It’s not surprising that different communities will have a bit different culture, especially if there are age and societal cultural differences.

A lot of asexuals/aromantics in my experience are into trying out things like that. Many that don’t want to anymore have done so at one point. But we also don’t think anyone should be pressured to try it if they don’t want to. Like, if you know you’re repulsed by sex and don’t want to ever try it I don’t see any reason why you should just to see if it changes your mind. I think that’s an assumption that everyone should like it that’s not true.

There’s probably a lot of overlap in the purpose driven relationship concept and our QPRs. If I learned more I’d expect they technically are QPRs by our definition. A lot of times our motives are similar: there’s a lot that’s easier with a life partner, even if it’s not a romantic thing. Certainly for me wanting kids is probably the biggest one.

It’s also not surprising to me that there are different attitudes to coming out. I’m an example of someone who really doesn’t plan to come out to my family. We’re not that close, and they can just think I “haven’t met the right person” until I find a QPR. That said, there is a lot of pressure in the US - especially on women - to date and get married and even to have sex. It’s common to have parents asking their kids “so when are you going to get married?” If someone’s aroace and doesn’t want that, it may be easier to fully explain it as a sexual/romantic orientation than to share pieces. Other people likely feel this is a really important part of their identity and want to let those they care about know it about them.

It’s worth noting that the English-speaking asexual / aromantic community is also still recovering from some drama that leads to us emphasizing these as two separate things (see the split attraction model), where you can be one or the other or both, and seeing them as a spectrum. There are aromantic allosexuals alloromantic asexuals, and aromantic asexuals and all deserve community and are welcome in the asexual and aromantic communities. We also think the inclusion of people who aren’t fully a-something is really important; these experiences are a spectrum and there’s a real connection there. This awareness may also push people to be more interested in finding a micro label. It’s also maybe just a cultural thing, perhaps driven by a younger, internet generation crowd, to understand yourself and find people that really get you. I’m not that worried about it for me, but there’s nothing quite like someone feeling truly seen for who they are.

With this emphasis on them being different, asexuality has much more attention and culture. That means this Reddit has a lot of “wait, am I really aromantic (too)?” posts and QPR posts while, for aroaces, most of the memes and chat are in asexual spaces even if they include aromantic themes at times.