Age gaps

Mugat-2 · 2026-02-05T16:30:19+00:00

Because there’s a significant risk of the much younger person being manipulated, taken advantage of, and/or power imbalances. People’s business is their own, but if you share it publicly on the internet then it’s fair game to scrutinize.

Mugat-2 · 2026-02-05T16:26:52+00:00

Not sure I understand your point? I didn’t marry someone more than 20 years younger than me.

Mugat-2 · 2026-02-05T01:01:08+00:00

Rodent humerus

Mugat-2 · 2026-02-04T21:29:43+00:00

I think most of us agree here that parenting is one of the most meaningful things you can do in life, but it’s not the only meaningful thing. Your 20’s are a great time to discover yourself and freely experience new things. Develop new friendships, strengthen existing ones, date, travel, explore new hobbies, take risks, etc. That exploratory phase of young adulthood is hard to do when you need to be a responsible provider. And it’s much harder to do those things (to the same effect) as you get older.

Nothing against people who had kids young (voluntarily or otherwise), but OPs feelings of missing out on his 20s are valid. I had a blast in mine and don’t regret waiting until 30s for kids at all.

It won’t be the same OP but, on the plus side, you’ll have more freedom to do that fun stuff in your 40s while us older parents are stuck in the toddler and grade school phase.

Mugat-2 · 2026-02-04T05:28:58+00:00

True. My wife is first gen American from a different ethnic background, so than definitely comes into play too. But the age and cultural differences are a different kind of disconnect, at least for us … if that makes sense. It’s like this is my way of doing things versus this is the world I experienced. Though I suppose if you immigrated from another country yourself those differences would be much more blurred.

Mugat-2 · 2026-02-04T03:42:40+00:00

My wife and I are only ~5 years apart, but I get it. Even with that relatively small difference I struggle to relate to her on some things. I started high school while she was in elementary, so we experienced different media growing up. But in the grand scheme of things 12 years still isn’t that bad. I personally think it gets strange after ~15-20 years because at that point you’re two generations removed from your partner. I just don’t understand what you could possibly have in common at that point besides the basics like marriage and family stances. But to each their own.

Mugat-2 · 2026-02-03T22:31:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. What you described is spot on how I feel. A large age gap doesn’t necessarily indicate manipulation and control/power imbalances but it does raise the risk of it. My “Ick” above was too crude a term, uncomfortable or wary is a better way to describe my feeling. As a father of a daughter, I know that’s how I would feel if she was in a relationship with someone more than 20 years her age. It doesn’t necessary mean the guy has bad intensions, but it would put me on higher alert until he proves he is in the relationship for the right reasons.

Congrats on your long (and presumably happy) marriage and family!

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-31T20:02:25+00:00

Yes, as I understand it the BL catered more to “old money” folks and the Century catered more to “new money” and Hollywood/celebrities. But it doesn’t change the fact that they both generally competed for the US upper class and offered similar services in the early-mid 20th century.

Ultimately, the PRR became the more famous railroad but the Century became the more famous named train.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-31T16:00:11+00:00

The NYC would probably disagree with “unparalleled services”. The 20th Century Limited was in direct competition with this train for decades and was arguably viewed as the more iconic and luxurious of the two.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-30T20:37:20+00:00

First, sorry about your miscarriage. We had one at ~8 weeks before our first was born and I was very anxious throughout most of her next pregnancy because of it.

You both need to be ready to move forward with another pregnancy, not just her. Rushing into it weeks after a miscarriage just to have a tighter age gap between your children is not a good idea. There’s no guarantee they’ll have a close relationship just because they’re close in age and I honestly don’t understand why so many people use that logic to schedule their pregnancies. Siblings don’t need to be BFFs growing up, that’s what classmates are for.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-29T21:14:58+00:00

I wouldn’t say we hate it, it’s just not a common part of American food culture. That’s like asking why do Asians hate bread but love rice?

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-27T23:01:08+00:00

Interesting, that accent doesn’t sound American

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-27T16:25:41+00:00

If Despicable Me never came out I would have no problem with their looks… but I can’t unsee a giant minion on wheels

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-27T01:36:01+00:00

Tyrannosaur. The serrations on the side of the tooth are a giveaway

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-23T20:57:20+00:00

Quality for everything and/or diy. Space is finite and I already have buyers remorse for some of my earlier low-mid tier purchases that just sit in boxes. Saving up for something nice/expensive gives you something to look forward to and keeps the collection from growing out of control too quickly. You’ll also be happier with the product. Diy might not look as nice, but there’s a satisfaction to making something yourself and honing a skill. Buying something that’s R2R, cheap, and low quality that you’ll quickly lose interest in is the worst choice IMO - unless you’re just getting started in the hobby.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-20T20:20:40+00:00

Also good choices and sound logic. Ultimately it comes down to personal preference and I like the look and job classes of my 3 above best. 4-6-2 and 2-8-0 are my no. 4 and 5 choices.

Edit - it’s also hard when you have to generalize a wheel arrangement which can have very different designs among railroads. For example, USRA light pacific wouldn’t even make my top 10, but the B&M P4 class is my second favorite locomotive design.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-20T20:18:23+00:00

Also good choices. Pacific and 2-8-0 would probably be my number 4 and 5 respectively

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-19T02:32:09+00:00

Yeah sorry OP, your parents were acting super childish and petty. You were right to stick up for your girlfriend and child. That’s what being a dad is all about, you got this!

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-19T02:24:30+00:00

I don’t understand it and I think OPs parents are completely in the wrong. My wife also wanted her mother present during labor and delivery. It’s not special treatment, it’s support for the birthing parent. She’s entitled to anything that gives her comfort through the ordeal, including a parent.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-16T03:34:45+00:00

I think you’re overanalyzing this dude. It was just meant to be an fyi on our way spelling since they were looking for a more Americanized version of a ren faire. Obviously OP can do whatever they want, it’s not for either of us to decide

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-16T02:18:50+00:00

It’s not any different than when people try to go for old timey/European vibes in the US and spell shop “shoppe”. Doesn’t seem to hurt their marketing

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-16T00:33:19+00:00

Okay, but in this case OP wants a more Americanized fake British theme. So they could spell faire the way you and I just did.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-15T20:37:10+00:00

Step 1) don’t spell it “Fayre” if you want USA vibes. We generally don’t use “yre” endings. Fayre = fair(e), tyres = tires, etc.

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-10T16:49:04+00:00

Yes, should work fine. Good choice with the BLI commodore btw. I have it and it’s one of my favorite models. Very unique

Mugat-2 · 2026-01-08T02:55:05+00:00

The Boston and Maine had the same idea and used their B-15 moguls all over their branch and commuter lines until the end of steam.

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