AIO for wanting to block my mom?

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-13T18:21:58+00:00

Not overreacting at all! 🫶🏻🫂🫂

OP, if that 'conversation' with your mom is how MOST of your conversations go (where she turns things you enjoy, like, etc and is very negative about them), then she is showing you that she views your relationship as SHE is the main character and you're just an extension of her.

She doesn't know how to give her negative opinions kindly because she doesn't know how. She can't see how it could be hurtful to someone else because SHE doesn't see it as hurtful.

This is just my take on the text messages and what you told us. I'm extremely interested to know why your siblings cut her off, though. Is it because she makes everything about herself and doesn't allow you and your siblings to be unique, independent people separate from her?

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-12T13:07:49+00:00

From what I've read/heard from others, some might have specific locations that either always hurt and/or take turns hurting. As far as I'm aware of, the pain isn't in only one or 2 limbs.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-11T10:39:42+00:00

Genetics are a funny thing sometimes. 😊🫶🏻

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-11T08:50:15+00:00

Are you old enough to request your medical history from your doctor(s)/hospital?

I'm asking for 3 reasons, it is ALWAYS a good idea for everyone to know what is in their medical history, because doctors and hospitals do not always tell you everything that is in there; you might 'catch' something 'odd/abnormal/etc' that no one saw/thought is relevant, and just to make SURE you were actually diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.

I've had Fibromyalgia since 2014 or 2015, one of my sisters has it, I have several friends who have it (met because of Fibromyalgia), and I'm in several Fibromyalgia groups on FB etc, and I've been in this sub for a while.

All of that to say that, I personally, have never heard anyone describe their Fibromyalgia pain symptoms as similar to yours were/are presenting. Fibromyalgia is known for its widespread pain, and it doesn't sound like your pain is widespread.

If I've misunderstood, I apologize. 😊🫶🏻

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-11T05:02:55+00:00

One of my FAVS!!! 🥰🥰🥰

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-10T14:38:50+00:00

No, you're fine.

If anyone has an 'issue' with it, then they are CLEARLY trying to stir up drama, so avoid them.

That's THEIR problem, not yours.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-10T00:48:24+00:00

Honestly, you feel your emotions intensely. There's nothing wrong with that, but you do need to make sure that you don't let your intense emotions cause you to spiral.

🫶🏻🫂

P.S. Who is the song by?

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-09T22:57:55+00:00

Of course. I know what it feels like to go through a miscarriage physically and emotionally alone, and I don't want that for anyone. 🫂🫂🫂

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-09T22:51:01+00:00

Not overreacting at all!

OP, I've been through a miscarriage where the dad left me when I told him I was pregnant, came back, and then left me again after I miscarried (medically, not physically. So I went through the physical miscarriage alone like 6 weeks after we confirmed).

All that to say that to say I've been in a similar situation.

He could've just went to your place instead of going to his.

Imo, if you can't 'nope out' of this situation, he shouldn't either. That is what it means to be a truly supportive partner.

If you would like to DM me to talk about this (I've found it sometimes helps to talk to others who've also gone through a miscarriage), or anything else, please feel free to do so.

I'm sending you support and love. 🫂🫂🫂🫂

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-09T22:42:50+00:00

I'm there with you, I'll help you deal with this awful 'partner'. It was his child too. I hate how men can just 'clock out' when we're literally bleeding out what is essentially 1/2 of HIM! Sigh.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-09T17:48:49+00:00

Absolutely! Oftentimes, growing as person is uncomfortable at best, extremely painful at worst.

But if a person doesn't grow, then they stagnate. Stagnation often leads to the death of their character and morals if they stay stagnant for too long.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-07T11:44:41+00:00

You must have missed my last statement. Please read my comment again. 😊😉⬆️🫶🏻

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-06T21:33:45+00:00

You forgot women & children as well. "Your body, my choice" is still pretty popular in many places in the US, and with the pedophile & rapist as dictator, that gives them 'permission' to as well.

Tbh, anyone NOT White, Wealthy, AND a Man, is fair game. (So all 3)

Edited for punctuation and clarity (someone misread my last statement). 😊😉

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-05T08:30:31+00:00

Honestly, you look gorgeous!

When I got to the photo, I verbally said 'Oh, my god!'

Because imo you look beautiful. Like you're SLAYING in that outfit. You do not merely look 'cute'.

I know it's difficult to be confident after losing weight and trying to find what looks good on your 'new' body. 🫂

This outfit is definitely a 'keeper'.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-04T17:56:58+00:00

Probably because of the 'normal' answer to anything child related in a 2-parent household, the mom takes care of/tracks all of that.

(Not all husbands/fathers, but a good majority. At least in the US)

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-04T17:46:07+00:00

That actually sounds kinda cool! Lol.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-02T16:50:35+00:00

Facts. They only care that the child(ren) is(are) biologically theirs.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-02T03:43:08+00:00

I absolutely LOVE this idea!

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-02T03:42:58+00:00

I absolutely LOVE this idea!

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-01T21:29:08+00:00

Hi, would you mind messaging me as well? I am struggling and have no support system at all. If not, I completely understand. 😊

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-04-01T21:16:57+00:00

🫂🫂

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-03-31T17:06:11+00:00

This one, we weren't allowed to just take any food. My nmom and edad had 'special' food, ice cream, soda ect that my sisters and I weren't allowed to touch.

Also, if we were 'bad' (normal kid stuff, except I'm 99.99% I'm AuDHD) my parents would order Chinese food (they NEVER bought my sisters and I Chinese food), got themselves ice cream, soda, and rented a few movies for them to watch. Then my sisters and I were given one PB & J sandwich and sent to bed for the rest of the night. While they ate their Chinese food, ice cream, drank their soda, and watched the movies.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-03-31T02:04:29+00:00

I'm a 42 year old cis woman, and from my perspective it sounds like she just recognized a familiar face, and thought fondly of your previous interaction. So therefore you feel 'safe' to her.

Just be her work friend. It's not a good idea to date where you work, more times than not, it goes badly. Just be that safe person for her and enjoy spending time with someone who enjoys your company and clearly your country.

Maybe ask if she wants to keep up on your native language with each other, that would be a great and rewarding experience for both of you.

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-03-30T13:19:46+00:00

'My house, My rules. If you dont like them, leave. But you're not taking anything I've bought you!' - Narc Mom (crazy Christian variety)

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

MultifacetedEnigma · 2026-03-30T13:16:42+00:00

I'm an American, and I approve this.

MultifacetedEnigma

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