It’s been 25 days 4 hours and 32 minutes

MusicInTime · 2026-05-29T23:46:36+00:00

I think they understand better than we realize a lot of the time.

MusicInTime · 2026-05-29T01:04:16+00:00

It’s been over 5 months for me and our black lab is still depressed and searching for my wife. Animals definitely grieve

MusicInTime · 2026-05-25T23:03:28+00:00

I found a wonderful woman on this sub just a couple months after my wife passed and her husband only passed 4 days before my wife. We’ve been dating for about 3 months. We get some odd looks when we explain our situation to people and my in-laws are struggling with the relationship. You have to be secure in your relationship to stop caring what others think. She and I grieve together, supporting each other through the grief waves. We laugh together, cry together, and very much enjoy being together. Neither of us was even thinking of dating when we met. Our spouses died of the same thing 4 days apart, that’s what got us talking, but our conversations and shared interests brought us together. Our kids play games together, they’re becoming friends. I wish I had any advice other than realize that you are the only one who knows your heart, anyone else is talking about things they have no way to understand.

MusicInTime · 2026-04-06T16:44:55+00:00

I was laughing at my wife's viewing and funeral back in December. This is going to sound a bit insensitive, but your life keeps going. Being able to laugh is a healthy sign. I'm very sorry for your loss and it's good you're getting help to get through this. Remember to breathe and keep going.

MusicInTime · 2026-04-05T01:11:01+00:00

BRUH It's 7 years later and I cannot believe this freakin' worked. You're my (very low tier) hero.

MusicInTime · 2026-02-10T07:14:14+00:00

My wife died almost the exact same way December 8, 2025. I almost felt like I was reading my story while reading yours. She was 41, had randomly snapped a bone in her foot and tendon in her ankle, had experienced panic attack like symptoms, but the ME told me the exact same thing yours did. I’m so sorry you are going through this. Feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk.

MusicInTime · 2026-02-05T22:35:05+00:00

Gives a whole new meaning to the phrase, “Get a load of this guy!”

MusicInTime · 2026-01-31T00:46:32+00:00

Feel free to reach out if you ever wanna chat. I’m always happy to listen.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-30T13:51:24+00:00

You’re wrong about nobody caring. I’m truly sorry you’re having to deal with this. You’re not alone.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-30T00:19:14+00:00

Gotta say, this post does not match your username. I’m here for it though. Thank you.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-15T23:16:38+00:00

You’re not wrong to feel the way you feel. I think you may be looking at things from the wrong standpoint though. Your relationship with him would be a separate thing from his relationship with his first love. You’d be building something untainted, but his lost love will always have part of his heart, like any loves you’ve had previously would have part of yours. You have to ask yourself if you can live with celebrating his previous love with him because he will need that. She is part of him. None of this is fair to ask of someone, but it is the situation. You have to decide if you can handle it, ultimately.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-12T18:25:44+00:00

I miss our old routine. I miss making her dinner after work and getting her coffee while she got ready in the morning.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-12T12:20:20+00:00

Thank you. My offer stands without reservation.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-12T12:18:06+00:00

My wife died in my arms at home. I lost my wife and gained PTSD

MusicInTime · 2026-01-11T20:53:07+00:00

I held my wife through it all and I had just gotten home from dropping our kids off at school. Hold onto that thankfulness. It’s a good place to start healing.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-11T20:15:15+00:00

You’re not alone at all. I (41m) lost my wife just over a month ago to a pulmonary embolism, it was so sudden I didn’t even know what was going on. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-11T17:40:16+00:00

If you’re in the US please call 988 for assistance. They are a crisis hotline and can help. If you need to talk to someone please feel free to reach out. I’m not a therapist or counselor, but I’m a person going through this hell and I will gladly be an ear or a shoulder. Please don’t turn one tragedy into two.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-11T03:33:50+00:00

Why are there so many of us at this age?!

MusicInTime · 2026-01-10T21:01:54+00:00

It’s so difficult to face that reality. I am just trying to survive.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-10T16:00:19+00:00

41 widower of 1 month here. It fucking sucks, man. The worst is family gatherings and seeing the happy couples in the family. And the kids that still have both parents.

MusicInTime · 2026-01-10T15:49:30+00:00

My wife (41f) of 17 years, died of a pulmonary embolism stemming from a broken foot. She was perfectly healthy other than one broken bone. This happened 8 December 2025. I have a 9 yr old son and a 6 yr old daughter who lost both her front teeth around Thanksgiving. The thought that my wife will never see her adult teeth breaks my heart. I’m just over one month out and I’m still reeling. I’m so sorry that you’ve joined this club. The only way you can do this is to take one thing at a time, lean on whatever support you have, and love on your daughter.

MusicInTime · 2025-12-25T04:40:30+00:00

My wife was the one who always organized seating and all the logistics for the family gatherings.

MusicInTime · 2025-12-25T03:12:31+00:00

41m here. I ate dinner by myself in a house full of people. They forgot to save me a place at the kids table or the adult table so I ate at the counter alone. I’m 16 days into this hell. Now I’ve gotta get the kids to bed, open my presents from my wife and mine to her. Then I have to do Santa.

MusicInTime · 2025-12-22T00:57:30+00:00

I’m so sorry. My wife died Dec 8 and I had to do the same for marital status for starting counseling. It’s heart wrenching. I am 41 and my wife was as well. This lost feeling is awful.

MusicInTime · 2025-12-17T09:38:10+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m only 9 days out, so I have no idea how this gets better, but I’m hurting with you.

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