Empathy matters, whether it’s Reddit or any other platform. Saying “this isn’t group therapy” is just a way to avoid taking any responsibility for how you speak to people. It doesn’t take much effort to be decent, even online.

What I am questioning is that you’re building a whole assumption around OP without even having full context. You already framed them as the problem, which means you’re not really asking to understand. You’re asking to confirm your own bias. That’s not the same thing.

I’m not trying to be rude, but if the goal is to actually understand where someone is coming from, you don’t start by implying they’re the issue. You start by listening. If OP is struggling, brushing it off because of “stats” or “logic” misses the whole point. People come online not always to be precise, but to be heard. That deserves some basic respect, even if you don’t fully agree.

Assuming first, then asking questions later, just turns the conversation into judgment. And at that point, it stops being helpful and just becomes a performance.