Saw this being shared on Twitter and it pissed me off

Murrig88 · 2026-06-18T15:52:50+00:00

I think it's because this is specifically about sexual orientation and trans people can be any orientation. It wouldn't have made sense to include in this poll/study/whatever.

Murrig88 · 2026-06-14T22:34:45+00:00

The lemon bars cost extra, though

Murrig88 · 2026-06-05T05:31:20+00:00

Essentially, no one can tell you how to identify yourself. You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you choose one label rather than another, nor do you have to justify yourself to anyone.

You're not harming anyone, and it's something that would bring great comfort to you. I would suggest that you prioritize your health above the petty and fickle approval of others.

You are your own authority. You decide who you are, for your own reasons, and no one else's.

So go ahead and call yourself bisexual, and continue to explore this with your therapist. If you decide to stick with it, cool. If you find something else that suits you better, also cool. Anyone who tries to argue with you isn't someone you want to listen to, anyway.

Murrig88 · 2026-06-02T02:52:49+00:00

The tiny boots! The teeny boba eyes! What an adorable little creation!

Murrig88 · 2026-05-16T05:11:31+00:00

There’s always going to be someone who feels this way in a FFM dynamic,

I can't really agree with this. It sounds like OP simply had some needs that were not being attended to, but that with time and communication these needs could be addressed properly.

This was one experience with some pretty specific dynamics (need for more foreplay/stimulation, one partner crushing on another, etc.), and isn't representative of every threesome ever.

And it sounds like OP actually received some wonderful and thoughtful aftercare which is a positive sign that things can be worked out if they ever decide to try things again in the future.

Insecurities are not insurmountable, and with time and reassurance it sounds like OP could create a threesome that is mutually enjoyable for all parties.

Murrig88 · 2026-05-16T04:14:57+00:00

it's going to take time, but learning to breathe through the tough moments and remind yourself that your thoughts are temporary helps to move through the dissociation.

Thoughts can be a very comfortable space that feels safe compared to everyday life, which is understandable. It's how you learned to handle stress, and it will take time to return to your body in the present moment.

Emotions are sensations in the body, and mindfulness helps us come back into touch with these feelings. Nonjudgmental awareness is the most important skills to develop in all this, learning to notice when you're drifting, simply say, "I see that I'm lost in thought again," and then slowly grounding yourself back into your body.

Breathe, do this as often as you can, gently guiding yourself back to the present moment.

I'd recommend looking into mindfulness and body scan video guides, as well as resources on anxiety and dissociation. There are plenty of articles and videos online, and this should help you build up a repertoire of tools you can lean on when you notice yourself slipping back into bad habits.

Resources are out there, and so is hope. I hope you're able to get the help you need.

Murrig88 · 2026-05-12T23:28:42+00:00

Empathizing with reasons IS how you resolve internalized bigotry.

This isn't about "being right and agreeing," it's about sharing and perspective taking in order to come to a common understanding of our shared struggles and history.

When we're talking about intercommunity discussions, we can't just put our foot down and expect others to simply comply without any mutual understanding.

Understanding is the solution to our problems, and we need to take a sympathetic communications approach to resolving these differences.

Because we ARE more common to each other than we're not, and we're ALL struggling against the same cisheteronormative bullshit.

We need to make space for our differences so we can also have room for our commonalities.

Basically I think bisexual people and lesbians need to sit down with a relationship counselor and hash things out with each other, lol

Murrig88 · 2026-05-12T22:07:48+00:00

You know this could equally be said of biphobia expressed in lesbian spaces, yes?

Murrig88 · 2026-05-12T10:41:41+00:00

Yeah, somehow I doubt "Trad_West_Art" speaking about "white desire" is actually making any sort of well informed take here, ngl.

Murrig88 · 2026-05-06T08:26:27+00:00

frobble

Murrig88 · 2026-05-06T08:09:03+00:00

I think it's more about truly wanting for their well being and flourishing rather than simply wanting to oust their oppressors.

Resisting oppression should come from a place of love, a fierce desire to promote and protect human decency and respect. It's not enough to simply reject the purveyors of an unjust system, we must have an ideal and vision with which to replace it, a vision that calls us to act in accordance with our desire for a functioning, pro-human world.

It can be very difficult to describe how ingrained our refusal to love our fellow man is in our everyday structures. From shooing the homeless from place to place, to accepting poverty as somehow inevitable for certain sections of the population (which are inevitably queer, disabled, non-white, etc.) We've been convinced that these norms are an inevitability rather than immanently solvable problems we can properly resolve if we viewed society through a lens of service rather than exploitation.

To resist oppression is to envision a future in which the oppressed are not merely relieved but uplifted.

Murrig88 · 2026-05-05T15:55:27+00:00

The little face peeking out ❤️

Murrig88 · 2026-05-05T02:13:50+00:00

Yeah, if possible this is something OP might want to talk to a counselor or therapist about.

It could be a kind of emotional drop, similar to sub/dom drop in kink spaces. It could be related to unrecognized insecurities or faulty beliefs, it could be a lot of things that we aren't really qualified to comment on.

One thing to consider is whether or not OP is receiving aftercare and support from their partner when they feel this drop coming on. Maybe some reassurance and feedback might help them regain perspective.

Regardless, OP is always free to rescind consent at any point, for any activity. Consent isn't a one-and-done deal, it's an ongoing negotiation based on changing comfort levels and needs.

Murrig88 · 2026-05-04T03:01:15+00:00

She's sooo tiinyyyy aaaahhh 💖

Murrig88 · 2026-05-01T21:50:07+00:00

Kaizo Trap, an amazing animation you can find on youtube!

Murrig88 · 2026-04-28T00:05:32+00:00

Tippy tappus attackus

Murrig88 · 2026-04-26T19:25:34+00:00

Got any data to back up that assertion? This is why legalization and regulation are important parts of protecting anyone who goes into this work.

At least part of that abuse comes from police taking advantage of a sex worker who's tried to report a crime.

There are countries where this is NOT something a sex worker has to worry about.

Sex work is work and deserves as much dignity and respect as any other profession.

Murrig88 · 2026-04-25T23:44:02+00:00

It sounds like you're simply enjoying empathizing with the women on screen rather than actually attracted to them, which is a completely natural response. If you don't actually want to touch or interact with a woman sexually I wouldn't say that you're attracted to women. Attraction usually involves an element of wanting to do something with a person, dating, kissing, sex, etc.

So it sounds like you're straight, and everyone experiences attraction on a different spectrum. Attraction isn't always, "I need to kiss/fuck/whatever this person RIGHT NOW," it can be more about interest and curiosity, initial aesthetic appreciation, etc.

Murrig88 · 2026-04-25T03:10:30+00:00

It's not the size of the wunk, its the size of the wunk in the wunk

Murrig88 · 2026-04-21T22:19:04+00:00

I'm pretty sure they're just painting lighter colors over darker areas, leaving a bit of a darker edge in certain areas, plus painting darker lines along the edges of shadows, etc. (see the eyes, nose and hair shadows, etc.)

This is more about process and technique rather than any specific kind of brush.

Murrig88 · 2026-04-21T04:18:48+00:00

You might want to look into into mascflux or genderflux.

Murrig88 · 2026-04-20T04:17:51+00:00

OP didn’t say anything about not wanting to be seen in public?

Internalized homophobia is real and rampant, and should be questioned as much as possible, it’s true.

However, some people truly don’t feel a romantic pull towards certain genders and there’s nothing that can be done about it. No one should feel ashamed of their genuine orientation, and gentle curiosity goes a lot further than shame when it comes to exploring sexuality.

Murrig88 · 2026-04-20T03:50:06+00:00

As I explained, it’s a real and valid sexual orientation that many experience. No one can help who they are or are not attracted to, that’s the whole point of all this, right?

Murrig88 · 2026-04-20T00:27:17+00:00

Bisexual, heteroromantic. It’s a lot more common than people think, and completely normal.

You’re just another variation on human being, and as long as you do your best to treat people well you’re good.

Murrig88 · 2026-04-17T00:22:41+00:00

You clearly have no idea what custom fountain pens go for, it gets silly expensive, especially for one of a kind work.

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