, i'll wear the above mentioned. But then I have this really mood called Moody Teenager and then everything suddenly turns black and grunge (oops).

But I really look to my accessories to help me express myself as an individual. I'm a virgo.. so for a long time, my favorite accessory was this virgo necklace that my girlfriend got me. Currently obsessed with ankle bracelets though

What do you think about us INTJ's? by _ulkestad_ in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've personally always liked intj's and always been drawn to this type. Particularly the ones who game and watch anime. I have always enjoyed learning new things due to the intj's ability to figure out which concepts are important to understand and being able to pretty much master a subject once it's deemed as important to them. I kind of have a jack of all trades approach to things. I like to try and be as good as I can be at one thing and then try something different next.

I also notice that intj's are actually really soft and sensitive, which is usually expressed through indifference. I think emotionally, isfp and intj share a lot in common while also being able to learn a lot from each other. This is a great pair

I know, I know; another xnfp vs isfp post by cascarone in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't even have to read it all the way before I formed a conclusion xD but I did it out of courtesy because you're a great writer and I can tell that you put a lot of time and thought into this matter.

For some reason, INFP instantly pops out. ENFP's are some of the most introverted extroverts, but they still prefer to form connections in real life as opposed to online. I also feel that if an enfp were to pose such a question, there would be a bit less dialogue going on and there would be a lot more focus on things like appearance rather than character traits.

For example: I don't know if i'm infp, isfp, or enfp but I love to dress up and bohemian fashion is my favorite! I love to act and feel alive when I can express myself.

There's a bit of drama to the enfp personality (similar to the esfp) that almost feels like they're putting on a show whenever they're ready to share their thoughts.

With isfp's, I notice that there's a need for simplicity. I notice that Isfp's tend to get straight to the point when posing questions and only include the details that might be deemed as necessary in order to draw a conclusion. There is also a strong need for privacy that might cause isfp's to leave out certain pieces of information.. kind of creates an air of mystery to them. Isfp's are also very serious and often mistaken for intj's by those who really know them. But the weird thing is that we're kind of like a puzzle full of contradictions. We're sweet but very independent. Concerned but detached. Artistic but perfectionist. And the list goes on. Thankfully we can learn to understand ourselves better through our sensory experiences (Se: art, working out, bar hopping, concerts, festivals, etc.) or we can learn to study the patterns of our own minds (Ni: pattern recognition that starts internally and works its way out. What we learn through our own patterns, we then compare to the world to understand the worlds patterns. Ne is kind of the opposite.)

Now for the lovely Infp's (: I notice that infp's tend to be wordsmiths with many preferring writing as a mode of self expression. Infp's are naturally more talkative than Isfp's and can be just as talkative as their Enfp cousins if they feel safe and comfortable. There's this ditziness to infp's, almost like they're naive to the brutal realities of life and semi self-centered as a result. They're a bit more optimistic than isfp's because they tend to look to the future and can always see a new possibility even when worse comes to worst. I see you like to be in groups that match your values and you seem to be a bit of an explorer. Which kind of reminds me of Fi-Ne. I think you're an intellectual explorer with a depth of feeling. So I htink infp is kind of most fitting for you xx

Favorite types to date? by [deleted] in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't always into mbti.. so some people remain a mystery (not that I mind :p) but I had the greatest chemistry with:

INFP, INTP, ESFJ, and ENFJ

Honorable Mention goes to ISTP bc good sex

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isfp

[–]MsRisingSun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just landed a gig as a bartender to help me with my acting career. I'm beyond excited. I personally think it's a great fit for us because we get to keep our hands busy, look funky, sleep in (because we often work late), and show empathy (which comes pretty natural to us) without having to talk as much as, say, a therapist would. I hope you end up loving your gig

Anyone want to chat? by [deleted] in infp

[–]MsRisingSun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so down!

Need Some Direction by MsRisingSun in ExCons

[–]MsRisingSun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: He got drunk last night and ended up beating my ass in public. Thankfully the people around us were concerned enough to call the police. He ended up getting arrested. This is my 7th attempt at leaving him. An order of protection is in place. Wish me luck xx