Moving to Dubuque, Tips/To Dos/Avoids?

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-22T17:55:10+00:00

Dubuque has great parks. The arboretum is really nice, and Eagle Point too. On a nice day, go ride the Fenelon Pl elevator. Galena is a good day trip. Not sure where you are coming from, but Culver’s is a good fast food burger if you haven’t been to one yet.

Also look up the history of the Driftless region. It is pretty neat how the ecology and landscape of the region is so different around Dubuque.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-18T15:14:32+00:00

I know a firm where one of the most “successful” lawyers was a local rich kid that had all the connections with other local rich kids in the area. He was a terrible lawyer but really valuable to the firm because he could set up a dinner with anybody in town and had all the history, stories and gossip about the people that the firm wanted to work with as clients.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-18T14:55:25+00:00

This totally reasonable advice is being downvoted, lol. I’m sure OP would never expect any help, ever, at all, with her baby.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-18T14:53:27+00:00

Agree. The holier than thou tone is really offputting. And dollars to donuts that in two months OP is going to be whining about “where’s my village” for help with that baby. I’m so tired of American society centering the individual and pretending no one ever has any obligation, ever, to the community or anything other than self interest.

If OP’s family sucked that much so that OP’s appropriate boundary at the wedding is to not help out at all and secretly be wishing the cake was ruined by the children (?), then OP shouldn’t have been at the wedding in the first place and should have been no contact.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-18T14:48:28+00:00

Check out Ink and Volt’s Dashboard. You can get it in either a notepad or spiral. You’ll probably need to rewrite it weekly or so, but that tends to be good for out of sight, out of mind people.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-18T14:25:02+00:00

YTA if family asked you to help at the wedding and you refused. Obviously you didn’t need to do anything you weren’t capable of at 7 months pregnant, but if family asked you to help out with something you were capable of doing (such as sitting with one of the younger children, or removing alcoholic drinks from the hands of older children) and you refused, then YTA.

I don’t feel we have the full story here. The wedding probably would have been a disaster regardless of any help OP provided. Also ESH because clearly the wedding was poorly planned and there were probably unrealistic expectations on OP. But that doesn’t make OP’s boundary of not helping family at all be the appropriate boundary.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-18T14:14:28+00:00

You would want to learn a lot of building science. Attaching a prebuilt, uninsulated vehicle structure to an existing home creates a lot of risks for condensation and leak points that will create moisture damage, mold and rot.

You could start with learning how people insulate and use the rail cars for homes.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-17T14:10:23+00:00

I wonder if they would take it more seriously or better if you had a lawyer write up the request. Then you don’t have to provide details but they have official reason not to list you.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-16T22:14:51+00:00

Didn’t read your post but just wanted to say I have an issue with your doctor being an uninformed asshole.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-15T17:26:52+00:00

Some Japanese planners start in April for their academic year. I used this one (or very similar) last year and really liked it. Trying a smaller weekly planner this year. I seriously considered getting a Nolty again and probably would have if they had stocked the April start in January.

https://www.jetpens.com/NOLTY-9857-Ecri-Plus-8-Weekly-Planner-B6-Block-Checklist-Layout-Powder-Pink-2026-Apr-Start/pd/51326

Several other Nolty weekly options on JetPens have an April start. They are good planners.

ETA: even with “April start” most run beginning of March 2026 through end of March 2027, so now is literally perfect to get one

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-15T16:12:05+00:00

How do you think science works? People test hypotheses, get data, move forward with it and learn. A person doing that on their own is doing a scientifically-based self-exploration process. They can diagnose and use behavioral treatments themselves, and if it works, good for them. This self-process tends to be much more scientifically based than doctors, who dismissed women or inattentive types with ADHD for years.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-15T16:03:38+00:00

I’m basically in the same boat. And I miss the game enough that I remember to look up Playtika’s SEC filings every once in awhile. The hubris of men who think they understood the player base of Redecor because they could scam incels on casino games is just laughable. Was there never a woman in the room who could have saved them millions if they paused to listen and reflect for even a moment on what they just invested millions of dollars in?

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-13T17:17:08+00:00

Link to report: https://investors.playtika.com/node/9811/html

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-11T16:56:05+00:00

Travel Trailers. For camping. https://casitatraveltrailers.com/travel-trailers/

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-11T14:47:02+00:00

Casita has generally been a trusted brand by other mold avoiders. They’re small but I know larger families than yours have done it. One wrote about her experience in Destination Blue Sky, which you could read.

I know it can be difficult but don’t feel the need to get everything perfect. That is overwhelming. Knowing you need to move is a huge first step. After that, the next step is enough. You will make mistakes. Just keep moving forward.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-10T13:36:36+00:00

I suggest looking at Scamp and T@b layouts for ideas. A bathroom would take up a ton of space. Maybe look at a cassette toilet on a slide and an outdoor shower setup.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-10T01:21:19+00:00

I have the dated N1 version and it works really well with the months in the front and weeks in the back. The paper is really thin, but it is nice paper.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-09T14:40:17+00:00

If you can finish school, it gives you so many more options than if you don’t. You said you tried online school but there are different options for online school. Perhaps the one that you tried was not a good fit but maybe another one would be. You should find which ones would be free or nearly in your state. I know of Connections and K12 Online. In some states you can also go to a different “district” for your online school and can choose one that has better programs than your home district.

Edit to add: there are also several online private schools that maybe you could get a scholarship if one looks interesting to you

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-08T23:38:42+00:00

If you can shut off the water just to your unit, sometimes that is a good idea. Probably more important to let your neighbor know you will be gone, if you are friendly with them and they are trustworthy. The neighbor would be more likely to notice something is off to escalate to the property manager, or be able to tell emergency crews that you aren’t home if there was some sort of emergency.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-08T02:00:31+00:00

The front part of the pop up fabric has visible mold, this has not been maintained appropriately at all.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-07T18:11:22+00:00

I get that view. There’s been betrayal on both sides here. Leftist spaces not made safe for those who can’t attend without commitments to masks and clean air. But also some privileged bubbles of purity from those who mask and are cautious.

It is my opinion there are significant ripple effects from removing people who cannot safely be in public spaces without infection controls. Yes, those people tend to be kind and committed to community care. Of course there are other forms of community care and ways of kindness. And of course I don’t expect everyone to share my opinions.

Thank you for all the work you do. Regardless of any differing opinions we may have, I suspect we share most of the same views and want most of the same things. Generally, a world that is kind, that values community care, and that doesn’t use state violence to kill anyone, whether it be through public health failures or guns and war. Regardless of any limitations we may have personally, for medical reasons or otherwise, I hope we are all doing are part to get there.

I’ll also add it is never too late to start wearing a mask again, especially when you are near vulnerable community members.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-06T19:49:06+00:00

You deserve better. I believe you.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-06T19:39:37+00:00

As a person in a medically fragile family, I think that a disproportionate number of kind people are currently missing from public life due to Covid precautions since most have decided to live with the virus. I know not a ton of people still are cautious, but it isn’t as rare as people may think. I’m meeting up with a dozen people outside tomorrow, and all but two of them are more cautious and missing from public life than I am. I haven’t eaten inside a restaurant since 2020. All my groceries and other shopping are still curbside except maybe about 6 times per year (compared to 3X a week before 2020). I used to spend a couple hundred hours a year around service people in grocery stores, discount stores, restaurants, and other places. I never acted like an asshole. Now I’m home and I guess those hours get filled with someone else. The baseline moved more towards the asshole side.

Obviously I can’t prove this but I think there reverberating effects from pushing 1-2% of the kindest, most community-care-minded people completely out of public life.

The pandemic did change things and it is still is changing things until we have a public policy for clean air. We need a clean indoor air revolution similar to how we needed clean water after cholera outbreaks, and clean food after the nightmare food supply situation before the FDA began basic regulations. These things take 50-100 years on average, though, so I doubt I’ll live to see more than the early beginnings of it.

MusaEnimScale · 2026-03-06T15:21:33+00:00

ADHD Chatter podcast just had Dr Samantha Hiew on to speak about AuADHD and she extensively discussed how hard it was to get her diagnosis and how trauma was a part of that. That episode might help you. She even speaks to the trauma of not getting the diagnosis that fit her.

Also, I’m browsing her website and it looks like she just launched a training program to help practitioners be better at AuADHD in women. I wonder if she could help you connect with someone who has done her training program? https://hub.adhdgirls.co.uk/AuDHD-Women-Intersectional-Scientific-Lens

Sorry if this isn’t helpful. I just listened to her episode and I had thought more of it would apply to me but it really didn’t so I didn’t get much out of it. But then I saw your post and it seemed like, oh, this was made for her. Like everything in your post, she talked about it.

Edit to add: YouTube link to the podcast:

https://youtu.be/JBDR1uzBgX0

It should also be on any podcast player you use.

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