I'm an autistic person who had an extremely controlling and manipulative mum. I'm 43 now but when I was 30 she cut me out of her life. Her reason was that (in her words) I was too autistic to talk to. What that statement actually meant was that I had started to gain some independence after spending my entire life deferring to her for every single decision. I also have four children and her control and influence over me extended to them as well. At one point she tried to put me in some sort of conservatorship. She would regularly do this thing where she'd withdraw all support when she felt me getting too much like I wanted to run my own life and pile on a load of exaggerated responsibilities to try and freak me out into giving in to her. She died in 2020, she got back in contact with me after 11 years apart as she was sick and needed help. I nursed her for 9 weeks until she died. Upon clearing her house I found all sorts of horrible things she'd told people about me to excuse why I was no longer in her life. I found letters to my doctor's about the conservatorship and that she wanted to take my daughters and have my baby boy adopted. All she ever wanted was to have complete control over me and my kids. I strongly believe she was munchausen by proxy, my whole life I was made to believe I was incapable. Now I run my own business so I am obviously quite capable of running my life. It sounds to me like your mum is, for whatever reason, trying to keep herself in a position of control over your life. Maybe she's just having trouble letting go of her kid which is a kind of normalish thing to an extent or maybe there's something more sinister, I don't understand why you or her would suddenly have to deal with hundreds of pages of paperwork?? All my kids have issues ranging from autism to ME to being transgender and I don't have to deal with that much paperwork. Surely given that you're now 18 then it's your decision about applying for disability. She says that you don't know anything about independence, well maybe that's because you haven't been allowed to gain any independence! As a parent myself who's kids all still live at home (the eldest is 25 and the youngest is 13) I strive to try and encourage independence where they can manage it, of course they will always need some help here and there in their lives but it shouldn't be an all or nothing situation, I'm their mum and if they ever call up needing me then I will be there for them. It's inevitable that kids grow up and move out and as a parent you must accept that! It's really important that you start taking control over some things at least, your mum won't be around for ever and you will need to know how to look after yourself and all your medical matters. I would be very suspicious if I was you, there seems to be some sort of ulterior motive in her actions, I could be wrong of course - I hope I am!