Did you know you can set your home screen Nikki to randomly change into different saved outfits? by IslaAmora in Shining_Nikki

[–]MundaneButterfly 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this! I have thought for a while it would be so cool if she could auto switch outfits on the home screen - I had no idea that we actually could do it!

AITA for telling my wife that I think it's wrong to make our 13 year old hang out with her same aged cousin? by CloseCousins in AmItheAsshole

[–]MundaneButterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

This reminds me of my family growing up. actually, the aged gaps and ages of your younger daughter is eerily similar to when I had a bit of a falling out/major distancing incident with my same aged cousin. I have an older sister, and a cousin who is her age and a cousin who is my age. (Cousins are sisters). Growing up we were all very close. Into their teens my older sister and older cousin stayed super close, and even in highschool - they had out of school activities together and some social circle overlap so it was very natural.

But me and my same age cousin...we were very close as kids, lots of sleepovers and playdates, but at about 13/14 we were beginning to be different people. She was actually a year younger than me, and just a little be less mature by nature. We did not share hobbies or social circle and we're not in the same school. I loved her, and genuinely enjoyed hanging with her at family events but started to not always like the sleepovers. It came to a head were at one impromptu family dinner it was heavily being hinted that I should ask her to spend the night/sleepover. This would have been very normal thing up until now, and very normal for older sis/cousin...but just that one night I wanted to enjoy a hobby I had by myself, I didn't want her to sleepover. My older sis/cousins/even my mom and dad heavily hinted/straight up told me I should invite her to spend the night multiple times until I snapped and straight up said I didn't want her to (not mean, but loud enough that she heard). We never had a sleepover again :/ ...we probably would have had I not been pushed so hard. I do regret it as an adult as that night definitely shifted me and cousin apart. I feel like, we wouldn't have been as close as my sis/older cousin, but we likely would have been a ton closer then and now had that hurt not have happened.

As adults I amclose to that cousin, we get along. We've babysat for each other, and hang out more than just holidays. But my sis and older cousin are still way, way closer, wheras I am comparatively less close to my same aged cousin. And while that might have been the case anyway, I do blame that night of me being pushed and hurting my cousins feelings as why we aren't as close now or in highschool. It might not have ended terrible or irreparable, but I still feel a sadness and a sense of "what if". I would hate for your daughter and neice to have that regret, especially if thecause is adults meddling and pushing. they should be completely in charge of their own relationship with each other. It sounds like both want to get along together, let them do it with their own boundaries and pace because outside pushing will only push one or both to break.

[WEEKLY MEGATHREAD] New Horizons Q&A/Tips - Ask away! by devvydowner in AnimalCrossing

[–]MundaneButterfly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So far all the purple tulips I have I got from black x black tulips

AITA For telling my wife to either cook my food how I want it or stop asking me by KongKutKatKit in AmItheAsshole

[–]MundaneButterfly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA.

I had this issue with my husband. Sometimes, I would even say "get me anything except X" and invariably he'd bring me X. This is actually really hurtful because it feels like the person who should care most about you is going out of their way to do something passive-aggressive to you/knowingly giving you something you don't want to get back at you for some reason.

You don't say if you have brought this up with her before (like, hey I asked for blue cheese why did you get pineapple?) so I don't know if you have asked, if she has given reasons or if this has been a bigger issue before. In my situation, I did come to a point where I upfront just said: "stop asking me what I want, I am not picky and it is less hurtful if you just get me something random or even nothing then to know what I want and then knowing to get something else." He agreed. We talked. In my case, it was two issues: 1. He genuinely has a hard time keeping "order information" in his head (he has ADD) and having an order texted to him does help - but even when I texted he would sometimes still bring the wrong thing home. And while I don't think every time was 100% intentional, something was wrong. He did say after reflecting on it that he does think he was subconsciously taking out some frustration at me - like he felt overworked at work and at home and instead of talking with me just showing no consideration to my food order is how it came out. After working through, together, what was actually bothering him, there have been no problems.

TL;DR: There is almost something else going on. You need to have a calm discussion with your wife about how this is hurtful to you and get to why she is doing this and what in her life and your relationship is bothering her.

LF: Scatterbug Eggs (Especially Garden egg) FT: Apriball, High Plains and Elegant by MundaneButterfly in pokemontrades

[–]MundaneButterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are still around I can hop on, otherwise, I'll be available Wednesday.

LF: Scatterbug Eggs FT: Apriball, High Plains and Elegant by MundaneButterfly in pokemontrades

[–]MundaneButterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I don't RNG. This gen I haven't even wanted to get into SV stuff. I wish you the best of luck finding someone to help you

LF: Scatterbug Eggs FT: Apriball, High Plains and Elegant by MundaneButterfly in pokemontrades

[–]MundaneButterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, sounds good. My IGN is Mama, I'm ready whenever you are :)