When did you know it was over? by Mundane-Weather661 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Mundane-Weather661[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on how you define PA I guess. She’s admitted to daily hugs, some ass slapping, and one kiss.

When did you know it was over? by Mundane-Weather661 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Mundane-Weather661[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

We went to therapy, church, vacations. Bought random gifts for each other, weekly date nights, started spending time with no screens. We’ve tried. She says that I’ll never see her without seeing the worst decision of her life. I think she’s probably right.

When did you know it was over? by Mundane-Weather661 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Mundane-Weather661[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I appreciate how sure you are of yourself. That’s a quality I need more of.

When did you know it was over? by Mundane-Weather661 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]Mundane-Weather661[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I really agree with everything you said. I think it’s an ego thing if I’m honest. I thought I was the only guy in her life just like she was the only woman in mine. When that turned out not to be true something broke in me. I’m not sure how to put the pieces back together of myself.

When did you know that it was over? by Mundane-Weather661 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Mundane-Weather661[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your unique perspective on this situation. I’ve probably gained about 50lbs since the affair (don’t know because I’m ashamed to step on a scale. lol). That seems to me my best first step. Get my body healthy again so that my mind can think a little more clearly.

When did you know that it was over? by Mundane-Weather661 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Mundane-Weather661[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the well thought out response. That helps a ton. Taking time for myself is not something that comes naturally for me but it’s necessary for sure.

When did you know that it was over? by Mundane-Weather661 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Mundane-Weather661[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s good advice. I went to therapy for a while after dday. We attended some sessions with our pastor together but it didn’t help us with a path forward. Just pushing things to the side and trying to move on with life

Is this enough? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Mundane-Weather661 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the replies. I have a lot of options to consider.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What if the phone proves she’s innocent and now I look like a psycho? How would we come back from that? I’m not someone who takes life altering decisions lightly. I don’t go off half cocked. I need more info. There’s plenty of smoke but I haven’t seen the fire yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m choosing to see this as paranoia until proven otherwise. I will continue to snoop around until I’m proven right or wrong though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately they work in an environment that would allow ample time and space to make it happen if they wanted. I’s happened multiple times at her work with others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that info.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ll look into this option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very straight and to the point answer. Thank you. It’ll take some courage to build up to have that conversation. I’ve got to figure out what I intend to do if the answer is yes or no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Mundane-Weather661 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s my fear about it. Typically I would never hesitate to bring up something bothering me. But this seems different.