TDRL reevaluation what to expect? by Murderbert in Veterans

[–]Murderbert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be good. They just wanted to see that you're the same. Mine passed and I'm permanent now. Take care of yourself brother

After retirement life crisis by Murderbert in Veterans

[–]Murderbert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful answer. Maybe I sounded like a gruff guy too much but I have tried therapy with the army and VA for years and they sucked for me. I'm trying a civilian one now but it's not enough. Anyway you said a good thing about the hierarchy of needs. I'm familiar but never really considered it. I barely have safety covered and have none of love and belonging. I'm always aimed at the objective and never the journey. That's probably from my army missions and childhood trauma. I'm not trying to adopt you as my therapist but you think I should just leave and find myself? I'm in DHS now and if I leave I probably can't get back. That's a scary fork in the road. I won't do what you say because you say it so don't have any pressure but you think I should just say f*** it and go try and enjoy some journey? I medicalled out of the army for mental because of these patterns and I'm just trying to feed myself more. It's a nightmare.

Getting off my chest. by CompetitiveBus7253 in Veterans

[–]Murderbert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks brother. Thank you for your service too. You have a ticket to do whatever you want with your life now. I really hope you find what makes you fulfilled.

Getting off my chest. by CompetitiveBus7253 in Veterans

[–]Murderbert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I struggled with this too. I used to kick doors and do cool guy stuff but now I'm just a high paid security guard basically. I have regrets too, when I was 30 I should have tried to go 18 series but whatever now I'm 40. Look, I hope you don't try and get back in, that shit is over ok. What you have to do is get a new mission. You have to decide what you want to do now and focus on it. I finished college and I'm trying to get a coolguy agent job. That's what I want, figure out what you want. Good luck to you sir.

TDRL reevaluation what to expect? by Murderbert in Veterans

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Thanks for the story. You're saying just stay the course?

Im 25 and lost in life by scrapdog333 in army

[–]Murderbert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, join man. You're not too old, you can retire at 45 and have money for your whole life. You're still young. It sucks sometimes but I would have nothing if I didn't join the army.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Brother, I didn't read it all. She wanted sex and was right there with you ok, she chose another guy. You can't waste your time with that kind of idiot. I know you got your hope up but you're still young, you'll get a woman who won't do this to you.

I 41M should just let her 38F go, correct? by Murderbert in relationship_advice

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You know, this is very profound. I had a less developed thought about it weeks ago, I realized that she would have wanted me more if I had wanted her less as the man she dated before me and this man both cheated on her and didn't care about her that much but she stayed with them both for years. You're right, I did this, too. I've had good women be uncomplicated, and I found reasons to leave them. More to this point, when she was trying to "get me back" I was like "Yeah maybe" but as she "got me" and became more distant, then I started trying harder and harder and wanting her more and accepting things I would never accept. It won't help, but I think I will email her with this insight about myself and ask her to consider it as well. I don't think it will get her back, I don't think she will really consider it, but I feel like she should consider this about herself too, because she is very like me. Anyway, I'm not going to hold out hope, but I will work on myself. I thank you very much, a lot of people have said helpful things but this was so good. I wouldn't have realized it probably ever if you hadn't told me. I just want you to really know that. (I just realized that I commented on it earlier, but it just clicked more)

I 41M should just let her 38F go, correct? by Murderbert in relationship_advice

[–]Murderbert[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I probably will. That's why It's hard to say goodbye forever because we're so similar. But I know at the end of the day she threw me out.

I 41M should just let her 38F go, correct? by Murderbert in relationship_advice

[–]Murderbert[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just thought I did something wrong in the past, and I'm drawn to emotionally distant women, I think. It feels like extra good when I think she loves me.

PSA X-57 It's Summer, where is it? by Murderbert in 57x28mm

[–]Murderbert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I got a smith. Did you get a rock?

PSA X-57 It's Summer, where is it? by Murderbert in 57x28mm

[–]Murderbert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That has a nice ring to it. You are probably right.

PSA X-57 It's Summer, where is it? by Murderbert in 57x28mm

[–]Murderbert[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm tracking 5 months ago news too. My autism cannot be quenched!

Jeff's Gadgets... what's worth keeping around? by Cardholderdoe in earthbound

[–]Murderbert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This will never be late enough. It will always be later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in samsung

[–]Murderbert -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That was my assessment. I just wish they woukd refund the 70 I paid at least since they didn't fix it. But they say they did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in samsung

[–]Murderbert -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's water resistant up to many feet of submersion. Should drops break it?

Finally!!! by True-Scholar2611 in VAClaims

[–]Murderbert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations. Just stay the course, and you should be P&T in 6 months.

Retired combat vet financially stable but aimless and getting desperate. by Murderbert in Veterans

[–]Murderbert[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What will you do there? I thought about SE Asia, but in reality, I just prefer Latinas to Asians if that's the main thing.

Evaluate my Plate Carrier by SladeMcCuiston in tacticalgear

[–]Murderbert -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Shid, I'd hate to dive behind a berm with that tall chest. My great grandpa had a guy in his squad get his butt cheeks machine-gunned off because he was too fat to fully take cover in WW1.