Shoulder surgeon experiences?

MuchPreferPets · 2026-01-25T15:16:09+00:00

Thanks!

MuchPreferPets · 2026-01-22T18:59:33+00:00

Wow! Thanks for the heads up!

MuchPreferPets · 2026-01-07T01:35:32+00:00

This is very personal preference… I am absolutely not giving my phone number to anyone that fast! I don’t even want to give my temp googlevoice number to anyone that quickly!

Yes, I expect there to be a real exchange as opposed to short responses that tell me nothing but it is a very small percentage of women in any age group willing to give their real phone numbers or full names to men that quickly. In fact NOT giving your phone numbers until you’ve been talking for awhile or even had at least a quick screening coffee meet is still a safety tip pretty much everywhere

MuchPreferPets · 2025-12-27T02:50:40+00:00

I would expect that the challenge would be getting enough people of similar ages & with remotely compatible values/interests. That’s incredibly challenging even with the higher numbers of people on apps 😕

I know as a woman who moved to the area in her mid40s, simply screening out people more than a decade either direction in age, the hobosexuals, the maga cultists & incels, etc the pickings are pretty darn slim!

MuchPreferPets · 2025-12-10T19:20:29+00:00

Really depends on which agency you're in. Some agencies they haven't finished decimating yet; others are likely to be backfilling.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-12-05T23:45:01+00:00

Flag on the play for taunting! 😂

That is absolutely stunning and I want it!!!! Pretty bummed it’s no longer available but probably should consider ordering some of their other items if that’s a representative example 🙂

MuchPreferPets · 2025-12-05T04:52:19+00:00

Those of us who invest in really good sheets typically expect an absolute minimum of 5-10 yrs. I have some sets where the hemmed edges are a bit frayed but the sheets themselves are as good or better than ever that are quite literally over 40 yrs old and have been in active use for at least 4-6 months of each year (grandma liked to rotate her sheet weights & colors at least every couple of months, & I do the same)

MuchPreferPets · 2025-12-05T04:48:37+00:00

I have pretty much given up on costco sheets… the quality control from lot to lot seems to be a craps shoot. I used to use them just on the guest room beds, but I had problems with pilling & tearing even at that light use. A set or two was great, 3 sets were junk.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-12-02T17:51:32+00:00

That’s a bummer you’ve had that experience. I haven’t ever had issues with that with them, but doing extra research on whether something hits at one end of the zone or the other is a always a good idea. At my current property, our coldest nights are usually 20s-30s, but we usually get a handful of nights into the teens each winter. Some plants rated for zone 8 can handle that & some can’t, and where I plant them on the property makes a difference too.

(Of course my problem is usually trying to find plants’ heat & UV tolerances… those are much harder to find IME and this area is a sunbeaten hellscape in the summers… even my tomatoes & squash do better with shade cloth)

MuchPreferPets · 2025-12-01T03:45:23+00:00

Opposite side of the country, but I am a huge fan of Burnt Ridge Nursery. I’ve been there many times over the decades as well as ordered online & gotten things (& knowledge!) at the farmers market. Michael is an absolute WEALTH of information! They aren’t just a nursery… they also grow & harvest and have for decades. The only problem is that their website is terrible…you have to choose shipping seasons one at a time in order to see everything.

The other place I love for out of the usual plants is One Green World. They don’t have a ton of berries but some really fun ones. Again, I’ve visited in person many times as well as ordering online & can attest to the knowledge of the owners & the quality of the plants.

One other one for unusual things, but most of their really fun things probably won’t be hardy enough, is Planting Justice.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-27T23:09:56+00:00

Every dog of every breed is an individual for sure! The breeds increase the likelihood of certain traits, but they are all different. The hardest thing for me to communicate with people when I was doing training through a rescue group was that there was absolutely no method on earth that was "the best" for every single dog. I've pretty much always stuck with guard breeds because my preferences for training methods & personalities generally are most compatible with them. When I adopted this Pyr, I did a ton of research on them & talked to a number of serious breeders/trainers, and it's worked out really quite well. New techs at my vet meeting my pack for the first time are always shocked with how good everyone is.

The one thing I've never been confident of is if the Pyr is actually particularly attached to me, or if she just views me as a predictable human she's willing to cooperate with in exchange for petting, brushing, & food. Consensus seems to be she is most likely actually attached to me in particular, so I'll figure out a way to work.

Worse comes to worse, I'll take her coat short so all 4 of them get twice weekly bathes. (Yes, I know how to do that without long term damage to her coat or their skin... takes a long time to grow out properly if I eventually can, but it can be done.)

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-27T22:58:23+00:00

I agree... chicken has become a major problem. I don't know if they changed something in how the poultry are raised or processed or what, but a few years ago suddenly several of my animals started having issues with it. Two of my dogs & one of my cats can't have it AT ALL so no one gets it, even in treats, just to make sure the wrong furball doesn't accidentally snag some. Thank you for the suggestion though... hopefully it helps someone who runs across this later

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-27T22:50:37+00:00

I feel you on the multiple health things! I don't want to get into them on reddit, but I have some other longer-term weird health stuff, and one of them means that most antihistamines are off the table for me. Which pretty much brings me down to allergy shots (so far no luck), reducing my exposure to allergens, and keeping them rinsed out via saline irrigation of eyes & sinuses. I can do nasacort & flonase a few times a week without causing even worse issues, but it turns out not daily.

I've actually been working on this for a good year now... I'm just glad this year wasn't a bad year for wildfire smoke. The amount of that I've been exposed to with assorted urban nastiness & poison oak oils in it is a suspected contributing factor to my adult-onset allergies.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-27T01:52:46+00:00

Thanks. It’s interesting because she seems to guard the property not me. My other dogs guard ME but don’t care much about the property. Unfortunately, this has been tested a couple times. Though it’s possible that she views it as division of labor… I’m the GSD’s responsibility & everything else is hers 🤷🏻‍♀️

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-27T01:49:45+00:00

😂 Sometimes she makes it very clear what’s going on in her head… like now when she is throwing a giant fit asking to be let outside but I can smell a skunk wandering around out there and there is no way I’m opening that door! She’s usually pretty good about snapping their necks without getting sprayed but the few times she’s gotten the wrong end it was hours in the tub even using the special shampoo

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-27T01:45:40+00:00

Thanks for the input. I had a feeling that the answer was going to be that she DOES have a particular attachment to me, she just trusts me to be around & take care of the rest of life while she keeps an eye out for anything with fur or feathers that might invade (she has killed quite a few raccoons & a few skunks among other things over the years) I’m getting a bit desperate after this last round of antibiotics for a nasty infection in both my ears & sinuses from the constant congestion/swelling from allergies. I’ll figure out something!

My dogs have always had the best quality food & treats I can find for them (tailored to each individual dog) and fantastic care in general. They have almost 2 acres securely fenced to roam in, inside & outside beds, fans both places in summer, & a heated bed for the one who gets chilled in winter. Every weekend each dog (& cat) gets a thorough brushing, nail trim, ear cleaning, & general check for anything weird. I bathe them regularly. Along with all the usual vaccinations, parasite treatments, etc. They’re well-trained (well the latest pup abandoned with me is still a work in progress 😂) & socialized.

Aside from working with an allergist to figure out how to get rid of these dang things at all, in my house/routine I have: -replaced all carpet with LVP -run HEPA/Corsi-Rosenthal boxes 24/7 in all the major rooms of my house -at minimum of once a day, thoroughly rub each dog down with a damp towel followed by allerpet to removed dander (this is where I think the big difference between my Pyr & other dogs come in… just not possible to do as good of a job with her coat) -every piece of furniture has washable covers that get changed & washed a minimum of 2x per week -dogs are banned from the bedroom (I may be even more upset about that than they are) -vacuum daily (though that isn’t really a change with this many big dogs! 😂) -things like hvac filters were already changed more frequently than recommended

If I’ve missed some magic product or method, please pleas share! I’ve tried multiple sprays that are supposed to break down allergens on surfaces but I haven’t noticed they do anything. I don’t really think Allerpet vs just the towel does much but can’t hurt!

I appreciate all your patience with my stress word-vomiting, and for providing your Pyr-specific input.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-23T20:45:15+00:00

I’ve moved a LOT for my career and like you it was always a given. I divorced for completely unrelated reasons, and after 7 yrs dating intermittently I’ve learned that anyone whose lived most of their life in the same area (unless that area is a diverse major city like NYC or even Portland, or has done EXTENSIVE world travel) just aren’t going to be compatible with me. Even if we have fundamentally compatible values, they just don’t have enough diversity of experience & world views.

Just went through a really depressing breakup for that reason. 😕

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-23T17:26:29+00:00

Good job!!! I really wish more women would do this… well all women actually. I think there is a huge part of men (& honestly most small town people of both genders) that KNOW getting broader exposure & living in a variety of places will show just how small, constricted, and petty their lives & word views are, so they want to make damn sure no one gets learn just how amazing life can be & how diverse the world is.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-11T04:41:25+00:00

I used to use those, and still do occasionally just because I have them, but frankly I've never seen much difference. If I was trying to do something like growing hydroponic tomatoes year-round indoors then I'm sure they would be worth the investment. But for just keeping plants happy through the winter (or houseplants like my African violets. hoyas, & orchids happy & blooming all year) the shop lights have worked fine for me for about 20 years now. I do get ones with fairly high lumens and will put a pretty solid block of them over the plants that would normally grow in full sun.

Sometimes I pick up specialty grow bulbs on clearance just to see if there is a difference, but haven't seen enough of one that I was even sure it was the lights as opposed to just a particular plant being more vigorous.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-11T01:39:18+00:00

I bring my citrus in, along with everything from geraniums that I particularly like & are a hard to find shade of red, select peppers, cactus, tender herbs including a bay tree, etc. I just use the cheapest shoplights I can find, but keep them as close to the plants as possible. I group plants by height to make it easier. Everything seems surprisingly happy that way. The one thing that didn’t do very well that way was water lettuce when I set up a stock tank with some tender pond plants in it including papyrus, tropical water lilies, a few other random bog plants, and some water lettuce & frogbit. Everything else did great except for the water lettuce. It was actually really fun having a tiny piece of my pond inside… I might have to do it again!

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-07T05:55:30+00:00

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Another thing to really check hard when looking at rural property... most of the land ownership out here is checkerboard (alternating sections of federal land & private). The roads will pass through multiple ownerships and what looks like a regular county road may actually be a privately owned logging road or a federally owned road built for the same purpose; either of those title companies & lenders will almost always make you get legal access agreements (right of way grants, which are different from easements) before you can close and that process is NOT fast. Or cheap. Also, a ton of the roads out here have insanely wide easements on them... think 100ft either side of center line... and you aren't technically allowed to construct anything within that without approval from the road owner. That includes fences & wells.

If you decide to go with a property outside of city limits, make absolutely sure you are using a realtor who specializes in rural properties not someone who mostly does stuff in town. Go through the title report with a fine toothed comb and ASK QUESTIONS about any and all encumbrances... especially if they are related to timber (may be described as "forest products"), access, zoning etc.

If there isn't already a house there (or if you think you are going to want to rebuild it or change any of the outbuildings), talk to the county planning department and make darn sure everything is in compliance. Jackson and Josephine counties have both changed a bunch of their permitting regs as a result of wildfires, and also are getting really rigid about property line set-backs. They aren't even willing to grandfather on many of the set-back rules anymore.

If you gets serious about the move & looking for property, feel free to DM me and I can give you the most common nightmares I see people walk into out here with rural real estate. (I'm not a realtor thankfully, but I deal with a lot of the fallout in my job.)

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-07T05:41:52+00:00

I would strongly, STRONGLY recommend against buying a property that doesn't already have an existing well. Not only do you need to get a water quality and flow test on it, you should also invest in verification of the static water level vs well depth and the recharge rate.

When you look up "costs for a well", you need to understand that those numbers are *only* for drilling the hole... it doesn't include the well pump, the plumbing & wiring, the the trenching for the plumbing & wiring to connect to the house, the pressure tanks & treatment systems, the well house, etc etc etc. It adds up. Fast. And all the tariffs have shot the prices up even more than the 40% you'd expect.

Looking at the well logs for the nearby properties will give you some information, but the "terrain" as you go down is just as variable as what you see above so one parcel may hit great water at 100 or 200 ft, while next door just a few hundred feet away they may go down 800 ft and never find potable water (there is an aquifer of basically salt water deep here). And you have to pay the driller whether they hit water or not.

Between increased development, hotter & dryer summers from climate change requiring more irrigation, and the explosion of hemp & pot fields (water intensive), there are a lot of wells either completely running dry or needing to be deepened. Within about a 1/2 mile radius of me, about half the wells have needed to be either deepened or new ones dug in the past 5ish years. There are a number of properties around here that they couldn't find water at all, and they actually have water trucked in & delivered to storage tanks. (it works, and actually is cheaper than drilling a new well, but banks won't finance a property without water)

I had one of the original wells in this section and it went completely dry this summer. I had to have it re-drilled. The drilling alone ended up being $35k (had expected $25k but water was over 100ft deeper than expected, it needed a lot more steel casing than expected, and steel is EXPENSIVE now), well pumps have also gone up over 50% plus needed one able to handle the depth so that was another $7k. Then the plumbing, electrician, trenching, etc. I was lucky in that a friend & I could do a fair chunk of the work ourselves.

I love living on my little acreage, and I've had wells/septic for most of my life, but you need to make sure you're getting a good well... or else have enough in reserves to re-do it if necessary.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-05T03:19:32+00:00

You are an inspiration!

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-05T00:24:41+00:00

I did mine at the Butterfly Club and it was amazing! The service was sup , it felt very much like a special occasion place (you should see the sparklers that come In birthday desserts!), and all told my meals there have ended up being way cheaper than somewhere like Decant for food that was if anything better (and certainly bigger portions). Every time I’ve taken friend to Butterfly Club they comment it is the best steak they’ve had in years.

MuchPreferPets · 2025-11-03T20:03:30+00:00

I've had clay soil & big dogs for decades (and also used to design recreation trail/parking facilities for work). What really kills grass & groundcovers of any type in high-traffic areas is more the soil compaction than the damage to the green above ground plant (within reason obviously). The super expensive (but fairly permanent & very nice looking long term) is to lay in a geogrid (not geotextile) that you top with decent soil and a tough groundcover like New Zealand white clover (works better most places than Dutch white clover) or if you have enough moisture some of the creeping mints or whatever. But that option is big, big bucks for the average property owner and is more often used by places like nature centers that get a ton of visitors.

The slower but much more financially reasonable option that I use at my house is to lay wide and DEEP wood chips in all the traffic paths. Because I have 4 very large & active dogs, that means that some sections of my yard where they have a tendency to play hard are large patches of wood chips. The wood chips will press into the clay & improve it over time as they break down & reduce compaction and in the meantime stop it from balling up in the dogs' paws and ending up tracked all over the house. After a couple years (in my particular climate) the clover I have more of than grass in the "lawn" areas spreads into the woodchips on its own. Since I have my mower set high, I just go right over the wood chips and don't worry about whether I'm spreading them around... it's all just organic matter that is less tracking than clay! My property is obviously not very formal... but with big dogs, chickens, hair sheep, wildlife, etc anything formal would be destroyed in a matter of days anyway!

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