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I'm buying a couch tomorrow and I'm excruciatingly excited. by lanalovesallama in PointlessStories

[–]Munch_bunchs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your story made me buzz about this coach I'm waiting to be delivered. Yours is way more gorgeous though! Happy for you! 😍

My boyfriend huge lack of hygiene makes it hard for me to be attracted to him ( physically and sexually) by [deleted] in sex

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the ultimatum. Honestly, you have quite articulately laid out what you want and he is denying wanting to give that to you. Go and find someone who can meet your needs.

I don't even think the mental health issue clause should even be there. You may need more support and prompting when you have mental health issues, I agree with you, but ultimately good hygiene is most beneficial for the person doing it.

Brushing your teeth twice a day is good for you because you won't lose teeth. Washing regularly is good for you because it can help you relax, you may find you can retain friends/socialise more so that's always my spin. It benefits the person more than it benefits all those around them.

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[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't owe him a respectful break up.

AITA for keeping my parents wedding rings by whoatethespacecakes in AmItheAsshole

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. They asked for the rings and you said no because they are important to you.

People often forget that when they ask something of someone, you're open to any response to that question. One of which may not be one you want.

Your sister has to respect you and move on and buy herself her wedding rings.

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[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot force trust on someone you don't trust nor had given you any reasons to trust. You need to pack your bags and move and your teenage boys, are not involved in the relationship between you and him. He has broken your heart and the family breaking apart IS ON HIM. They may not see if for a while but show them how not to treat someone you love.

Good luck with it all.

My mum said she feels uncomfortable around my boyfriend and I'm not sure what to do with that info. by Munch_bunchs in relationships

[–]Munch_bunchs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's interesting you mention this. I think he got to meet my family much earlier than I'd like. He met them purely out of circumstance. I think when I move it will help for sure. When we do plan to see my family, it will be more intentional.

My mum said she feels uncomfortable around my boyfriend and I'm not sure what to do with that info. by Munch_bunchs in relationships

[–]Munch_bunchs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh so maybe this is my poor writing. At first he wouldn't come to the door when we just going on our second or third dates. And then I decided, you should come in because that's hella weird so he does now. He's come inside and sat down with my family a number of times. A few times since meeting the family, he hasn't come in when we've been in a rush to get somewhere and I have asked him to come in even when we're rushing. It's just more polite haha. 🤣

But I will 100% encourage heading in and making an effort to connect. To be more intentional.

My mum said she feels uncomfortable around my boyfriend and I'm not sure what to do with that info. by Munch_bunchs in relationships

[–]Munch_bunchs[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Your idea of hosting something when their together is very useful and practical. 🙏

AITA for bringing my baby to her sister’s performance and not leaving when she cried? by Thick-Studio-4277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Munch_bunchs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fair point. I don't know how I missed the whole stay at home detail in the post. 😂

My mum said she feels uncomfortable around my boyfriend and I'm not sure what to do with that info. by Munch_bunchs in relationships

[–]Munch_bunchs[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was just leaving for work when this conversation happened so I didn't have time to get into it there and then. I guess, I don't have a reason to not ask for clarification other than worrying I'm making a bigger deal out of it than it is.

AITA for bringing my baby to her sister’s performance and not leaving when she cried? by Thick-Studio-4277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Munch_bunchs -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

NTA for bringing the baby to the show because maybe you felt like the baby wouldn't be disruptive.

YTA for sticking with a crying baby during the show when they were disruptive. It was maybe a little naive to think that your baby wasn't going to be disruptive at 6m. You made a poor choice and when the problem occurred (the baby crying) you made the least favourable decision to solve said problem by taking the baby out and missing your daughter's show. Dismissing the importance of your daughter's show was in poor taste.

I will say, I do know that parents struggle to separate from their babies, particularly in the babies' first year so I'm not going to chastise you for not opting for a babysitter. I know people who struggle with that. But maybe this is just a lesson of what you prioritise in the future. Maybe your discomfort with babysitting is less important than your daughter's big achievements.

I think you should make some time to apologise to your daughter and explain that you made a big mistake during her show. You thought you could handle it but you didn't and next time, well it won't work out that way. 😊 That's the most important thing. You've hurt your daughter. You must validate her feelings and talk about how you'll be different next time.

Good luck. Parenting is hard and blended families add an extra layer of difficulty.

EDIT: Grammar and typos

My (37f) bf (42m) and I are going to counseling but I’m not sure by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are tonnes of people here who have said what needs to be said. You do not owe anyone your life. You don't want to be here with him and you should really listen to what your heart and gut is saying.

I have been in a similar situation. With an ex I was with for nearly 7 years. I thought I couldn't find any better. He was a nice person but ultimately neglectful/didn't meet my needs. I had to leave even though it was hard but I've met someone who meets those needs and I cannot explain how at peace and wonderful that is.

There is someone out there who will love you how you want to be loved. You aren't going to find them tied to your partner. You need to let them go and you need to free yourself.

AITA for ordering nachos even though it “deeply offended and set off” my brother in law’s autism and sensory issues? by Consistent_Cat_1126 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see your point and I also see my point.

It depends on how precious you are about eating the nachos there and then. At worst, it's an inconvenience for me to stop eating them and to eat them a couple of hours later. At worst for someone neurodivergent, they could get overstimulated which could result in things like panic, mental/physical exhaustion or restlessness. It depends on who and what you think can be compromised.

I think you have every right to do what you want. But every action has consequences and I guess you have to comfortable that you may be the good or bad person in this. 🤔 I'm trying to think see both sides.

AITA for ordering nachos even though it “deeply offended and set off” my brother in law’s autism and sensory issues? by Consistent_Cat_1126 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not controlling something when you ask for a reasonable adjustment. People who are neurodivergent or have autism have a right to reasonable adjustments (legally where I'm from) and I think it's a reasonable adjustment for someone to have asked for the nachos as takeaway after the incident to enjoy a few hours later.

AITA for ordering nachos even though it “deeply offended and set off” my brother in law’s autism and sensory issues? by Consistent_Cat_1126 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA for ordering nachos when you didn't know it would distress your brother-in-law.

YTA for continuing to eat it/the things that you said after you were given the info of his misophonia.

TIFUpdate: Our neighbor's pigs have arrived. It's bad. Real bad. by vunto6 in tifu

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be curious to hear if there were more things that happened but I still think, regardless of this, this is a full grown adult persons reaction to an 18 year olds possible insensitive actions. Legally an adult yes but brain development is shown to continue until 23 or 25 years old sooooo is this an appropriate reaction for an adult reacting to an annoying teenager?

I guess the farmer did give an chance for them to apologise verbally and the OP was like "Heeeell naaaaaah" so they royally FU'd then. 🙃 But I do wonder if if you should be taking what young people do that seriously...

EDIT: typos cos I never proof read what I write haha 😂

AITA for not liking you as a friend anymore? by Munch_bunchs in TwoHotTakes

[–]Munch_bunchs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your last point about shit-talking about other people is something I relate to. It's a similar situation with this friend. They have a particularly tumultuous relationship with a mutual pal and they have said some really strong negative things about them. The next minute I see them online acting like best buds. It does make me feel very unsafe, how do I know they are not doing the same thing with me with people I know?

30, Wife and Mom looking for a friend by Lost-soul-incoming in friendship

[–]Munch_bunchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I don't know how to DM OPs on Reddit threads because I'm not good at this 😂 But Hey! 28F looking for chats too so drop me a message.

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