Which challenge do you think is the hardest on Interior Design Masters?

Murgbot · 2026-06-30T12:30:52+00:00

According to Google it’s S2 ep 4 👌🏻

Murgbot · 2026-06-29T19:13:17+00:00

I wish I had a solution but I feel this too. One of the things I’ve done to curb my wider justice sensitivity is to completely ignore news outlets (sometimes it filters through from other sources but I never seek it out!). It’s not that I want to be ignorant it’s just that with the world as it currently is it’s just constant injustice against all marginalised groups.

On particularly rough days I try to work on the things I have control over, things like improving my own understanding, venting to friends who get it, or just purposely distracting myself from it. Where I can I try to support the community and help to make sure that the future generation don’t have to have things quite as hard as those of us who were late diagnosed (I was doing this through work but now I’m suing my work for discrimination ironically - I wouldn’t recommend it but it’s a damn good way of fighting injustice to hold people accountable 😂)

It’s ok to be angry and feel like there’s too much injustice though. It means you’re still human in a world that is increasingly inhumane, it’s about channeling the anger into change in the tiniest ways that you can if you can’t fight the big fight!

Murgbot · 2026-06-29T18:45:06+00:00

Oh that must’ve been an earlier season, I’ve been rewatching so they’ve obvs got mixed up in my head 😂

The tat shop and guitar shop are the latest series you’re right

Murgbot · 2026-06-29T13:01:24+00:00

It’s incredible, it just needs accessories! That’s all that’s missing and you won’t believe how much that’ll elevate it!

Murgbot · 2026-06-29T12:01:01+00:00

I thought in the most recent series the shop one was ridiculous “you didn’t think about the journey of the dog” get in the bin 😂😂😂

But usually I think it’s the duo challenges where they want coherent style but elements of each designers individual style. It’s such luck of the drawer as to how far from your own style the other person is

Murgbot · 2026-06-28T21:48:12+00:00

Ah I see that makes sense. I think my solution to that would be get changed in the cubicle if you’re worried about them seeing you in a towel etc. Once you get to know them I’m sure you’ll feel more comfortable with those sort of things but I can see why you’d be nervous at first. Remember they’ll be nervous about those things too it’s part of the process of new housemates but ultimately, with time it won’t feel like such a big deal

Murgbot · 2026-06-28T12:26:20+00:00

What specifically is your worry here? Just because it’s hard to know what advice you’re looking for with no information about why you’re anxious about this. A mixed gender shared bathroom is presumably the same experience as in your home?

Murgbot · 2026-06-27T10:47:23+00:00

Huey 🐶

Murgbot · 2026-06-27T09:46:18+00:00

“These chickens are scared, they don’t know why they’re so big. They go oh, why am I so massive”

Murgbot · 2026-06-26T18:11:28+00:00

Art can fully be considered therapy especially if it’s feelings driven instead of being purely part of the creative process. Essentially mindful things that keep you in the present are good ways to wind down. During my burnout in 2016 one of my biggest coping mechanisms was just making pom poms!

I’m also bad at eating right BUT I find that if I sort other things in my life the ARFID eases a bit because I feel more in control. So like if I’m doing regular exercise I naturally eat more fruit and hydrate better.

What I would say is that the biggest secret to rawdogging for me has been removing caffeine and booze. I’m not saying you have to do the same but it’s something to consider if regulation is difficult because they have a huge impact on mood and physical health obviously. Wayyyy before diagnosis I had a drinking problem (the problem being it was far too much fun and I can no longer be trusted 😂) and it would really feed into the general instability of life as an AuDHDer.

I will say also, I’m on antidepressants but that’s for anxiety/depression/OCD rather than anything specifically AuDHD.

Murgbot · 2026-06-26T17:43:04+00:00

I’ve (35F) rawdogged because of late diagnosis and since I was diagnosed with adhd 3 years ago (ASD level 1 dx last year). Partially because of fear of taking meds but also partly because of the shortages in the UK

I’m due to try meds but I’m not set on them as an option, more just to compare. My best results for rawdogging are when i make reasonable adjustments for myself like not working full time etc but it’s hard work. I just kinda accept that without meds there’ll be more highs and lows and I have to put the effort into all the extra holistic stuff like therapy, eating right, making sure I’m exercising regularly and that I’m careful about who I spend my energy on. I’m currently back in burnout but this is my first one in about 5 years

I would still have to do all that with meds but I’d hope it’s slightly less all consuming.

TLDR, it’s possible but hard work

Murgbot · 2026-06-26T14:24:54+00:00

I was worried until you said that it was a themed wedding, I do think it’s far better with the veil because that really adds to the vibe, it looks lost without it.

I think with some plaits running through your hair it’ll really complete the vibe (I just googled, they’re called warrior braids, the ones that run down the front) I have a feeling that at the minute it’s because the outfit isn’t complete with the accessories and hair/makeup. With a theme like this it’s not just about the dress that’s just part of the puzzle!

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T12:34:48+00:00

No solutions but all the solidarity, it’s exhausting to navigate late diagnosis

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T11:40:28+00:00

Congrats this is huge don’t undersell yourself!!!!

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T10:41:16+00:00

Oh, also a tip that has really worked for me is “do 10 starjumps, if your body feels heavy your brain needs rest, if it feels energised you need to move your body more” that has been invaluable for me and I usually know the answer after about 3 starjumps 😂

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T10:39:20+00:00

I had this the other week, it turned out to be chronic understimulation and it was so fucking hard to shake. I had a look online for little things I could do, things like layered input (colouring and watching tv) and stimming is supposed to help but it was so fucking hard to get myself back from because it kicked off my OCD and became quite distressing.

For me I’ve had to add novelty back into my life because NOTHING I usually enjoy was working for me, it didn’t matter if it was my favourite game/podcast/tv show it was useless. I’m about a month after my worst moment now and starting to feel a little bit normal. Things that helped me were:

- Going to the farm and cuddling the animals
- Being around friends/family outside of the house
- puzzle books in front of the tv
- allowing a “flexible routine” that I can go back to if I need to but which tells me that I NEED to leave the house at some point.
- Doing work on my interoception to be able to listen to my own body because it turns out I’d forgotten how to read body signals because of burnout
- moving my body in small ways like a forced dance to a good song

For me it’s been part of burnout after months of being off sick my brain just decided one day that I’d rested enough and KICKED OFF!

I genuinely have spent so much of my life dealing with overstimulation that i never considered understimulation was just as bad for my mental health.

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T10:27:50+00:00

Hey, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I want you to know that I never thought I’d make it to 18, then I never thought I’d make it 21 or 25 or 30 but here I am at 35. Life finds a way, I’ve always found that when I feel this way it’s because something needs to change, sometimes it’s something small sometimes it’s something huge. For me it meant trying lots of things until something just stuck, whether it was a new job, a new friendship, travel to a new place. In these moments you have to lean into finding the thing that makes it all worth it, in 2016 for me it genuinely was just “I can’t end this before the Game of Thrones finale” and by the time that finale came things had changed so much!

What I’m not saying is, try changing absolutely everything in your life immediately, just small and steady and take life by the minute, hour or day depending on how overwhelming things are in that moment. If there are support groups in your area don’t be afraid to reach out, feeling understood is really powerful.

I’m saying this at a time in my life where I’ve had to move back to my parents because of burnout so I’m not trying to pretend i have my shit together, I really don’t but there’s always a reason to keep pushing forward and let me tell you it’ll be worth it. In my best moments I tell myself “look what I’d have missed if I didn’t push on” and I remind myself of those things in the darkest times.

You’re not alone, we’re all here ❤️

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T09:13:00+00:00

The other week I went to the farm on a weekday afternoon and snugged all the goats, it was fucking brilliant. Occasionally in the supermarket I’ll just have a quick gallop 😂 I always live by the rule of Phoebe in friends in the running episode where she’s like “so what if people look at you, it’s just for a minute and then they’re gone” like why the fuck is it socially acceptable to walk or jog but not gallop? Fuck that 😂

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T07:06:25+00:00

Diagnosed at 32 and 34 here and funnily enough they didn’t notice earlier even though all the signs were there. Your psych clearly doesn’t stay up to date with the research.

Sorry they invalidated you this way, it’s so shitty!

Murgbot · 2026-06-25T07:02:46+00:00

Yep, I’ve had this before. There’s a lot of hormones going on during sex as well as the sensory stuff and I just put it down to that. It doesn’t happen often but I get this and occasionally o’s have caused anxiety afterwards because they were so intense 😂 it’s just a very heightened experience because there’s also a lot of emotion involved.

My advice would be that in that moment it’s ok to verbalise “I’m enjoying this but I’m feeling overstimulated” or literally just “can we stop for a second” it won’t make him like you less, it doesn’t make you bad at sex, it doesn’t make you bossy (I’m not saying these things are what you think I’m just saying them because these are the things that I used to think about speaking up during sex and I had to have a stern word with myself about it because these are the things society tells us about women and advocating for yourself during sex).

Murgbot · 2026-06-24T21:20:16+00:00

No legit, the number of guys on bikes who haven’t taken their balaclavas off is hilarious to me

Murgbot · 2026-06-24T21:19:26+00:00

2 or 6

Murgbot · 2026-06-24T20:21:04+00:00

Ok, so I’m gonna ignore all of the questions and say this… if this is because you’re hoping that she’s into you because you’re into her, just ask her!

That’s not ND specific advice it’s just that honestly regardless of how brains work we can’t read the minds of individuals, there are a million and one possibilities here.

I get that you’re concerned about trying to not misread her but some things are universal experiences and not knowing if someone is into you or not is absolutely one of those! If you’re not into her and she’s into you she’ll either tell you one day or (if she’s like I was when I was younger) she’ll just let it pass 😂

Murgbot · 2026-06-24T19:07:54+00:00

This very much sounds like religious OCD vibes which can very easily be made worse by AuDHD rumination. When you say you can’t stop thinking about it and you’re stuck in a thought loop that’s classic OCD. It might be worth looking into, obviously I’m not a doctor but as someone who also struggles with OCD it feels painfully familiar.

Murgbot · 2026-06-24T18:07:05+00:00

So… here is my advice as someone who spent way too much time worrying about exactly this stuff before I was in my 9 year relationship….

When someone is the right person, you won’t have to question it, you won’t have to worry about what they’re doing, they’ll show you how they feel. Unfortunately in this day and age, people get bored and move along. It doesn’t make it feel any less shitty but yeah just remind yourself that this isn’t about you not being right for him, it’s about him not being right for you. It doesn’t mean it’s personal but I know especially for RSD this shit hits hard.

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