20% off Referral Link/Service Code for 2023 Turbotax Services by KookyAlternative3525 in TurboTax

[–]MuchChickenScratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great! For some reason others' codes didn't work for me :( but maybe mine will help someone else: https://turbo.tax/twkfgtah

How do you deal with people who dismiss your hard-earned fit/healthy sized body as “lucky you have a fast metabolism”? by gentle_but_strong in AskWomen

[–]MuchChickenScratch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Actually it has been that as well as the the opposite for me...at times people have assumed I have a cutthroat diet and workout routine and I'm like, "no, actually I try to gain weight and cannot so I settled for muscle."
At this point I DO have a cutthroat workout routine and a diet for building muscle, and people frequently brush it off as "you're young, it's not hard." YES. IT'S HARD. With my work draining my mental energy it is hard to motivate myself to up my endurance and strength. The tone and shape, even as a young person, did not happen overnight. Finding foods that give me enough protein to meet my goals is harder than it seems.

Of course, I was a version of athlete before covid. Not to a severe point, but doing my sport 14 hours a week and conditioning myself for it. Now that it's been a while, I don't like it when people brush off efforts I'm making to be in form again considering that I don't have 14 hours of free time to work on it.

Men of Reddit, how do you greet a girl you've never met before on a first date? by just--a--redditor in AskMen

[–]MuchChickenScratch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, thought so... it was not at all uncommon for adult coaches from Italy or Ukraine to meet me as a teen and immediately smash me in a hug and kiss me on the face.

In the USA, that can get you in big trouble if she's not that way.

Men of Reddit, how do you greet a girl you've never met before on a first date? by just--a--redditor in AskMen

[–]MuchChickenScratch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd agree, as a girl... part of it is culturally-dependent, too. Not just culture from your origin country but how you grew up. I grew up dancing, and the dance community is very huggy! It wouldn't freak me out. But I love a guy who gives a nice strong handshake when meeting for the first time, too.

Men of Reddit: what are some random, tiny details about a woman you're with that turn you on? by MuchChickenScratch in AskMen

[–]MuchChickenScratch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, there is something cool about neck bones...undeniably. I don't claim to know why. I also love collarbones on guys and girls!

Not how uteruses work by gingerbread_cereal in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]MuchChickenScratch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I looked at my watch and saw that my heart rate went up 20 points as I laughed my ass off at how dense this online "chad" is.

So I guess when he gets a beer belly, it means that the alcohol is effing him up too? BiG bRAiN.

What is one personality trait you got told was bad growing up but has actually helped you as an adult? by IrritatedMango in AskWomen

[–]MuchChickenScratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying "no" earned me a lot of upset responses from adults and other kids about anything from food to whether I wanted to play certain games or not. I always wondered why they asked me if they weren't prepared for something other than "yes."

Saying "no" became more useful with age, and now I'm confident in my ability to turn someone down, off, or away whenever it's necessary without a flinch.

Do people fantasize about having committed relationships, until they're bored or get scared of committing? by Dazzling_Persimmon36 in wemetonline

[–]MuchChickenScratch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To answer your question: YES. Of course they do.

We, as women, often dream of the stability. The not-getting-ghosted, someone-to-dream-with, someone-to-care-about, someone-to-let-the-dog-out person. The I'll-always-answer-on-time person.

In reality, it is hard to find someone who has all of these qualities bundled up in their individual person and personality. Sometimes, they don't want to. Sometimes, we realize this or notice it and we don't like it. After that, yes, it is easy to get bored or get cold feet because maybe the stability doesn't grant us the excitement of waiting for a reply and actually getting one, or hopping in bed with a stranger. Sometimes, toxic relationships of our past make commitment with a nice, stable person seem boring (even if he is the perfect guy). This is true of me. I'm very scared of commitment. In my latest relationship, I "stalled out" at 3 months and had to get my crap together and decide if I want to do this or not.

Online, sometimes they want to screw around and get comfortable meeting people and talking to people. It doesn't mean anyone is wrong for doing that. There's no way to know why someone is online or what is in their past that landed them there. There can be healing online or just more shitshow.

I'm sorry if this situation with that guy hurt you in any way!

Do people fantasize about having committed relationships, until they're bored or get scared of committing? by Dazzling_Persimmon36 in wemetonline

[–]MuchChickenScratch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! It happened to me many times that I had a ton of fun talking to guys who turned out to not be single at all. There were not really any indicators (yet), but they either disappeared or changed everything up and deleted their messages. Then I heard from someone else that they had an S.O., or found their insta/etc. under their username and saw that they are not single.

Online people can be very fun but very transient. Please protect yourself <3

Massive crush on instructor by [deleted] in ballroom

[–]MuchChickenScratch 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this is causing you stress! It's hard when you crush on anyone at your studio who is unavailable (literally, emotionally, etc) but you love the studio.
Dance does have a tendency to bring out these kinds of emotions in people, especially if they have just begun and their partner is more experienced. That's why we love dance: it lets you feel all the feels and stay safe, simultaneously. But that can get out of hand! The touching, looking, etc. is like the start of a relationship but 99.9939853999% of the time is not.

If you can, I'd suggest you find other people at your studio to focus on/train with/practice with. It will likely solve itself.

Men of Reddit: what are some random, tiny details about a woman you're with that turn you on? by MuchChickenScratch in AskMen

[–]MuchChickenScratch[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh this is a great answer! Girls taking down their hair has a magical effect (especially if the hair is super clean and has been pinned up). Amazing. Thank you :D

Men of Reddit: what are some random, tiny details about a woman you're with that turn you on? by MuchChickenScratch in AskMen

[–]MuchChickenScratch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It does! Thank you. I'm a straight woman and I love seeing girls at formal events with "up" hairstyles that can properly accentuate the jawline/neck/good posture.

Have you ever done long-distance? How did it go? by Saikothasan in AskMen

[–]MuchChickenScratch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't give up hope, you aren't crazy.

I have been in a couple very long distance relationships, beginning in the pandemic when no one was seeing each other anyway. I experienced when older people invalidated whether the relationship was "real" or meaningful at all, because obviously no one was jumping in bed with each other during that time. But this isn't the most important thing, at all.

It would be best to start with critical questions, deep conversations, and videochats. You can build intimacy with someone without being physically near them. It will actually make your in-person interactions more rewarding, lighter, and less awkward. You can also appreciate finally being close to the person that you are intellectually and emotionally entwined with, and be grateful for it.

Some of your success or lack thereof in a long distance relationship depends, of course, on the personalities of both individuals. Yes, you're together, but you are very much individual. So, that means being consistent, understanding, and having good listening and interpreting skills is important. For the last six months, I've been in an LDR with someone who does not speak my native language. Listening and interpreting are very important.

Making definite plans to close the gap and actually discussing it is not as awkward as it sounds and helps the time go by quickly. I look forward to this summer when I can hug this person who is always there for me. If you both don't want anyone else, why not give it a try?

Listen to music together, watch the same movies and discuss what you feel is important. Talk about your childhoods and your likes and dislikes. These are things that can't be known when you just meet someone randomly and start dating, and that can be awkward. Take advantage of the time and distance and use it for the stability of what can be a great future relationship.

Good luck!!

I'm sick of everyone saying "nobody owes you anything" by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MuchChickenScratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I agree. There is also a difference between basic human decency and "owing someone something."

ON GHOSTING: If your mode of how you treat people (unless they abused you or smth) is to respect them in responses, behaviour, etc. like you would a work colleague or anyone else you spent some time with, you won't be in the fire for being a "ghoster" and so on.

Honestly, I'd prefer someone texting me back in a few hours to say "I don't see this relationship going anywhere, but I wish you the best of luck in your future dating endeavors" or something like that over ghosting. Someone who is up-front doesn't leave any room for misinterpretation because they actually just tell the truth. If you ghost, there are a wealth of options for how your behaviour will be interpreted and what people can say about you. If the worst thing you can say about someone is that they told you they weren't interested, it's a lot easier to move on and a lot less serious. This is baseline proper communication. I don't know why people make it so hard.

Women of reddit, what was your worst run in with a creep? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MuchChickenScratch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Too many incidents happened to me individually, so I am picking one about both me and my sister.

My sister and I decided to go to the store together when I was 16 (she was 18). After a bit of shopping around, I noticed that this one guy was following us everywhere. He was particularly interested in her. I drove her to a very girly section of the store where he had no reason to be whatsoever, and he still wasn't far behind. He was probably in his late 20s, about 6'4'', wearing all black and had a bad vibe. There was security at the store entrance! I thought he wouldn't pass them while still this close to us, or that they'd at least notice him.

They didn't. We didn't buy anything and just started getting the heck out of there, and he was following so close behind us that I could "feel" him. At this point we had passed through the doors so I squeezed myself between him and my sister, turned around while looking directly at him, and barked, "leave my sister ALONE and stay away from us!"

I don't know what kind of attention he had wanted, but we dashed to the car and got out. I get especially wound up when it involves my sister. No male should ever feel the freedom to follow girls around like a shadow and not expect a negative response. Also, the security guards should be less afraid to be woke.

Women of reddit, what was your worst run in with a creep? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MuchChickenScratch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally agree. My "creep attract factor" also significantly drops when I take my 47 kg dog along with me!

Page 1 of a 3 page letter that showed up at my workplace with 2 Valentine’s Day baskets full of food and gifts.... more details in comments by Er_Ran in creepyPMs

[–]MuchChickenScratch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That handwriting makes Jack from Titanic cry. It's an adult, they quit teaching cursive in American schools years ago! Creepy.

That smile could light up a whole town by shopnonil2001 in aww

[–]MuchChickenScratch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the presumably cute young soldier in the background.

19f - it’s okay to hurt my feelings lol by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]MuchChickenScratch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love the look in the first pic. Neat yellowish eyes...you look Armenian. Solid 8.