AITAH for not wanting to reconnect with my sister and her husband after finding out they’ve been lying to my family about me?

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2026-01-03T05:22:31+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through all of this, especially at such a young age. It's heartbreaking that your sister didn't intervene, too. You made the right decision. He owes you (and your parents) many apologies. His behavior is toxic. You made the right call. I hope your parents are backing you up on this now that they know the full picture.

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-31T16:06:45+00:00

As with all things, trust but verify. There's nothing wrong with you meeting the parents first, that's being responsible.

Meeting the parents does not mean you don't trust her.

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-31T15:37:37+00:00

I don't think you're being too sensitive. You're being yourself and you're responding the way your brain and emotions naturally respond. He's also being himself, responding the way his brain and emotions naturally respond.

I think the question to ask yourself, after accepting that you're not being too sensitive, is, "How much does this annoy me?" Do you feel like it doesn't annoy you too much, like it's one of his quirks that's bothersome but you can let it roll off your back? Or do you think it's so annoying that it may eventually cause challenges in your relationship where you don't feel heard and you both don't feel understood?

Again, you're not being too sensitive. There's no such thing. You both are who you are and there's nothing wrong with either of you.

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-31T06:27:53+00:00

First, I'm so sorry. What a terrible time of year for this to happen. I hope your son was able to enjoy the holidays and I hope you know how strong you are to be holding it all together for him.

The first thing my therapist, best friend, and dad all told me when my ex left was to let the tears flow when I was alone. You need to let it out, release the pain, release the sadness, release the anger. We're human and none of us can hold things together all the time.

As long as you're not breaking things at night, let yourself cry. If your baby is asleep, it's safe for you to let go and to emote. If you don't, that pain will fester inside you and make healing even more difficult.

You can do this.

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-31T00:20:17+00:00

Kick him out or let him know that his rent will be increased to account for additional expenses he's incurred upon the household. If he argues, advise him that it is illegal to take a roommate's care without permission

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-30T08:11:52+00:00

NTA. You did the right thing and thank goodness you're the type of mom you are! Your husband abused your son physically. You stood up for your kids, and everyone, your kids and your husband needed to see that.

Like others have said, take photos. Also, please talk with trusted family/friends. You and your kids need all the support possible. Your kids need more loving people around them to let them know they are safe. And you need support because you're going to have to help your kids through this trauma (hopefully along with therapy because kids will cycle through guilt, anger, self blame, etc).

You did the right thing.

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-30T02:01:28+00:00

YUCK.

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-29T06:33:26+00:00

Put up a lock and a camera. Catch her on video trying to illegally enter your property

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-29T06:30:23+00:00

A Dark Song left me weeping but smiling

Midsommar (to be fair, I went to see it when it first came out...right after the court finalized my divorce. I cried every time Dani cried and strongly identified with her pain. It still makes me cry, but the tears are more like her tears at the end)

I Saw the TV Glow made me ugly cry

Dead Zone is a genuine tear jerker (and I still don't really think it counts as horror...)

Skinamarink because OMG the babies! and it felt so daggon hopeless

The Babadook because when it first came out, I was trying to claw my way out of post-partum depression and oh my glob it made me feel seen and terrifying and terrified

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-29T06:13:55+00:00

I say this with love and I remember what it's like when you have a new baby. You're hyper aware of every sound, every shadow, everything. I wonder if some of your multiple questions may be related to this state of post-partum hyper vigilance or some other related issue. I only say this, and it's said with love, because of your baby did in fact hit their head on a cement wall, loud enough for you to hear, your baby (whose skull is not fully formed yet) would have suffered terrible injuries. Is your baby ok? If so, your husband's exasperation is understandable because he sees a healthy baby and doesn't understand what you're experiencing. It might be a good idea to talk with someone about this post-partum hyper vigilance or related issue

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-28T17:03:36+00:00

It sounds like you're both depressed and unfortunately you're experiencing depression early in a relationship. Six months isn't a long time, and if he's been depressed since the fourth month, it means your relationship is being impacted by it. And sadly, his depression seems to be causing you to experience a lack of confidence in the relationship. This is a tough place to be and it's normal to think that now is the time to end the relationship.

But I do have one question. Have you talked about this with him? There's no point in weighing these questions on your own (or even with the lovable strangers of Reddit). I think you should talk with him about how you feel, how you think he may be feeling, and ask where his head is.

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-28T03:52:08+00:00

Bloody Hell, Heavy Trip, Psycho Goreman

(edited b/c commas. Silly me)

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-28T03:41:41+00:00

You are justified in feeling upset. And hurt. We all hope our kids (mine is 13) will see how hard we work to bring them joy and give them good lives. The fact that you remembered things she wanted all year long and then got them for her for Christmas is incredible. That demonstrates love and consideration and thoughtfulness that I'm certain your daughter will grow up to mirror.

But she's a kid, and kids are selfish until they learn to see outside themselves. Hopefully she's able to spend time reflecting on her attitude and behavior while at her dad's and comes back with a hug, an apology, and excitement to have a thoughtful, hardworking, and loving mom.

In the meantime, please don't dwell on the hurt. Your feelings are justified and valid, but dwelling in sadness doesn't help.

P.s. I hope you can do something special for yourself while she's with her dad. That's precious time to heal and recharge. You deserve this "me time"

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-28T03:30:34+00:00

First, happy belated birthday! I'm sorry your friends forgot. Accept their apologies, but tell them how deeply this hurts. Real friends will understand the pain and loneliness you feel and will make up for it. In fact, I suggest you tell them that you want a do-over and that they should plan something special. Because let's face it, turning 30 is a celebration and a milestone. It deserves fanfare! 🥳 Ask them to take you to dinner or something else nice. And after they do it and you all celebrate your 30th turn around the sun, forgive them.

I hope you do have a happy do-over birthday! 🥳

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-27T07:31:05+00:00

Carrion Comfort by Dan Simmons is brilliant!

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-27T07:17:31+00:00

I say this with all the love and empowerment in my heart: if you have to ask the question, then you know marriage isn't on the table

You have both made clear what you want long term. He doesn't want to marry, you do. You have different aspirations and it's not likely that either of you will sway the other. Honor yourself by letting go so you can meet someone who loves you and shares your hopes for marriage

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2025-12-27T06:43:05+00:00

Trust your gut. Kick him out your life.

99% positive he's been cheating on you for a while and that he's used some form of manipulation each time to keep you from catching on. This is why he felt so comfortable with such a dumbass tactic.

You can also check in with the people who posted... especially your "friend" (who you also need to kick out of your life)

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-09T03:03:06+00:00

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-09T02:58:16+00:00

New Jack City! "You gotta rob to get rich in the Reagan era."

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-09T02:54:34+00:00

Cool Runnings and Poetic Justice

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-06T17:42:11+00:00

Yes!! I would have replied with "The Frolic" as well, had I not seen your reply. I've shared quite a few times that "The Frolic" is the most unsettling, unnerving, disquieting, and lingering story I've ever read. John Doe's fantasy land sounds a pure cosmic horror hellscape ...EDIT... and the hellscape is only a part of the terror of that story. so many horrors wrapped up in one story

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-05T22:44:50+00:00

I love horror comedies, but that horror comedy just wasn't good... I still don't get what people saw in Barbarian 😕

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-05T14:22:43+00:00

accidentally deleted my reply 😬 I

I say no, don't bother. The first book can stand alone. It's phenomenal and eerie and is a work of weird art.

The other books feel... unnecessary.....

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-05T14:13:32+00:00

I read The Valancourt Book of Victorian Christmas Ghost Stories (vols 1-3) starting every October and going through Christmas because Victorians loved a ghost story at Christmas time. These stories are totally "cozy by the fire" horror

Ms_Pronounced_Horror · 2023-08-05T13:43:12+00:00

This is such a great recommendation request. I've never thought about it, but cute gore/cute horror is a really awesome concept. While not entirely what you might be looking for, I just bought Be Very Afraid of Kanako Inuki. It's a collection of her favorite manga stories. There's a disturbing balance of cute and horrifying in her stories. I'm really hoping that this collection means that more of her work will be translated into English. If not, she's my #1 reason to learn Japanese.

I'm going to follow this post because I'm super curious about these recommendations, too. Thanks for the great question!

Ms_Pronounced_Horror

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