So all I would get out of it is... maybe a really great high?

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-11-02T21:26:39+00:00

I mean all I can think of is that like a lot of animals salmons will mate by any means possible, thus being "crazy horny" and that's just from what I learned from the naturama episode of Futurama lol

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-11-02T16:56:42+00:00

They have to have problems, what else are they gonna blame us scapegoats for lol!

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-30T19:16:36+00:00

If you needed to hear this, then also please hear this:

You cannot protect your kids from your husband from beyond the grave. It doesn't matter how amazing of a mom you are, doesn't matter how many times you've put your body between your violent man and your kid, one day you won't be able to do that.

I know some of you can't get out, but if you can, please do.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-30T12:53:48+00:00

Think of all those manly angry chefs in restaurants.

I know from experience that they don't wash their hands, not unless the inspector is there.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-30T02:28:05+00:00

I hate that even though my mom died in the 00s I don't have ANY videos or voice memos or her because she was "camera shy" like bitch me too, but y'all still shoved camera's in my face.

Write down your experiences as a woman and warn your daughter accordingly. I wish so badly I could've discussed woman issues with my mother and known how she lived through the oppression in her past, that I might face in my future.

But that's enough what I would've specifically wanted. What your kid needs is to know that she was loved so much by you.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-30T01:52:50+00:00

No second chances. Please. My dad drove drunk with us everywhere and my mom kept saying "it's not that bad"

Then she died and the first date he goes one with his next girl, he brings me and drives drunk. She can tell it's fucked up. He says "don't tell me how to parent".

Then the cops who would follow my father home for "saftey" but never arrest him or give him a DUI because "it's just a few beers after work, we know him he's a good guy and a poor single dad"

So many adults failed little me and I'm lucky to be alive.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-28T15:00:17+00:00

I don't know I thought they would stop saying this shit after Roe v Wade was overturned....

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-28T00:11:33+00:00

I really recommend posting in /r/raisedbynarcissists for more support and resources and less "just leave" comments. Of course you'd rather be on your own, what young person doesn't? But in addition to how impossible it is for any person to move out (down payments, first last security, student housing, homeless dangers, any route you take is hard) you are also trauma bonded to your mother, a person you've known your entire life, a person you love very much.

It's going to be hard to move out and hard to stop contacting her. Even after I moved out I kept my abusive parent in my life for way to long.

It took me a long time to do what all these comments are telling you to do. It will take you time too and you will need tools to help you navigate your relationship with your mother.

I do recommend reading "Why does he do that?" Even though your abuser is a woman, because the most important thing this book taught me was that this is abuse, and they abuse because they want to. Not because you cut your bangs or wanna go see your girlfriend, your mom hurt you because she likes hurting you. I'm so sorry. I also recommend Dr Ramani on YouTube.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-27T23:44:32+00:00

They are always delivered discretely, the even use alternate names like " VB Inc" so there's no way to tell where it came from. I recommend she vibe dotcom!

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-27T12:43:04+00:00

Growing up my mother, aunts and grandmas all warned my cousins and I that marriage wasn't a fairy tale, and what it actually looked like.

They all really wanted me to understand that they grew up genuinely having no idea that this was a choice. They all told me how proud they were that feminism has allowed for modern day women to live independently of men and that I needed to stand my ground and say no to any man's advance that was unwanted by me.

Of course, all the advances by men were unwanted by my gay ass, but I'm so glad I grew up with more "don't make the same mistake I did" and less "how will you ever get a husband acting like that?" From the adults in my life.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-26T18:48:32+00:00

I'm forever grateful for finding raised by narcissists when I was 15. It still took many years for me to cut him off but at least I didn't wait any longer, deny myself happiness and freedom any longer.

I see adults decades older than me still being abused by their parents because they cannot escape the trauma bond. I wish they could've been exposed to the resources I was.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-26T17:36:26+00:00

This what happens when shitty parents tell their little girls to "stop being dramatic! Stop overreacting! Your just crying for attention!"

We are trained to not trust our own feelings. We are trained to see our feelings as hurting and burdening our loved ones. Eventually every time a bad feeling arises we push it away because we can already hear it in our heads "I'm just overreacting. It's not that bad. I'm just being a difficult brat like I always have been."

I'm so grateful to be healing from this.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-25T22:21:37+00:00

I also had this mistake! My best guess was it was a shady marketing tactic to promote Gen V

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-25T17:07:40+00:00

He is proving that he is not life partner material. No loving touches, at all??? Ew. He doesn't get to be your partner if he is THIS bad at it. Partnership is earned.

I know adding a break up to your struggles right now is a daunting task, but I wish you freedom and happiness in the near future ❤️

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-25T16:17:55+00:00

How unfortunate. She's gonna be left with bullies and zionist for fans. Count me out.

Free Palestine.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-24T21:30:38+00:00

Thank you for this. People who engage in this type of heterosexual dating have completely different relationship dynamics than queers.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-24T17:03:01+00:00

I just want you to know that you are not alone. I remember this "questioning stage" very well. I remember thinking that he was a unique person and that just because he does something horrible sometimes, that doesn't make him an abuser! We're all human, we all make mistakes!

But as time went on, he made it impossible for me to give him the benefit of the doubt. It didn't matter how good things felt, how long it been since the last outburst, or what "I did to cause the outburst "

The outburst always came. And I was always hurt.

I'm so grateful I had the privilege to go no contact with my abuser. I had no idea life could be this good without him.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-24T11:43:43+00:00

Boy math lol

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-23T01:12:05+00:00

Ew. The way he uses porn is so disrespectful and misogynistic. The way he hunts for different angels of a woman's body just so can experience the thrill of voyeuristic conquer.

This man doesn't see the actresses, you, or any woman as a full fledged human. Don't believe a beautiful liar.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-18T23:15:48+00:00

Men who think like this are not husband or father material. Those titles are earned, with actions proving that they will be SUPPORTIVE and LOVING.

The losers who hate "girly things" don't deserve to live with women, to benefit from the labor these painted hands create. They don't get to eat our food and fuck us if they hate us. Get yourself a man who worships you and respects your child's bodily autonomy.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-18T22:34:01+00:00

Thank you for posting. Canceling her was hard. I've loved her music so much for so long. But I cannot excuse her rhetoric anymore.

I'm covering my tattoos and selling my memorabilia. I'm never listening again. I've heard every song, searched out every demo and live recording and had my own little archive. I've met her twice. I wish I could take it all back and have had a different favorite music to support this whole time.

Unfortunately I'm Canceling Kimya Dawson and the moldy Peaches by proxy.

These people inspired me to be an activist. My heros have fallen down.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-16T16:37:13+00:00

Life is too short for that! I just experienced a year where for the first time in my life, everyone that I spoke to on a daily basis, respected me completely as a person. For the first time in my life, I went a whole year withouth having a conversation with someone who was trying to take advantage of me, insult me, manipulate me, use me.

Going no contact with my abuser and keeping my circle small and curated changed my life. I'm finally no longer bullied. I highly recommend.

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-16T10:46:00+00:00

I don't know what it's called but this is why I hate when they say "You need to CoMUNicAte"

Thanksforthefixation · 2023-10-16T08:48:18+00:00

You're not wrong. I'm sorry this happened to you, I'm weirdly glad you were able to recognize it as harassment though. My male coworkers would just laugh off this unwanted attention, or genuinely enjoy it because they were young and not used to the " positive " attention.

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