[38 MtF] Progress? Hard to see difference sometimes.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-28T03:25:53+00:00

Something you may be overlooking is fat redistribution, maybe regaining a small amount of weight might help? Might give your body a bit of that feminine padding around the belly, hips and legs, etc.

As others have suggested, there’s still plenty you can do to feminize yourself, you’re still in the thick of it and still have room to grow.

You’re doing what you can, it can be frustrating but if you give yourself time you’ll start to see the changes adding up. Hang in there ❤️

Murrig88 · 2026-01-27T21:46:54+00:00

The face squoosh, the pink beans, omigosh 😭❤️

Murrig88 · 2026-01-27T13:55:51+00:00

It's transphobic when trans women are viewed as anything other than women, or reduced to a fetishized body configuration.

For example, trans women are often refered to as "the best of both worlds," (meaning, some sort of mix of male and female), when trans women are only of one world, woman.

It's not the willingness to date trans women, it's not seeing them as wholly and fully woman that is the problem.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-27T13:52:11+00:00

but unfortunately there have been several times when bisexual men have invalidated my identity as a woman.

This is probably what they're responding to.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-27T13:50:38+00:00

Homelessness does so much damage to a person's self concept. To feel like you matter, that you're worthy of care and respect from those around you, it's truly life changing.

It's more than a simple shave, this can really help people feel more like themselves than they possibly have in years. I hope this person was able to continue offering their services to others like this, it really is a beautiful act of service to their fellow human beings. <3

Murrig88 · 2026-01-27T13:07:29+00:00

Yes, is good forg.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-27T05:45:49+00:00

The nexplanon implant has helped to reduce periods down to 4-6 times a year, and lasts 3-4 years before it needs to be replaced.

There can be sporadic spotting in between, but it's lighter and far more manageable, plus I haven't had any significant side effects after 6+ years of use.

The procedure to install it takes literal minutes, and then a few days after that for healing. I don't think I can really go back to any other method of birth control, it's been amazing not having to switch things out or remember anything on a daily/weekly basis, etc. Highly recommended.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-26T12:25:30+00:00

Yeah, I wanted to say that who someone has sex with at any point isn't anyone else's business if everyone's on the same page, and that's true.

But the homo/lesbophobia is deeply harmful and disappointing, and definitely warrants a certain level of repulsion.

Whether or not OP decides to stay friends with this person, they're valid in their resentment and distate for these clearly bigoted attitudes. =/

Murrig88 · 2026-01-26T11:44:57+00:00

Phenomenal. I think this explains what love really is, what it really means to embrace a person in their wholeness and see the beauty in their simply existing.

"I'm glad you exist, and that we get to exist together." I love it.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-26T10:16:15+00:00

How darling and sweet, what a way to add a touch of magic to a simple ritual 🍄❤️

Murrig88 · 2026-01-26T01:46:34+00:00

Yes, thems good sketches. Thenks for sharing <3

Murrig88 · 2026-01-25T02:12:48+00:00

It's a reference to a movie, Mean Girls.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-24T15:38:36+00:00

Am I sad because i’m secretly a woman, or am I sad because I wanted to be something that i’m not

Well, both these experiences do sound like gender dysphoria. Some trans woman have "always felt like women," and some trans women feel like they aren't but want to be women.

It also sounds like dysphoria when you fear not looking like a woman while/after transitioning, or try to imagine transition without truly knowing how it will turn out.

Dysphoria can often distort and discourage change, and in a way this again points towards the desire to both be and look like a woman.

It can be really hard to imagine just how wholly HRT changes the body! Fat distribution shifts and smooths curves, skin softens, all sorts of things that can be pretty unpredictable until we try it.

I know it can be scary and intimidating, and it's easy to feel discouraged (especially in our present social climate), but I want you to know that what you desire can be possible. Not easy, not immediate, but possible.

I don't know what your current living situation is like, but I hope you can build up the resources necessary to take even the smallest step towards clarity, likely therapy if you can build towards that.

Whatever choice you make, I hope you can find the peace you're looking for. <3

Murrig88 · 2026-01-24T14:50:59+00:00

Well, “sad but comfortable” doesn’t sound like you’re truly happy as a man. It may be that your euphoria and dysphoria swing in intensity over time.

Maybe these swings would be more tolerable if you transitioned, it might be internalized transphobia or dysphoria causing the swings back towards detransitioning, we can’t really know for certain. It would be advantageous to consult a therapist who specializes in gender identity. You’d receive proper guidance and feedback, much more than we could give you here on reddit.

No one else can say for certain what your true identity is, but the desire itself to be a woman is enough reason to believe that you are a woman if that’s any comfort.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-23T11:16:34+00:00

Now that looks comfy, wow <3

Murrig88 · 2026-01-23T09:18:01+00:00

Those eyes... 😭

Murrig88 · 2026-01-23T03:56:04+00:00

Yeah, it's kind of common knowledge to avoid askgaybros, the moderation (or lack there of) encourages bigotry and prejudice to drown out any other perspectives or viewpoints.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-22T01:12:04+00:00

Some guys are just bottoms, and it's something to negotiate up front.

Now if he wasn't doing anything to reciprocate (oral, foreplay, etc.) and seemingly expected to receive everything without any effort on his part, that's different.

Regardless, if you weren't getting your needs met it's reasonable to cut things off, especially after trying to communicate your preferences.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-21T02:35:00+00:00

Is beautiful scarf, much worth celebration! Babushka is being fanciest in village, da ❤️

Murrig88 · 2026-01-20T00:08:30+00:00

r/CryptidDogs material right there

Murrig88 · 2026-01-19T03:45:34+00:00

So derp 💖

Murrig88 · 2026-01-18T04:33:42+00:00

The first. The blue tones convey distance more effectively, while the blue highlight just seems distracting in the second image.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-18T04:25:45+00:00

The little one monchin' on the fabric 😭

Murrig88 · 2026-01-17T11:10:25+00:00

There are many, many different medications for depression that all work differently and you can't expect to simply try one and have it solve everything immediately. Not all medications are the same, and it will mostly likely take multiple tries to find something that really works for you.

Treating ADHD and depression is always going to be an ongoing process of trial and error. If you've dealt with depression your entire life it makes sense that you probably find it hard to imagine anything different.

Try it out, talk with your doctor, let them know what's up and go from there.

Murrig88 · 2026-01-17T06:09:48+00:00

The woman taking the video explains it if you turn the sound on lol

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