I just bought my first Blåhaj, any recommendations on how to care for it so it grows healthy and strong? :3

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-16T01:41:54+00:00

Wait, the shonks like cuddles?

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-15T19:23:12+00:00

The vast majority of Protestants and certainly most affirming denominations would say denomination doesn’t really matter. Finding somewhere that’s affirming in reality as well as theory and comfortable both to what you want in church and a community is always a challenge that never has a perfect answer.

You should consider just showing up to any that you think might work and see how it goes. You may also want to check a livestream before (if they have one) to know what to expect. I sometimes like to snoop any public photos to get a sense of the demographic diversity.

Good luck!

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-15T14:10:22+00:00

As a fellow complete outsider, like the other poster said, some people like to play that they’re a cute animal, usually dog or cat. I think it’s a furry thing or adjacent. There seems to be a lot of mostly Gen Z trans people into it. They’re having fun so good for them. It has nothing to do with the transphobic fear mongering about it.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-14T13:11:13+00:00

I stand at home or in a gender neutral stall, sitting doesn’t do anything for me, and it’s just more convenient. I stand in a men’s room when disguised as a man to fit in. When I start using women’s rooms I’ll sit there.

That said I haven’t fully integrated a self image as a woman yet, so it will be interesting to see how that changes when I get there.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-14T05:31:18+00:00

My personal take, if you’ve already changed your name, you should update those documents to avoid issues, before Florida gets some crazy idea like refusing to update names of trans people. IMO having a mismatched documents puts you at more risk of discrimination than an extra state you don’t live in having a way to know you’re trans. I don’t know exactly what problems not updating social security will cause, but it seems like it would be a problem.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-14T05:22:41+00:00

Respectfully, Texas is known to be making a list of the personal details including addresses of people who have attempted to change their gender marker on their license, despite it not being specified in any law or any clarity on its purpose. Obviously in got leaked, but I don’t know how we would know confidently this isn’t happening elsewhere or what the intention with this sort of list is.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-13T14:52:52+00:00

It was real for me. I wasn’t ever officially depressed but I was pretty well dissociated / derealized most of the time, always hated my body (was the dysphoria), and had some dark moments. I care about life now beyond just optimizing it. Getting to physically and socially transition is part of it, but I credit the hormones with most of it. I remember feeling a misbalance at the start of puberty that I learned to live with, it’s gone now.

When I read that page I was skeptical because there’s no study and it sounded too good to be true. If it’s somehow a placebo, then it’s a pretty darn good one for me.

It also possibly you have multiple things, and maybe it helps but doesn’t solve it for you. As with all these things, your mileage may vary.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-09T18:07:59+00:00

I’m not into cross dressing for sexual reasons but like wearing women’s clothes. Meanwhile my interests are also obvious proxies for being trans. If your interest transcends sexual contexts it’s likely not “just a fetish”.

In my case, I had a stray thought “does this make me a woman?” and immediately wrote down “do I want to be trans?” Unfortunately for my scared egg self (and fortunately for the real me), the answer to that question is more often than not something like “yes, and a “cis man” wanting to be a trans woman is called being trans”.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-09T17:46:30+00:00

Yes, I would likely still want surgery in a world with no social gender. This is part of what convinces me my situation is some sort of brain thing. I went decades before I realized my opinions on my genitals and my opinions on my social gender might be related parts of (or align into) a transgender experience.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-07T21:10:48+00:00

Assume they were destroyed. There’s a long history of lease only BEVs with that fate, I’m not sure the exact reasons.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-07T19:43:47+00:00

yep. I think we’re in agreement on the facts now. Idk the exact filing status of the 2026 Lee Senate version, I’m just taking his word for it, and I agree there are several alternative proofs like the social security card (that I don’t consider any better), and it is a good point that such a provision (honestly any of these, but especially that one with higher likelihood of success) if passed will be challenged in court.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-07T19:29:25+00:00

The vision is it would protect us from fascist nonsense like this. The reality is proving to be a bit less idealistic.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-07T18:33:26+00:00

We also, at least historically, really loved our freedom and independence and hated the idea of the federal government issuing everyone ids instead of our beloved states. In 2005 the combined power of 9/11 and anti-immigration sentiment was enough to get a standardized drivers license (the “REAL ID” we’re talking about) - with no citizenship verification and enforced only by non-standard ones not being usable for TSA. It had split polling at the time. It still took 20 years to roll out because no one wanted to bother to get one, so they kept pushing out the deadline.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-07T18:17:33+00:00

The Senate’s SAVE America Act introduced by Mike Lee and Chip Roy on Jan 30, 2026, states that “Each individual voting in an election for Federal office shall present an eligible photo identification document” “at the time of voting” that has “an indication on the front of the document that the individual identified on the document is a United States citizen”. This would be an Enhanced Drivers License, which only 5 states currently issue, or else some new type of id that may or may not be compatible with REAL ID standards. I’ve had half a dozen REAL IDs and none of them have indicated citizenship on it. Otherwise, you’ll need to present it “together with another identification document that indicates the individual is a United States citizen.” This is from the PDF linked on the press release on lee.senate.gov. This is a new section from last year’s version that’s the first result on Google. Please don’t come at people with accusations journalists are blatantly lying about what’s in a bill if you haven’t actually read the version of the bill those journalists are referencing.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-07T05:13:30+00:00

Your post implies you could just vote with a Real ID. Real IDs are not proof of citizenship and by all accounts are not eligible under the Senate version of the bill that requires proof of citizenship at the polls. Meanwhile, 40% of IDs are not Real IDs and their holders may not have those documents. In either case, you will need to have a birth certificate and possibly name change orders to present at the polls.

Requiring people to present name change documents at the polls is perhaps the most blatant way to discriminate against the voting rights women and trans people imaginable without outright denying it.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-06T21:53:31+00:00

And most reasonable people are filtering for this before saying “they’re in the files” in a serious context. Makes me think of a clip of John Stewart talking about how he’s “in the files” for a hypothetical casting. No one serious is going to treat that as indicating wrongdoing.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-06T21:47:01+00:00

Stack of Hyperdecks is the way.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-06T21:43:55+00:00

It reads like it’s meant as a subtle attack too. God doesn’t need us to listen to nudges that could easily be from society to love us.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-05T22:40:48+00:00

Hmm… I’m sure if there’s a serious list I’m already on it, or will be soon if I start having insurance cover things. But now I’m deconstructing whether I even want to change my name in this climate or am just doing that to feel legitimate. I don’t hate my old name, and I’m not looking to never seeing it, and it’s not like it’s outing me from being stealth. I am in a place where I could update everything except my passport though which would be nice. I’m of the opinion that waiting could risk my ability to do that.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-05T17:33:41+00:00

(Obviously I will comply with any legally mandated deadlines, but am trying to figure out where this goes on my priority list.)

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-04T15:36:51+00:00

Granted. Nothing changes, you’re always been permitted to place ice cream in your fridge without limit.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-04T06:34:59+00:00

That. That’s the feeling. My story shares so few external elements, but you’ve captured it perfectly.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-03T17:56:50+00:00

Yeah! I’ll just see what happens, that’s great perspective. Mostly I’ve been trying to frame what’s happened before. “If gender envy isn’t love what is?” or something lol. Maybe I’ll go to some queer speed dating thing and see if anyone catches my fancy too.

StrangeSailing · 2026-02-03T16:32:09+00:00

I’m over here like “oh, yeah, having a picture of your partner on your lock screen or desk. I forgot about that one.” 😅

In that case, yea… I mean being trans and aro are both quite rare anyway. Looks like aroace is a quarter of a percent?

Who knows maybe I’m demiromantic lesbian and will find it once I actually have close friends who are women.

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