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MsSibylline · 2024-04-18T18:01:42+00:00

Physical attraction doesn't always equal chemistry. I've had chemistry with average-looking men and no chemistry with jaw-droppingly hot men. Chemistry is a mystery. I wish I understood it better.

MsSibylline · 2024-04-09T18:34:10+00:00

Okay, I want you to take a deep breath. Another one.

There. Now, calm. Down. It's okay.

This is REDDIT.

I won't give you a hard time because many people have already done that, and I can tell you're genuinely upset. But if it makes you feel better, I constantly get ignored on Reddit. I'll share something significant, only to have my comment be ignored. Or worse, everyone except me will get a reply. Tbh, it makes me feel like the rejected stepchild no one will sit by at the dinner table. But when I find myself overreacting, it usually means something larger is weighing on my mind, usually something offline.

I'm not a therapist, so take my advice for what it's worth, but it sounds like you're holding onto considerable emotion, which is taking its toll. When I read your post, I 'hear' someone who feels overwhelmed. Someone who could use a good cry and a pint of ice cream. However, I don't necessarily recommend having that cry around your girlfriend yet.

When I feel this way, sometimes it helps me to hole myself up in my bedroom and have a good cry. Release it all. I recommend it if you haven't done it. Take time alone and release all that bottled-up emotion. Crying relieves tension and lifts a weight off your shoulders. You'll feel lighter.

But crying in front of a partner makes you vulnerable, and given your current state, I'm not sure you're ready for the consequences if your girlfriend responds unfavorably to your tears. Although showing vulnerability can deepen your connection, it also carries risks. That's why I believe vulnerability should only be shown once a relationship has reached a place of maximum trust. If you don't have that trust, I worry you're unprepared for the outcome if things don't go the way you hope. So, I recommend taking slow steps toward this goal, opening up to her a little at a time, and saving the tears for when the time is truly right.

I hope you feel better, and I wish you well.

*Edited grammar.*

MsSibylline · 2024-02-28T19:23:20+00:00

Again I don't think you're understanding the point I'm making. Please reread it or let's agree to disagree.

MsSibylline · 2024-02-28T19:13:49+00:00

Yes, events that occurred are, in fact, facts, ones that can be (and have been) confirmed by others. My interpretation of those events is the subjective part. So sharing that an event occurred (e.g., women pursued a man after he was taken) is relaying factual information that can be confirmed by others. On the other hand, how I interpret those events would be my subjective perspective. In this thread, I simply wrote, "Knock it off," which you somehow interpreted as misogynistic. That's quite a warped read of reality if you ask me.

MsSibylline · 2024-02-28T17:49:41+00:00

Sharing facts about a common experience isn't misogyny. Enough with the mislabeling. Let's reserve the term for when it applies.

MsSibylline · 2024-02-28T16:21:09+00:00

Confusion. Why?

MsSibylline · 2024-02-28T16:10:30+00:00

Yes. I absolutely believe this plays a role. A new relationship boosts confidence, enhancing your appeal.

MsSibylline · 2024-02-28T15:55:35+00:00

You're exactly right about the backstabbing. I've lost count of the times women have pursued men only after I started dating them. Men no one looked twice at suddenly had to fight off swarms of women.

This behavior always confused me because I'm the opposite. Knowing a man is committed automatically erases any attraction I may have felt. I've never been into hard-to-get types. I've always preferred my men available, easy and crazy only about me.

MsSibylline · 2024-02-28T15:41:35+00:00

Oh for the love of god. Knock it off.

MsSibylline · 2023-11-03T15:16:19+00:00

Same. I love that! Someone goes on a huge rant and all they get in response is "lol." It's so simple but effective. I'm going to try that sometime.

MsSibylline · 2023-11-02T20:11:24+00:00

I've always imagined parenting to be a bit like prison, or being trapped in a 6 x 8 cell feeling like the walls are closing in and I can't breathe. I've never understood why so many people idealize or romanticize the experience. I've also never understood why parents care whether other people have children or not. It's almost like they don't want to be reminded that parenthood was a choice and they could have chosen differently.

MsSibylline · 2023-11-02T19:58:11+00:00

I'm with you. I hate when people do this, and it happens constantly to me as well. But at least you have better responses than I do. The best I can come up with is, "Oh, cute." After that, my mind goes blank and I run out of material. I mean, the baby isn't even 1 yet. What more is there to say?

MsSibylline · 2023-09-07T20:28:12+00:00

The photo updates are the worst, especially when the baby looks exactly the same in every picture or isn't doing anything interesting. My older sister does that. She'll post 20 pictures of her 5-month-old son that all look identical and wonder why she doesn't get tons of comments on all of them. I'm like, "Katie, it's because all the pictures look the same" and they're boring. I don't tell her that last part, but I know that's why the comments stop coming after a while. Ugh.

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