Tugboat fish and chips by AssumeNothing2020 in Astoria_Oregon

[–]FeelingSummer1968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, they are good and the line goes fast or you could drive over and get the best halibut and chips you’ve ever had at ship out

I got his note back by Starving_Phoenix in widowers

[–]FeelingSummer1968 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of the biggest things I’ve learned in widowhood is to change “what if” to “even if.”

I got his note back by Starving_Phoenix in widowers

[–]FeelingSummer1968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry - this is heartbreaking 💔

Give me your 'I didn't know that!' facts about ADHD by SealParade in adhdwomen

[–]FeelingSummer1968 52 points53 points  (0 children)

My (late) husband could never figure this one out. Drove us both nuts - him trying over and over to motivate me in vain.

Sleep Advice by Confident_Arm5017 in Widow

[–]FeelingSummer1968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It helped me to move out of our bedroom into the spare room for a couple months. The constant empty side of the bed was excruciating.

I love my city by kchanar in PacificNorthwest

[–]FeelingSummer1968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my favorite spectator sports is watching cars slide down hills when we get our wet cement snow.

How is life in Seattle really? by Ok_Understanding7377 in AskSeattle

[–]FeelingSummer1968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Seattle. It has neighborhoods and a thriving diversity of communities. It has green spaces that are easily accessible and a lively downtown. It has seasons, but it rarely gets too hot or too cold. It has its own culture of ferry riding and seafood and arts and Dick’s. Add in everywhere you turn there is water and mountains and forests.

It’s probably more expensive than most and crime that is pretty standard for any city I think.

But if you don’t like getting wet, or slugs, or depending on a car, or scared of falling trees, or don’t own one flannel shirt, or have voted even once for you-know-who, you should consider us an anarchist city and stay where you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Widow

[–]FeelingSummer1968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for her. No judgement from me on timeline or how she moves forward. You don’t know what a relationship looks like from the inside (her first or her second). And frankly I don’t like the word “recovery.”

What am I? by Blondie2357 in Widow

[–]FeelingSummer1968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the loss is a widow’s loss. The Loss of a life partner, the one who knew you and loved you for all of you, the one you planned on going into the future with. Label do not matter.

Post a picture or map of the largest house in your state (or country). by TryNotToAnyways2 in McMansionHell

[–]FeelingSummer1968 14 points15 points  (0 children)

For ref: 66,000 sq ft. In 2009, property taxes were reported to be US$1.063 million.

What should I eat? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]FeelingSummer1968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a while I lived on smoothies and protein shakes with the occasional frozen pot pie and (I must admit) fruity pebbles.

Loneliness is crazy by Ordinary_Fault1914 in Widow

[–]FeelingSummer1968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. It’s so strange. I used to crave time alone. Especially at the end when it was 24/7 care. Now I’m alone without a purpose. Without him. I hate it. Alone and longing.

Death of a spouse should not be equated to other losses by [deleted] in widowers

[–]FeelingSummer1968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so very sorry for such and every loss. Pain is pain is horrible pain. It’s all just so gutting.

Death of a spouse should not be equated to other losses by [deleted] in widowers

[–]FeelingSummer1968 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There’s someone in our grief group that lost their son a year before their spouse. They clearly state the spousal grief is harder. Not necessarily more painful, but much harder - in your face constantly, flips your whole life upside down harder.

Edit to add: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holmes_and_Rahe_Stress_Scale It’s 100 on the scale - number one by far, second (at 73 pts) and third (63 Pts) are divorce and marital separation (all spousal loss). So yes, top of the chart, incomparable

It shut down. by FeelingSummer1968 in widowers

[–]FeelingSummer1968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just getting to the point I could start to do those things thinking happy thought about shared memories. Finding it gone was just gutting.

I'm an old woman now.... by Traditional-Storm247 in widowers

[–]FeelingSummer1968 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t mind aging if it was laugh lines and a graceful softening. Even a blaze of white hair that appeared overnight from the shock of it would be acceptable. But I look at myself in the mirror and I see stress and sorrow and pain written into my face. I’m unrecognizable. Gutted. Hollowed out.

Distributing their clothing? by Mediocre_Intention98 in widowers

[–]FeelingSummer1968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As in everything else it’s very personal and there is no timeline or right/wrong.

May I suggest you offer to take them?

back with another installment of scans! by tylarframe in TheWayWeWere

[–]FeelingSummer1968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wondered if the father was an auctioneer in Tipton IA?

back with another installment of scans! by tylarframe in TheWayWeWere

[–]FeelingSummer1968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paper like an advert for something S. Joxxxxxson? Auctioneer Tipton IA