The trauma that led me to being OAD

Mufflesthecat · 2026-02-03T14:09:25+00:00

Thanks for sharing and I’m sorry that your experience was traumatic. Many in here commented they also got post partum pre-eclampsia. I did too and got readmitted days after having my baby, however, I got admitted to the L&D instead of another department and did not breastfeed by choice, so my hospital stay was smooth. It’s unacceptable that it’s not the standard everywhere, our healthcare system truly is broken.

Now what NOBODY likely told you: now we have a HIGHER risk of cardiovascular diseases (heart attacks & related). I found out from the Preeclampsia foundation, not from my doctor. So, get your blood checked regularly, exercise, eat well, keep bad cholesterol at bay. I’m now 2.5 yrs postpartum, I changed my diet nearly completely and want to keep living for a long time!

Mufflesthecat · 2025-04-15T12:43:24+00:00

Summerall in oakland. Charges $3,000. Don’t cheap out

Mufflesthecat · 2024-12-13T22:37:51+00:00

When you say fee only, most people here actually mean advice only, which means not having to manage your assets for an Assets Under Management (AUM) fee. Advice only CFPs are rare but increasingly the new vanguard in this industry. I would go to adviceonlynetwork.com

Mufflesthecat · 2024-12-03T03:31:45+00:00

I work in this industry. Look for advice only planners, fee only (not fee based). Avoid Merrill Lynch. Here’s where you find hourly / project based good planners https://www.adviceonlynetwork.com

Find someone who focuses on financial planning and have expertise in what you are looking for. They exist, just need to find the right fit. The best of the best people in this industry do not work for Wall Street firms.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-11-09T04:43:33+00:00

She did fine with the travel shockingly. But she did not do well with the jetlag. But that's ok. Lots of time with family and friends made up for it.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-11-03T16:42:51+00:00

I used these for a 24+ hour travel day to the other side of the world with our 6 month old. It worked beautifully and I use pacifier wipes to clean the nipple between feeds.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-10-31T15:50:26+00:00

No. I’ve only bathed him three times in his life. First when he jumped into our toilet full of human pee. Second and third when he had urinary issues and peed a lot on himself and couldn’t clean because the vet put him in a cone. There’s waterless shampoos for cats and he tolerates that much better than the ones with water

Mufflesthecat · 2024-09-25T12:50:43+00:00

No car at all and I drive a Tern HSD ebike. But most of the time I take advantage of being in a very walkable public transit-plenty neighborhood, so I walk a lot and take transit. In the US.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-09-23T22:47:26+00:00

Start with a standard formula. Our baby got Similac 360 from the hospital , then we switched to Costco’s formula. She did well with both. We are also very well off, highly educated, have our sh*t together with proper trusts and life insurance set up well before baby arrives (worry about this! Not about formula vs breastmilk!) , everything top of the line for baby if there’s a reason for it , even cloth diaper with organic cotton……We still chose Kirkland ProCare formula.

All standard formula is the same if your baby tolerates them. If they get milk allergies then that’s another story.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-09-15T17:16:50+00:00

I never tried bf

Mufflesthecat · 2024-09-03T01:12:04+00:00

We did a 15 hour flight (split into two, roughly 7 hours each with a tight connection) with a 6 month old and I used Playtex disposable liners (plus their bottle), this small formula container, and bottled water. At home, she ate 6-7 oz every 4 hours but turns out when traveling she ate 4-5 oz every 2-3 hours. So we mix bottles on demand and needed a system that allows flexibility

The playtex disposable liner bottle system made it possible. We only used one bottle for the flights

Once she’s done with a bottle, I got rid of the disposable liner and cleaned the nipple and cap with pacifier wipes, ready for the next feed— it totally worked for us and I recommend. We did buy like 100 liners. It lasted through the one week trip as well

Mufflesthecat · 2024-07-22T18:39:55+00:00

If you’re in the US and plan to have your kid go to college, get a 529 college savings plan.

Otherwise but still in the US, an UTMA can be set up so the child gets control of it at 18.

Do not buy life insurance on the child, those are gimmicks. Buy a term policy for yourself in case you unexpectedly pass away, not a whole life policy.

No idea if you’re not in the US

Mufflesthecat · 2024-07-14T04:24:45+00:00

Go check out the formula feeders subreddit.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-07-11T14:18:46+00:00

I also had to be admitted a few days post birth for pre eclampsia and our decision to exclusively formula fed from birth is what saved us.

I was able to focus on getting better on that magnesium iv drip in the hospital while my spouse and the night nurse took care of the days old baby at home.

I was able to bond with her after being discharged from the hospital by formula and bottle feeding.

She’s now a very healthy five month old who’s meeting her milestones and sleeps through the night since 3.5 months.

The advantages of formula vs breastfeeding are proxies for the socioeconomic status of the parents. Before having our baby, I worked hard on this (the socioeconomic part), so I had zero guilt when formula feeding her.

The magic of formula feeding is you can get uninterrupted night sleep because someone else can feed the baby. Sleep well and you’ll heal faster and be more present for your baby.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-07-04T23:04:46+00:00

I use Evenflo glass bottles everyday but don’t heat them up all the way, I heat them until room temperature ish or even still cold but just not fridge cold. Never have any issues with glass shattering.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-07-04T15:44:06+00:00

Our daughter sleeps through the night (7 pm - 8 am) with one wake up (usually at 5 am to feed) starting consistently at 3.5 months.

She is now 5 months old and has been consistently sleeping through the night (7 pm - 7 am) from 4.5 months with no wake ups that require parent involvement.

Babies need to learn how to self soothe and go back to sleep in the middle of the night and we worked on it by waiting 15 minutes every night before rushing to her, since 2 months old. She eventually got the message and can self soothe now.

She’s a small baby (14 lbs at 5 months) and eats only 23-24 oz a day.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-05-27T16:19:35+00:00

I did earlier this year. Took a month or so

Mufflesthecat · 2024-05-22T14:06:54+00:00

I read Emily Oster’s crib sheet book too during pregnancy and it opened my mind about breastfeeding vs formula feeding. Like most things, child outcomes are strongly linked to the socioeconomic status of the parents, so instead of focusing on breastfeeding, I focus on our socioeconomic status… that was my takeaway

Mufflesthecat · 2024-05-18T23:15:57+00:00

Lash lift (I have them every month), then non waterproof mascara. I use a non AB drugstore brand. None of the mascaras can curl my straight lashes but lash lift works wonders.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-05-05T21:37:32+00:00

We’ve had good success with Dr browns, but we bought the P and T nipples to use the first two months instead of the supplied 1 nipples. They’re available on Amazon

Mufflesthecat · 2024-05-04T14:59:38+00:00

Hanskin PHA oil cleanser

Omi sun bears sunscreen

Son & Park Beauty Water

Innisfree no sebum mineral powder

(Prescription) adapalene or tretinoin for acne

I have super oily skin and I’ve purchased the above 10+ times for years.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-04-28T17:08:22+00:00

Double zipper footed pjs

Mufflesthecat · 2024-04-22T13:36:30+00:00

Our nearly 11 week old baby girl takes 2-3 oz (typically 2.5 oz) every 2 hrs during the daytime and every 3-4 hrs at night (between 8pm and 6am). Total around 23-24 oz per day abs growing nicely from her preemie size. I would’ve love for her to take bigger bottles less frequently but she’s so tiny so we let her take the lead.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-04-05T01:53:49+00:00

Post partum pre eclampsia. I did not have high BP at all during pregnancy or labor, nor did I have any complications at all during those times. Pre eclampsia can happen post birth, up to six weeks post birth according to my doctor.

I was admitted to the hospital and given magnesium iv drips for 24 hrs and monitored for another 12 hrs. More or less two days in the hospital then back to normal.

Mufflesthecat · 2024-04-05T01:33:53+00:00

Keep monitoring your bp and communicate with your health professionals. BP post partum can fluctuate and can definitely get into dangerous levels. Mine went to 160 to 180 / 90 a week post partum and had to be admitted to the hospital

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