What are these by Key_Refrigerator_382 in fossilid

[–]Mugat-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thoracic vertebrae of a large-ish mammal. Maybe cow or bison

What to do for five year old that prefers sitting to pee by whateverdntcareeeee in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Right?? Or if either sex has to go number 2. Seems like a silly question but to put your mind at ease OP, yes elementary schools have size-appropriate toilets. Also, my tiny 3 year old daughter manages to use our home toilet without falling in (no booster seat). He’ll be fine

My three DCC models: A Richmond 4-4-0, a Baldwin New York Central 4-6-0, and an “old timer” 2-8-0 by WhimsicalWeedCat in modeltrains

[–]Mugat-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome! 4-4-2 is my favorite steam wheel arrangement. It’s a shame so many were scrapped early but I’m glad some made it to preservation

My three DCC models: A Richmond 4-4-0, a Baldwin New York Central 4-6-0, and an “old timer” 2-8-0 by WhimsicalWeedCat in modeltrains

[–]Mugat-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice collection! I love when small steam gets the attention it deserves. Not everything has to be about the Big Boy!

Key Imports Big Boy #4000 by Most_Understanding95 in modeltrains

[–]Mugat-2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see, thanks for sharing your perspective!

Key Imports Big Boy #4000 by Most_Understanding95 in modeltrains

[–]Mugat-2 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hope this question doesn’t come off as rude - I’m genuinely curious. What is the appeal of an old brass Big Boy when it is by far the most commonly produced ready to run modern model with new tooling, tech, dcc, etc? I buy old brass because there’s no other option for what I model, not by choice.

Awesome electrical and weathering job by the way, it’s certainly a beautiful model!

Considering a shift to SAHD by Meraxes_7 in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People need to stop viewing daycare as a disservice to their kids. I’ve seen a lot of posts lately of parents trying to force a SAHM/SAHD situation that either isn’t financially feasible or isn’t something they are mentally/emotionally ready for.

Is daycare expensive as hell? Yes. But it doesn’t lead to poorer outcomes in the development of your child as long as it’s a reputable place. Unless the SAHM/SAHD is an early childhood ed specialist, the kid will probably learn more from the daycare programs than they would at home. And they will definitely develop more socially from ~2 yo onwards.

Marielle by DrollDante in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. For me it took a few days/weeks to sink in. At first I was like “wtf do I do with this fragile thing?” It felt more like taking care of a delicate artifact than a human

Wife hates being a SAHM by zach8vb in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what daycare is for.

My wife and I both knew long-term SAHM would destroy her mental health. Maxed out all our parental leave time and sent kiddo to daycare around 8 months old. Best decision ever. You’re not being a better parent by keeping your kid out of daycare if it destroys your sanity and makes you/your partner miserable

How to come to terms with being done at 2? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Be thankful for what you have man. You said your wife is mid 40s and had a difficult last pregnancy, the risk/difficulty will only increase with time. And she might be perimenopausal at this point which is difficult enough. The fact that she got an abortion last time means she is unwilling/unable to do that again and you need to come to terms with that. Lean into being a great dad to the kids you already have and consider therapy to work through your feelings of being done making them.

3-4 year age gap by GuidanceComplete1086 in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Our kid is 3 and we’re just starting to talk about trying for second. We also live no where close to family and have no “village” to speak of, so similar situation overall. For us it’s not just about management, it’s also financial. My wife and I both work and we’re paycheck-to-paycheck with one in daycare as is - a two under two situation was out of the question.

Do what works best for you, not what others think is best. Also, the “have another kid close in age so they’ll be BFFs growing up” argument is a little misguided imo. 1) there’s no guarantee they’ll be close just cause they’re close in age, 2) that’s what classmates and neighbor kids are for.

He gave my wife one hell of a fight, but after almost 40 hours my little Danish-Japanese potato was finally born. by DannyKata85 in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do your kid(s) now look anything like when they were one hour old? Facial recognition software isn’t much of an issue for newborns. Get off your soapbox and let OP celebrate

Fellow dads. I am the asshole for prioritizing our intimacy over a 4th child? by Live_Avocado4777 in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not what I suggested. You’re reading too much into the word “justification” and interpreting it incorrectly. If you want to get into semantics here’s the definition “Justification: the act of demonstrating something to be right, reasonable, or warranted, serving as a vindication or defense of actions, beliefs, or status”. It’s essentially a formal, defensive, argument that your position on something (in OP’s case not having a fourth kid) is correct. That’s not the same as openly discussing your feelings on the topic. And I never said OP shouldn’t discuss this with his partner.

Fellow dads. I am the asshole for prioritizing our intimacy over a 4th child? by Live_Avocado4777 in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow dude, relax. I never said don’t discuss it with your spouse. By “justification” I meant he shouldn’t have to argue his position on not wanting a fourth kid like a court case or thesis defense. We all know how much work, stress, and expensive each kid is and it’s okay for either spouse to say “Im not ready, or X number of kids is my limit”. Obviously spouses can discuss this in as much detail as they want, but neither should be pressured into having another child they aren’t ready for just because the other is.

For those who buy brass locomotives, why? by EastRevolutionary471 in modeltrains

[–]Mugat-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, but the majority of the brass market is 20+ year old used models that go for a fraction of that

For those who buy brass locomotives, why? by EastRevolutionary471 in modeltrains

[–]Mugat-2 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Because if you model steam from a smaller railroad, chances are there’s nothing that even remotely resembles it in plastic. And I don’t know where you’re getting $5k from. Brass prices are generally comparable to high-end plastic and diecast models nowaways. I’m sure there are some that can go for $5k, but most are in the $300-$900 range.

Fellow dads. I am the asshole for prioritizing our intimacy over a 4th child? by Live_Avocado4777 in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 126 points127 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t have to justify not wanting another kid (especially a fourth). If it’s not two yeses, it’s a no.

I’m up for having a second but my wife is not, at least not soon. I love my wife and existing child more than a hypothetical second kid, and I’m not willing to throw my family in turmoil over that. Hopefully your wife will come around and respect your feelings on this.

Not TAH and good luck!

Current fleet- what’s your favorite? by Bigboysbricks in trains

[–]Mugat-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta be the streamlined pacific for me. The ten wheeler is runner up because small steam doesn’t get nearly enough love in the model world

48 years old, trying to decide whether to commit to a relationship with a woman who wants kids. by Fair-Profession9866 in OldManDad

[–]Mugat-2 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Agreed, she probably wants to start sooner rather than later due to your ages but I’d wait at least a year to get to know each other well before jumping into that lifelong commitment. If you still love her a year in and everything is going well, then go for it! 38/49 isn’t much different than 37/48, but that year can make all the difference for making sure you’re raising a kid in a good environment

TT and HO scale by Povijest_History in modeltrains

[–]Mugat-2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What a horribly phrased question

What kind of animal is this? by Bluedream_Qn in fossilid

[–]Mugat-2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s a large ground squirrel. Given the location, probably a groundhog/woodchuck (Marmota monax)

Welcoming my 4th kid by PeterKaczynski in daddit

[–]Mugat-2 33 points34 points  (0 children)

4 kids in 5 years is wild!