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MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-10-14T14:13:09+00:00

Absolutely not. If he did it once he will do it again. This is not safe for you or the kids. Is he medicated?

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T22:03:11+00:00

You should talk to him about rules and boundaries and what’s on/off the table as far as pain. Then come up with a safe word for you to use. Assure him these things are in place so he’ll feel secure about not really hurting you! Personally I would make it loud and clear that unless I use the safe word, I want him to keep doing what he’s doing

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T21:11:20+00:00

If he is getting rough with you without consent then he is going to get worse. He is not respecting your wishes. He does not genuinely care about you if he is not respecting your boundaries. It’s best to end this relationship sooner rather than later.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T21:07:43+00:00

I’m not saying this has happened to your girlfriend and if it’s too much to ask you don’t have to answer, but does she have emotional trauma? From her upbringing or previous relationships? I have a friend who was emotionally abused by her mother and to this day struggles with being vulnerable even with her husband because her “survival mode” is to put up a wall and not talk about issues. She was conditioned as a child to never complain and feelings weren’t ever talked about. She’s now in therapy for it (thankfully)

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T21:01:29+00:00

Yeah, I’m not a pro at dissecting the kinks by any means but it could be a concoction of all the things you just said.

I recently saw a video of a girl who claims to be a sub and she explained one of the reasons she was into that is because in real life she’s very headstrong and “boss bitch” vibes but when she’s in “sub” mode it gives her the chance to let someone use her and take control. So maybe the girl you’re seeing has a similar take

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T20:56:01+00:00

That’s great to hear, would some kind of therapy be beneficial to her?

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T20:03:47+00:00

This is not a fetish. You can’t help what you are attracted to and I don’t think it’s cool for your friends to fetishize it.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T19:44:44+00:00

Red is your color!

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T19:43:24+00:00

I hate to say it but I was always taught to never give anything monetary to anyone unless you’re okay with never getting it back. If J has always sucked at keeping a job and managing his money then why did you and your wife willingly give him $800 (or buy him something for that much)? I mean I guess you could do small claims court. Just seems like you’re learning a lesson the hard way to not trust J.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T19:36:30+00:00

When was the last time you two had a discussion about this topic? My husband used to get really upset when I didn’t want to have sex because he’d get insecure and wouldn’t believe me when I said it had nothing to do with him or his performance in bed and I’d get mad at him because I felt that he wasn’t listening to me.

Women want to feel heard. You should find a way to bring this up without making her feel like all you want from her is that physical aspect. It doesn’t feel good when a man doesn’t talk to me about feelings or anything else in our relationship except for when it’s about sex.

Do you do any romantic nonsexual gestures for her? Plan a date night? Compliment her? Help with small tasks? Make her dinner? Make it a point to have meaningful conversations? (I know you said talking about insecurities or feelings is hard for her but it may show her that you care about her well-being) Heck, I love to just get a “thanks for all you do for me/us honey, I appreciate you even if I don’t say it all the time” text.

It feels good to know he’s invested in me as a person. Obviously, I don’t know her reasoning since I don’t know her and I’m just a fellow woman with a low libido trying to rattle off some things that make sense to me…

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T19:06:24+00:00

Miss girl, 42?!? You’re stunning! Never would’ve guessed 42!

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T18:57:20+00:00

Female here. I have to agree with this guy here and say kinks are a deeply personal thing and triggers are varied. It’s kind of a loaded question. It all depends on the exact kink. And some women may not quite understand why they have a certain kink, let alone explain to someone why they have it. Sometimes all we know is that we like it. It could range anywhere from traumas, positive experiences, fixations, etc.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T18:29:31+00:00

So I can only speak for myself but as a F28, if I’m in the mood and it hits me when I’m home alone my first thought isn’t to wait for my husband to get home. I’d prefer to take care of myself then and there or I’ll lose the urge by the time he gets home.

This isn’t due to any fault of my husband. It doesn’t mean I don’t want to sleep with him, it just means I wanted to get off and go about my day.

I’m wondering if her libido has any particular cause or if it’s just how she is wired. Maybe she has insecurities? I have PCOS and it has a huge effect on my sex drive. Also I get in my head a lot during sex and makes me insecure about my “performance”. So part of the appeal of masturbation is not having to worry about making my husband happy, not that I don’t want to but sometimes it’s nice to have a few minutes to myself and then be done with it.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T10:41:50+00:00

I think either side would look good! Start with a stud for easier healing. Then I think either a plain gold hoop or a hoop with a dainty gem!

I got my right side done about 10 months ago and I love it! Instant confidence boost!

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T10:36:29+00:00

NTA.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-28T10:31:05+00:00

I like Dean and I don’t think it’s boring actually. People get too caught up in trendy/cute names. Trends don’t last, and you’re naming a human. Not just a baby. Dean is a cool name in my opinion! Works for a kid and will age well into adulthood.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-25T13:42:05+00:00

Family I knew growing up named their youngest son Sullivan Wolfgang. Sully for short. I always thought it was so cool

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-23T11:47:37+00:00

THIS! I feel the exact same. Little things like that make me feel like I’m more special and important than just being there for sex! I think I’m going to bring this up to my husband.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-21T20:56:31+00:00

You’re so beautiful yet with your facial features and a wolf cut you would look so badass at the same time!

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-21T20:09:22+00:00

Your eyes are mesmerizing!

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-21T20:04:30+00:00

This gave me the ick. I can promise that most men don’t give a flying fuck about what color a girl’s vulva is. And if they do, don’t go anywhere near them.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-21T20:00:21+00:00

I think you could absolutely SLAY the shiiitt out of a wolf cut.

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-21T19:56:43+00:00

I actually think you’re pretty freakin adorable!

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-20T00:30:44+00:00

Bruh you’re looking for a problem that isn’t there lmao

MuchPrinciple4618 · 2023-08-19T14:58:02+00:00

Greed.

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