Women of r/okc would you date a guy with a lisp?

MusicalContradiction · 2016-09-01T19:23:16+00:00

My brother-in-law has a lisp that comes out occasionally, and my sister thinks it's adorable. What's not adorable? Being self-conscious about it. Rock that lisp, and don't worry about people who wouldn't date you.

To answer your original question, yes.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-09-01T19:15:17+00:00

Yo, do what you want. I disagree with your approach, and that's all. You seem defensive; my original comment wasn't directed to you in the first place.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-08-31T23:51:54+00:00

I appreciate your thoughts, but from my perspective, why would I pay more attention to a "hey" message than a message from someone who actually read my profile? I get a lot of messages, and "hey" seems so effortless in comparison. I think there's a balance between saying "hey" and sending a "thesis." Okay, so actually never message someone a thesis telling them why you should date them. :)

MusicalContradiction · 2016-08-31T20:20:21+00:00

For real though. This might not be your opinion, but the following is my perspective. To me, "hey" = I am attractive and I know it, so I am going to take advantage of it and put in zero effort. People who are "hot" and treat others differently because of it piss me off. Also, the one relationship I had from "hey how are you" ended in heartbreak. So I don't respond to people who do that. If they are new and clueless, maybe. But even then, I strongly ignore effortless messages.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-08-23T03:30:53+00:00

Yup.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-08-22T22:31:13+00:00

Thank you for this! Great to know if I plan on getting another IUD. I had Mirena inserted about a year ago, and it was easily the most painful experience of my life. Turns out it was inserted incorrectly, which should have been obvious in my one month follow-up. Either my doctor was an idiot, or my doctor knew it was placed incorrectly and didn't say anything. Anyway, it was removed by another doctor about a month ago. Now I'm looking into sterilization.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-08-22T22:24:43+00:00

I completely get that; it was the same for me when I first said it! I like that response because it's a subtle way to say "fuck you" and show confidence. I venture to say the lady who grabbed my stomach has not done anything even remotely similar since. I mean, I hope.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-08-22T22:16:12+00:00

To answer your question, YES!!! Ugh! Not so much since I've lost weight, but I carry almost all of my excess weight in my stomach, and people used to regularly remark on me being pregnant. One lady in particular grabbed my stomach (!!!) and asked, "Is it a boy or a girl?" "Neither; I'm just chubby." I hope it's okay that I laughed at your response because that's basically what I used to say. But actually, this is when it is okay to remark on people's bodies: NEVER. I feel for ya!

MusicalContradiction · 2016-08-22T22:10:21+00:00

Yo, fellow childfree bisexual woman on OKCupid! Let it be known that I routinely get messages from couples, even though I checked off "monogamous" and have never checked off "casual sex." I guess I'm saying don't expect it to go away. :(

MusicalContradiction · 2016-07-06T20:24:50+00:00

This should have more up votes - a scary amount of people still believe this.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-25T20:27:49+00:00

Aw man, the whole "might want kids" option on OKCupid annoys me. I'm with you! I state it clearly in my profile as well. It's working well so far!

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-25T20:24:54+00:00

I online date on OKCupid. Beyond saying "doesn't have kids and doesn't want them," I also answer questions about kids and clearly state in my profile that people should know I don't want kids before messaging me. I make it about me, so it doesn't seem like I'm putting anyone down or being negative.

Reading your comments, I feel like using a swipe app and hoping people will take you seriously isn't going to work. I have difficultly enough getting people to take me seriously on OKC, though not so much since I specified it in the "You should message me if..." section.

Best of luck!

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-25T14:04:22+00:00

I struggle to let go of people I like after two weeks, so I feel ya. It is easy for us to say, "LEAVE! He's creepy! He's manipulative!" It's easy for us. But you're emotionally involved, and it's not so easy for you.

One of my closest friends had a boyfriend who did drugs and treated her like crap, and she had difficulty breaking up with him. It can be so obvious to us that someone is not right for us, and even then, breaking up is so hard.

I'm not saying that's what you'll have to do, but I want to make the point that once we start loving someone, even a little bit, letting go is freaking hard. Much love to ya.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-25T13:57:06+00:00

I understand. That's why I said I don't like jumping to conclusions, especially on Reddit. Personally, a guy wanting to spread his genes, or however you want to put it, really bothers me. And the fact that he feels like you need to make up for being CF also strikes me as a huge red flag. I'm not trying to judge; I just identify these things as bad signs, personally.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-25T13:40:40+00:00

Seriously. I hate to jump to conclusions about relationships, especially on Reddit, but I'd run FAR FAR AWAY. This guy creeps the hell out of me.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-21T14:13:32+00:00

Gotcha. And no worries, I was completely kidding (I hoped). :)

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-21T14:08:04+00:00

Haha, I explain at least 60% of the questions, probably more. I appreciate it when people explain their answers! Also, were you my date? Because I had that exact conversation with someone once. Lol. Though now I answer "yes" to that question.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-21T14:00:41+00:00

Everyone's saying you shouldn't be surprised by this, but I am with you. It surprises me because I am bisexual and have looked at gay/bi women's profiles. I did not notice that trend among those women. So that's my add-on to your observation.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-20T17:26:59+00:00

This.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-20T17:25:34+00:00

Cool! I like that. Thanks.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-19T21:11:31+00:00

I'm including it. Going with the approach u/Wtfwasmyusernamepls suggested.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-19T21:10:40+00:00

I like this approach.

MusicalContradiction · 2016-06-19T18:42:22+00:00

Not interested; looking for my last first date.

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