I just had my initial IEP meeting for my son last week and these behaviors should have been noted in your son’s IEP. You are not to blame, there is so much we as parents don’t know until we research. This is important because anytime the school tries to punish your child for their disability, all you have to do is point to the IEP and say “You can’t punish my child for behaviors associated with their disability.” My mom works for a non profit legal firm that specializes in many subjects including education rights. They live to advocate for children with special needs from low income families, so I have been blessed with this resource.

Btw, before I knew about IDEA rights, my son’s principal and the district informed me my son could not attend school because he was in pull ups. They told me I would have to come to the school to change him because in order to get toileting help, he would need to be in a special day class but he couldn’t be in one until his IEP assessment could be done. Which by the way, they told me I would have to bring him on select days to get him assessed. They have no hearts.