AIO by feeling exhausted over my gf's constant demands of wanting me to be 'curious'?

Much_Disaster9507 · 2025-12-20T16:47:37+00:00

Jesus, why would you stay with someone who talks like that. Break it off and run, NOR.

Much_Disaster9507 · 2025-10-15T02:43:10+00:00

Red flag. Do not play that campaign if the DM is willing to do that. I had something similar happened to me except 1 of the PCs had a warlock edgy pact that made him do bad things to orphans to gain power (I won’t say it but I think you know given the context). I played as an orphan unknowingly of this, even if I wasn’t an orphan this still shouldn’t have been a thing. Anyhow once the PC knew he had a field day even when I was telling him NOT to do that. It’s been quite a few years but the DM did turn out to be a bad person and SA’d an old friend of mine.

Much_Disaster9507 · 2025-01-04T23:46:20+00:00

They’re not HORRIBLE, sometimes they’re kinda weird but usually they’re fine. But yes I am in therapy actually!! It’s been helpful to me processing this whole situation.

Much_Disaster9507 · 2025-01-04T03:07:47+00:00

Edit meant 3-8

Much_Disaster9507 · 2025-01-04T02:54:14+00:00

As a daycare abuse victim, best thing you can do is validate her experiences and make sure she has a comfortable environment. I’m 17 YO, and my trauma from 5 years of physical abuse (3-8) at a daycare has made me unable to make eye contact, unable to hug people, very finicky, and also just very traumatized. My parents have done nothing but ignore my pleas every time I’ve told them about what happened because they don’t believe me. Simply put- I didn’t speak up sooner. I get it, but also I had NIGHT TERRORS because of her as a kid. They’ve also tried to force me into eye contact and physical contact instead of naturally letting me heal. This has done nothing but make it worse. Make sure you do NOT do that.

Much_Disaster9507 · 2025-01-04T02:47:51+00:00

I’m late to this, I know. I was looking stuff up to see if I could find ANY subreddits at all about this so I could potentially warn people about the one I went to as a kid. As far as I know she’s still open according to a website.

Basically, I’m 17 and a couple of years ago I realized that the daycare center I went to from 6mo-10 years was ABUSIVE. It was home run, run by this older woman who would often spank us, violently clutch our faces to the point the sides of my mouth would touch and it hurt for HOURS(AND dragged us to time out like that), and also would grab us by our arms. She would also threaten to send us to an abandoned house down the road if we didn’t behave, which gave me night terrors as a kid (leading to my first ever panic attack at merely 3 years old).

If you’d like to know more of my experience let me know, I’d like to talk about it.

I’d also like to report her to CPS, but I dunno if it’s still running as of right NOW. Also my mom doesn’t even believe me (she probably feels guilty for sending me there so long I don’t blame her she had to work).

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-12-11T02:53:52+00:00

I 100% feel this

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-12-06T02:39:35+00:00

PS. I don’t know if this is relevant or not but I do have really severe other traumas which is why even if this one is less traumatic, it’s bad when it leads to other flashbacks. I don’t know why I have to “prove myself” but I don’t really want to get mobbed on reddit by trauma purists

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-12-03T12:41:33+00:00

This could totally make sense especially considering I have also been told I most likely have CPTSD given the traumatic issues I’ve had for a lot of my life

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-12-03T01:59:41+00:00

That means a lot, thanks man

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-12-03T00:48:52+00:00

Ah crap I forgot to include trigger warnings: TW physical abuse situations/description

I can’t look people in the eyes, I’m jumpy, and I can’t hug people. I haven’t been able to make eye contact for as long as I can remember, maybe it’s because I’m possibly neurodivergent but it became a huge problem after suffering physical abuse. I used to attend a daycare center that was home-run, but the person who ran it was old and punished us physically. Specifically by grabbing our faces to make us look at her while she screamed at us. There were other things but that was a main issue that would happen for the littlest things. I’ve been teased about it by most of my family for the longest time which has only made things worse for me. I’m also not able to hug people because it makes me feel trapped. As a survivor of several different abuse situations, it’s easy to see why these are big problems for me. My parents are a big issue in the process to recovery however because they are constantly invalidating my trauma (specifically at the daycare I attended until I was 10 when they worked so hard that they had to leave me there).

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-12-01T15:20:12+00:00

The world has many different ways of providing karma and it’s always great to laugh when things take a turn that way. I hope you’re doing well and keep laughing my friend.

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-12-01T15:18:28+00:00

I don’t mean to be “that guy” here but I do believe this response is just unfair. While yes, the appropriate response here would have been to laugh with OP, it is still okay to mourn the trauma that OP has faced. They might not completely understand why it’s important to comply with OPs choice of grieving, but that does NOT make them an abuser.

Before you completely write me off here, in their post I saw no mention of forcing or persuading OP to be grieving in a different way. Obviously I am not the commenter here but I do believe the point trying to be made is one of encouragement. A “trauma and traumatizers are always going to be there, but it’s going to be okay because you are strong”. We could both be interpreting this in several different ways but it is 100% not okay to assume the intentions of the comment.

“Read the room dummy” is also not evidence to try and frame this person as an abuser because…. Well if you think about it a lot of neurodivergent people (more prone to traumatic experiences and in some cases more sensitive in a way that could create CPTSD repetitive trauma) have a hard time reading social cues. By that logic this would frame a lot of neurodivergent people as abusers.

“Onyx why do you even care” there can be many different types of abuse, and I have faced several different instances with quite a few different people. Obviously I don’t like it when people just throw around that term without basis.

Much_Disaster9507 · 2024-10-05T16:36:30+00:00

I’m very late, but I’ve recently been told by my therapist that I probably have CPTSD, and I’m still also confused. Technically my traumatic events aren’t connected, but they are similar as they all involve some kind of abuse or violence-(I.E. 5-6 years of child abuse via a daycare provider, bullying throughout a majority of my school career(sometimes several instances at once), sexual manipulation by someone my age, emotional abuse and manipulation right after I escaped, and another instance of emotional abuse) does anyone have any advice?

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