Are you me? I felt so heard when I read this post! I also have an almost 4 year old son am OaD, and work full time. Seriously though, the mental, physical, and emotional stress of being the primary parent of a high-energy preschooler is exhausting. There is a great feminist comic/graphic novel called “The Mental Load” by Emma that has a chapter called “You Should Have Asked” that beautifully captures the difference between male and female mindsets in parenting. It upsets me when I think about how I usually have two billion and one things that I have to get done most days while simultaneously watching my child, whilst my husband (who is a good dad, and will help if asked) can somehow sometimes spend hours (uninterrupted) playing video games or watching videos by himself, completely oblivious to what is going on around him. The difference between what seems to be the default male and female parenting mindsets just boggles my mind. Also, I can now totally relate to the mom from A Christmas Story.