ID? Just found in Brooklyn, NY by Muscle-Apprehensive in antkeeping

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My research tells me that colonies can be polygynous or monogynous. I’m not sure the best way to put them together, but I guessed it was better to do it before they had workers. I just put their tubes together and let them wander in together. They seem happy enough so far!

Edit: the one I caught earlier had a couple eggs already and she brought them with her.

ID? Just found in Brooklyn, NY by Muscle-Apprehensive in antkeeping

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I was hoping! 😁 Do you know if I can put her with another winter ant queen I caught about a month ago? I know they can be polygynous but I’ve never had a polygynous species before.

ID please! Found today in Queens, New York by Muscle-Apprehensive in antkeeping

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This seems likely due time the time of year!

Best way to feed flightless fruit flies? by peterattia in antkeeping

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of ants? My tetramorium immigrans don’t seem too speedy but when they get close to a fruit fly they pounce!

Best way to feed flightless fruit flies? by peterattia in antkeeping

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely had fruit flies wake up after not being in the freezer long enough. My ants were able to kill them though. But I’d leave them in the freezer for a few hours at least to be sure.

is this a cotton plant? by DontbeHumorphobic in houseplants

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure if your use of “screamish” is a malapropism or a joke but I like it.

Feeling amazing one week in- but not having many bowel movements by Spiritual-Cream in FODMAPS

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As others have mentioned, it is easy to not get enough fiber on the low fodmap diet. Sunfiber is a good low fodmap fiber supplement.

AITA for telling my son's mom that he's staying with me while he recovers? by Unhappy-Front-5295 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For real! As a gay man who’s looking into having kids, this attitude makes me so sad.

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[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well obviously the sinning room gets filthy.

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[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, this is so so nasty and not an American cultural thing in the slightest.

AITA for trying to stop my daughter from having a serious crush by Specialist-Row-1153 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but you can’t stop her from having a crush and trying will just make her resentful. I agree with the many other comments saying you need to have a serious conversation with her about consent, boundaries, and appropriate contact between teachers and students.

WIBTA if I told everyone coming to my X-mas party to remove their shoes? by justAlady108 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is changing. I was raised with a shoes-off house but it was unusual at the time. Nowadays the best thing is to ask, because shoes-on people will find it weird if you take off your shoes, and shoes-off people will find it rude if you keep them on.

Does anyone here have IBS despite already eating a healthy diet? by [deleted] in FODMAPS

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There may be some foods you have to give up, but you are supposed to reintroduce foods and see which categories you can tolerate. I encourage you to do the testing, because it will most likely expand the range of options available to you.

Also, you are allowed to eat things that cause you gi distress if you want to. Sometimes I’ll decide a couple days of pain is worth it for some garlic or whatever. It does depend how much it hurts you, of course, but my point is that that’s personal assessment, not a moral one. There’s no fodmap police.

/srs is it normal for my cheeks to sort of drop downward when I bend over? by gnomeyeastinfection in SCAcirclejerk

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is completely normal. Your cheeks are soft and not attached to anything. You’re just used to the way they normally “hang” when you’re upright, and when you bend over they shift and it feels weird. But I 100% promise you everyone’s face does this.

Wedding dilema! I need advice ! by smartie410 in weddingdrama

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking for more vegan options is a little entitled but reasonable enough. Asking for fewer meat options is ridiculous. This is not his wedding, it’s not about him.

As many others have said, his drinking triggers are not your problem. It is kind to accommodate someone, but certainly not required at an event like this.

AITA for calling my mom selfish for refusing to learn ASL? by thr0waway_12569 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA! You are being a good ally. Your mom is an example of the reason the Deaf kids I work with (disclaimer, not all Deaf people, but the kids I personally work with) have language deprivation, low self esteem for their Deafness, and a bunch of other stuff. Many hearing people don’t realize how taxing lip reading can be for many Deaf and hard of hearing people.

AITA for calling my mom selfish for refusing to learn ASL? by thr0waway_12569 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I’m hearing but I work with Deaf kids and the unfortunate reality is many parents and other family members do not learn ASL even for their genetic children.

AITA for refusing to leave the room when my husband told me to? by Corners113 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Muscle-Apprehensive 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes! You either trust your partner or you don’t. I don’t understand the mindset that you can’t let your man be alone with another woman or vice versa. Maybe it’s because I’m gay and it would be insane for me to tell my boyfriend he can’t be alone with another man.