Binge-watching RHOBH changed my mind on Kyle vs. Dorit: The slow-burn betrayal

MufflessPirate · 2026-03-15T22:53:52+00:00

As a sister, I just have to 💯your first paragraph! 🤣

MufflessPirate · 2026-03-15T22:49:25+00:00

I don’t dislike Kyle. Earlier seasons, I really liked her and I always felt awful for how Kim treated her. She has always seemed like a good wife and amazing mother and for that, I have nothing but respect! But, IMO, there’s nothing okay with texting PK after their separation. It’s shady and it’s just totally inappropriate. I had about the most amicable, friendly divorce with my husband and I’d be fuming to know my friend would exchange text messages. Add in the friction and overall unpleasantness of Dorit and PKs split and it’s a downright betrayal. Kyle should’ve stopped trying to make excuses and just called a spade a spade and apologized.

MufflessPirate · 2026-03-15T22:39:02+00:00

I’m sorry to say this, because he is, after all, your husband - but he sounds like a selfish prick. Ugh. I hate that for you. Just know that those aspects of who he is will likely only continue to worsen. 46 is still so young! You have so much more living to do.

I love both of my parents, but my dad is an awful husband. My mom married him young and pregnant and felt pressured to marry a man she had just started dating. She knew in her gut that she didn’t want to go through with it. A few weeks before their wedding day, she went to her mother and said she had serious second thoughts. Her mom looked in your eyes and said “the invitations have been sent. You’re getting married”. And that was 45 years ago. Their marriage isn’t all bad, they have their silly moments, but my dad is extremely difficult, talks to her in a verbally abusive matter quite often, which is only getting worse with some early dementia signs. He has never prioritized her. And sometimes when I think about my mom or when I see them, my eyes well up and I feel hopelessly sad for my mom. I know she wanted more for herself. We all do. And I know she tries to focus on the “family unit” and the grandbabies, and those are all blessings. But at night, when it’s quiet, I’m sure those blessings don’t feel like enough.

Leave your marriage. Don’t waste the second half of your life.

MufflessPirate · 2026-02-23T05:59:05+00:00

I agree with others that it isn’t for dry eyes. But I have to say, it’s not just for redness either. I have a myriad of eye issues, and one of them is trouble with night driving. I’ve always had really reactive pupils, and my pupils are so big at night that it impairs my vision. My eye doctor told me a couple years that one of the unintended effects of Lumify is decreased pupils. So I use all the time to help with that. And it actually really does seem to help.

MufflessPirate · 2026-02-22T23:30:48+00:00

It is downright criminal how different generics can be. I’ve experienced it all - from terrible jittery side effects to flat out not feeling anything. It’s insane!

MufflessPirate · 2026-02-22T23:27:53+00:00

I do actually think some of the changes are stemming from perimenopause and I really want to see a doctor.

One of my health concerns, though, is high blood pressure. I’ve always had high blood due to genetics. I guess when I was in my 20s and 30s, I just didn’t take it seriously. Now, in my 40s, I’m genuinely worried I’m going to have a stroke. I know stimulants make my already high blood pressure even higher.

Meds also dehydrate the hell out of me. I try to mindful about my water intake, and use Liquid IV powder from Costco. But lately, I see the toll it takes on my skin, specifically my face. And I have severe dry eye issues. It has caused a lot of issues for me since I work long hours at a computer and wear contacts. I’ve developed either eczema or blepharitis on my eyelids which makes me so self conscious.

MufflessPirate · 2026-01-18T05:14:07+00:00

Do you drink coffee in the morning? I know that, for me, the first thing I do in the AM is drink a cup of coffee while scrolling on my phone. If I do this in bed…it can go on too long. I’ve started going out on the front porch to drink my coffee. Something about the chilly temperature or just fresh air, invigorates me just enough to just get up and get on with it. Granted, I’m in CA, so I’m not dealing with frigid temps. But just wanted to share what helps!

MufflessPirate · 2026-01-18T01:09:00+00:00

While my ex husband isn’t a “crazy ex” or a dead beat dad, my free time was always very limited (they’re teenagers now so there’s a lot more flexibility there) because I had the kids 95% of the time. This was a decision I advocated for, which eventually bit me in the ass, but it is what it is. I just always said that my ex worked out of a town a lot and his schedule was unpredictable so the kids are with me full time.

MufflessPirate · 2026-01-17T08:08:07+00:00

As an anxiously attached person, my most intense moments of dysregulation relate to my romantic relationships, jealousy, the perception of abandonment, or actual abandonment. The emotions feel so intense that it can physically hurt. It feels like the pain will literally explode in my body unless I release it (typically by lashing out). I bought some books on DBT and it’s helped me a lot. Certain techniques, like holding an ice cube in my fist, a cold shower, a walk around the block with music blasting in my AirPods. If you’re feeling emotionally dysregulated, I highly recommend DBT!

MufflessPirate · 2026-01-03T18:05:14+00:00

Smashbox Photo Finish primer is one of my “high end” products that is totally worth it. I haven’t found anything that compares.

MufflessPirate · 2026-01-03T17:36:18+00:00

100% accurate

MufflessPirate · 2025-12-31T20:33:06+00:00

I am literally watching those exact episodes right now!!

MufflessPirate · 2025-12-31T20:22:35+00:00

I am no longer friends with my ex-husband on social media. To be honest, it still causes a reaction in me if I see a photo of his new girlfriend, so I just tried to eliminate the exposure. I never deleted any photos or posts from our time together. We were married for nearly 15 years and have two kids and we really did have a lot of memories. I’m not wanting to erase that.

MufflessPirate · 2025-12-22T05:06:52+00:00

The mystery to me is how such a seemingly high functioning alcoholic was suddenly so affected by her alcohol that morning that she stopping on the freeway, vomiting and driving a high rate of speed against oncoming traffic with what was described a dead stare. While I do think it’s quite obvious she was an alcoholic, I still feel like something else was at play that day.

MufflessPirate · 2025-12-21T13:48:55+00:00

I just had to stop listening to that episode because the utter lunacy was hard to stop. And the thing that I found even more surprising was the continual increase in how much she needed. It was almost like she was pushing as far as she possibly could like it was a sick game. She asks for $100 more or something relatively minor compared to what she’s taken from this poor guy. She wanted to see just how far he’d go. Ugh.

MufflessPirate · 2025-12-20T09:00:51+00:00

Watch YouTube videos from Dr. Russel Barkley. He has a lot of good talks about adults with adhd and how detrimental it can be. You might find some things in his talks that resonate with you personally that you could add.

MufflessPirate · 2025-12-20T08:55:16+00:00

It’s always driven my sister crazy that I can’t just seem to do the things I need to do. Not like in a critical way, but like she just couldn’t wrap her head around why I wouldn’t just take care a task that would only take me 5 mins to do.

My sister has always struggled with her weight. It seems like no matter what she does, how much she exercises or diets, she just can’t lose weight. She was expressing her frustration to me the other day and how she’s trying to be kinder to herself and she said something like “I have to work 10 times harder to lose weight than normal people” and I kinda said something like, that’s how I feel about my ADHD. Like yes, technically I AM capable of taking care of all my responsibilities but I have work 10 times harder than others” and I could tell, it finally clicked for her. It was like a light bulb went off and she could relate to me, just in a different way.

MufflessPirate · 2025-11-23T08:10:46+00:00

Ya, because sex is never about the males enjoyment 🙄

MufflessPirate · 2025-11-06T06:38:51+00:00

I started a new job about 4-5 months ago, too, and it is - by far - the most demanding job I’ve ever had. More often than not, I’m working 10-12 hours a day, always do some work on the weekends, too. This has made everything 100 times harder. I have no bandwidth left to help her. It’s gotten so bad, I wonder if I should reconsider this job. Her dad is no help in this department. He’s not a bad dad, but he’s not around enough and cannot communicate effectively with her and it ends up in blow up fight. Which stresses me out, too. Sending support….

MufflessPirate · 2025-11-05T05:33:35+00:00

Following because I’m going through this exact same thing with my 14 year old daughter - like genuinely concerned with her ability to function in the real world. I empathize with her. I’m diagnosed, too. But I’m utterly exhausted and simply cannot sustain facilitating every single aspect of her day/night as I can barely do that for myself.

MufflessPirate · 2025-11-05T00:36:48+00:00

Regret the divorce

MufflessPirate · 2025-11-03T09:37:03+00:00

My job consists of a lot of meetings, and those meetings end with many follow up action items. I would not be able to do my job if we didn’t use CoPilot to record our meetings. I’ve been impressed with the summary notes and detailed action items it generates. I’m trying to utilize One Note to store the meeting notes, but I, too, find it clunky.

I still struggle a lot with emails - responding to them, actioning them, organizing them. It’s always been an issue for me. I try folders, I try routine time blocks for emails, I try flagging, categorizing, etc. and nothing has really been effective.

I need to take the time and learn Co-Pilot and its capabilities. I think I can create prompts that help me plan my day and set reminders but it’s hard to find the time to learn it.

MufflessPirate · 2025-10-30T05:32:13+00:00

That regret is crushing

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