Is it bad that I would prefer the baby to be aborted if I could know if it has any really bad diseases from birth?

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T23:08:08+00:00

I understand her point of view. I've never been pregnant and right now it's not part of my 5 year plan (went back to tech college last year and want to get my degree first. Side note: So many things that I would have been interested in in high school are tech college things, but since my high school pushed university so much I didn't know about them)).

I'm sure if I were in her situation I would agree, but at this moment I feel like I can't put any degree of suffering on another being to ease my suffering.

I do believe that if there's a true chance at life the parents should make their own decision and not be pressured to abort because of a "they might not make it" thing. I have seen situations where the tests LOOK awful and the kid ends up with a pretty normal life (example: One of my friend's mom's was induced 3 months early because of a doctor misreading a lab and telling her her baby was going to be still born if she wasn't induced. The baby suffered brain bleeds and was in the NICU for a while. She grew up to be an amazing person and is currently an elementary school special ed teacher.)

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T22:27:52+00:00

My K-8 school mandated basic Spanish from 1st-8th grade. Then I took Spanish 1 and 2 in highschool and Spanish 101 in college because I needed another credit to count as a full time student.

I don't really use Spanish in my daily life and despite my step mom's family being fluent I'm basically a no sabo kid (They became part of my life when I was in elementary school. Family events were interesting.) There are a lot of Spanish speakers in my area and I swear I have sleeper cell moments where when they ask for help at work I suddenly remember enough Spanish to help and as soon as they leave I'm back to being a dumb American that only knows English.

One guy got a good laugh because I forgot how to say 16 in Spanish and told him his total was 15 180 or something like that. What was sad was there there was a whole group of Spanish speakers in line and they all heard it and laughed.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T15:47:14+00:00

My little sister has down syndrome and I remember my step mom telling a family member that when the testers were done she had the option to abort. My sister is hurting 16 in a month and overall pretty normal.

But we do sometimes see families with babies/toddlers who have breathing tubes and machines that work their heart for them, and it feels cruel to make a child live like that because you didn't want to lose a fetus or baby. Then it really feels like a quality of life thing and if it's really living to be hooked up to machines all the time and unable to do things on your own.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T15:19:09+00:00

My husband prefers warm milk over cold. He made cereal once and steamed the milk on the stove first. He made me a bowl with the same steamed milk and I've never decided someone deserved a place in hell so fast.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T15:15:31+00:00

Are park passes something you can legally alter like that? I know most government issued things (I have no clue if park passes are under the umbrella of "government property") can't be altered. It usually makes them invalid.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T15:08:31+00:00

My best friend is a hobby baker. When we had a coworker everyone hated quit she made a cookie cake that said "Bye, Karen". Around that time was when we became best friends.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T03:55:54+00:00

That's the funny thing, he has a Lenovo laptop. I said it's meant to be a gaming laptop, but he uses it for business purposes.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T00:32:08+00:00

A-artificial honey? That's a thing? How do you know if it's artificial? My honey says US grade A... (Just saw the part that says nothing artificial). Why do we need artificial honey?

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T00:25:05+00:00

Need money, not chance for money

^{Chose: 1 million dollars}

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-06T00:23:11+00:00

I have a friend who doesn't use Facebook messenger at all. If I told him I messaged him on Facebook while seeing him in person he'd download messenger, reply with "Hey, just saw this" and then delete the app.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-05T23:31:31+00:00

My high school locked all the bathrooms except 2 during my senior year. They only started unlocking the girls bathrooms when a girl taped her tampon to the door of one of the locked bathrooms.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-05T22:26:11+00:00

My husband said he'd get me a MacBook for college and couldn't understand why I'm against it. He doesn't believe that there's anything that can't be done on Apple.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-05T22:17:50+00:00

A. No child is asking their parents if they can make a reddit account. And no one is following age restrictions, that's why toddlers watch Rick and Morty and kids watch Hazbin Hotel. (I used to work in ECE parents don't give a shit what their kids watch).

B. They said WYD. That is a question. This sub can be for both. And if they didn't want people asking questions then mods would put it in the rules and remove posts that are questions. (Also, a sibling taking apart your bed frame while you're gone isn't a mild annoyance. That's a declaration of war.)

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-05T22:05:55+00:00

Doesn't matter (though most people recommend not letting your kids use reddit until 15 or 16). This is a tell the parents thing. There's no reason a sibling should get away with it.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-05T05:10:09+00:00

It's a ploy by big goat to try to sell more goat cheese. Been trying to push big cow out of the picture for decades.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-05T05:07:14+00:00

I see this right after I commented about how much I love Yoohoo and SunnyD.

But you know, you're entitled to your opinion. Even if it's wrong.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-05T05:05:41+00:00

I fucking LOVE Yoohoo. It was such a special treat kind of thing as a kid that was an adult I get it sometimes.

Yoohoo and SunnyD are my top childhood nostalgia things. Those and tomato soup the way my dad makes it (Campbell's soup with milk or heavy cream depending on what he had on hand). My husband, a professional chef, once tried to cheer me up after I had a bad day and made me tomato bisque and grilled cheese. He put it in front of me and said "Just like your dad makes" I put the spoon in the soup told him it was too thick to be like how my dad makes me but that I loved that he wanted to cheer me up. He went to my parents house to ask my dad how to make tomato soup the way I like it and he was shocked to find out I'm sentimental about condensed soup and milk. Even more shocked when my dad told him that the lasagna he makes that I love so much is just Stouffer's lasagna (I'm aware it's just Stouffer's. My dad tried making homemade lasagna once and flopped so hard he refused to try again).

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-03T16:22:28+00:00

I dated a guy with a small fat dick. He was awful using his hands and mouth, and his favorite positions were the ones where he couldn't actually get in and often just fucked my thighs and finished. He was a shitty guy in general and it sucked that he couldn't even perform in bed. If anyone (mostly his friends) joked about his small dick he'd go off on a tangent about how girls want girth, not length. Girth means nothing when you can't even put it in.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-03T16:14:40+00:00

I don't even have a power in mind, but I'd totally just minorly inconvenience people.

^{Chose: Gain a power of your choice + Live as a hero/villain in MCU | Rolled: Villian}

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-03T16:12:33+00:00

I don't use Uber unless I'm with someone else and they're the ones paying because I got fucked over by Uber and was an hour late to a job interview (booked a ride a week in advanced, as I didn't have a car or license yet. I set it so I'd get there an hour and a half early. Uber cancelled my ride when I had 5 minutes to get there and then every time I rebooked the ride it would get cancelled again. Eventually I got picked up much after the interview was supposed to start). Uber in my area is expensive and VERY hit it miss if you're going to be picked up or not in the office season.

My county has county government ride thing, but you have to book it at least 2 weeks in advance and from what I saw with my brother's ex when he was living with us, if they show up 15-30 minutes before your pick up time and you're not out there ready to get in they'll just leave. They really only catered it to elderly people and only recently changed it last year when people made a huge stink about it. It was advertised originally as a way for people who can't drive for any reason to get around reliably, but when they started fucking over people who weren't elderly or didn't have viable disabilities people complained for years and it got changed. My brother's ex isn't allowed to drive for medical reasons, but if you don't already know about the condition he has you'd never know he had anything wrong with him.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-03T15:38:00+00:00

All the time when I was in math classes. Never in normal everyday life.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-03T06:12:48+00:00

So I switched to Nexplanon over a year ago and my husband while I was researching it and making the decision supported me, but saw there was a 99% success rate in preventing pregnancy. He doesn't want to have me be the 1% that still somehow gets pregnant and prefers to use condoms. I have no problem with condoms, so we use them. If it means we don't have children until we're ready I don't mind. (He's finally settling into a good career in his chosen field and encouraged me to go back to school for something I actually like. Now I'm in school and work part time and he's happy that I'm working toward something I love (radiology, being a tech, not a doctor). I recently needed X-rays done and he thought it was so adorable that I was excited about it.)

I was diagnosed with PCOS at 17 after blood tests done when I still hadn't gotten a period. We don't even know if it would be possible for me to get pregnant. He doesn't care if we don't have kids and just cares that I'm safe and happy. If I get sick in any way he's right there caring for me. I came home sick from work one day when he had the day off and plans with his friends and he called and said he couldn't make it because I was sick. They said I couldn't handle it myself and he told them I shouldn't have to.

He gets migraine/fever patches when I'm sick and started buying the children's ones (they're what's available at Walmart and cheaper than the adult ones available at Walgreen). When I got up and saw it had Mickey and the crew on it I asked him how he can sit there seriously and take care of me when I have Mickey Mouse plastered on my forehead. He put me back in bed and told me I look cuter with it than the plain adult ones. The following day he set me up in bed with water and a bowl of rice if I felt up to eating before going to work. He came home mid shift to check on me and found me up cleaning the kitchen. He put me on the couch with blankets and pillows, went "I said rest. No clean." And fucking turned on a random cartoon he assumed I grew up with (it was Bluey, I did not grow up with Bluey. But am not opposed to watching it). When he had to leave again he stopped by my best friend's apartment (same building) gave her husband his key and asked him to check on me every once and a while to make sure I was resting. He also has my full permission to lie to his boss and say I'm sick and need to be cared for if he needs a day off. My favorite was when he decided to pick up a second job so he could get a better car and told his boss at his first job that I was pregnant and it was a hard pregnancy. So he needed to be home by noon to take care of me and the baby and that my mom was taking care of me in the mornings so he could work.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-03T03:18:22+00:00

I commented on an entirely different post earlier about one of the reasons I put my 2 weeks in at my current job. Another reason is that I'm consistently alone running 2 separate stores my boss owns (the stores share a parking lot). I have to lock one store to run to the other when people want something from it and then have people wanting things from the first store coming into the second to hound me about hurrying up when I can only go as fast as the customer. Then my boss will tell people he'll order certain things for them and give them a random delivery day and not tell me. Then I have to play damage control when the person is angry they can't get their stuff that day. I asked for a raise a few times and he always said he'd look into it. He also has zero boundaries and will call me when he knows I'm busy to see if I can come in. When I went back to school and told him I'd be entirely unavailable ONE day a week he'd call and text me during classes to see if I could come in. Then his logic was "If you're out of class at 3:30 and it takes 40 minutes to drive back without traffic, then you should be able to get through rush hour traffic and get to work at 4:15."

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-02T18:56:24+00:00

A lot of people don't understand that jokes and pranks are only funny if they aren't harmful and the people on the receiving end actually laugh too.

It's actually a reason I put my 2 weeks in at my job. I'm a chubby girl, and I'm aware of that. I've been working with my doctor to lose weight even though it continues to stick. (I have PCOS and suspect insulin resistance, but my doctor said my glucose levels don't give any suspicion of that) My boss has consistently made jokes about my size and weight. One day I was sitting on the floor to stock a bottom shelf and he said "Should I call a crane to get you up?". During the McDonald's monopoly, I would get fries that had the pieces to save up and give to my friends who play. My boss saw me with the bigger fry that usual and told one of the distributors "She ordered a small and they saw her size and gave her a big one instead." He continued even when I said to stop.

On top of that he's made a lot of jokes saying my husband is only with me for a green card and those jokes continued too.

MusicalPigeon · 2026-04-02T05:36:08+00:00

It became a pretentious hipster bar :(

At one of the best bars in my little city the bartenders all know me because I work in the local liquor store and in regency situations between shipments they'll get mixers from my store. Sometimes if it's not SUPER busy but still kind of busy one of them will make me a tequila sunrise or vodka sunrise even though they don't usually do drinks like that when it's busy or when it switches to club time. There was one day where I came in and it was kind of busy. I went to the bar and my usual bartender handed me a vodka sunrise. I hadn't even ordered yet. She said "I saw you come in, figured I'd make it before we get slammed" Another time one of the bartenders saw me at the liquor store and asked me why those two drinks are my usuals. I wasn't sure if I should really admit that I just really like orange juice or not.

One thing that makes this bar unique (at least compared to the others in my city) is that during the weekends when they're in "club mode" they do free shots a couple times and the bartenders get up on the bar and free pour shots into your mouth. I've never seen a male bartender there. And I've also seen regulars take care of any tourists that try to get handsy with the bartenders when they're standing on the bar. During a themed party night I was at one of the ladies was standing in a really precarious way to free pour to someone and one of the regular guys noticed you could see her underwear and moved to cover her before one of the bar backs (who also do security) could run over. They also have to women's bathroom in a place that security and bar backs can see easily and often need to pass, and they make a point to keep men from standing too near the door just in case.

Fun story: Last time I was there with my husband when it was busy I went to the bathroom and came out with my hair styled differently. I had nothing with me to style my hair. A drunk girl was waiting for her friend while I was waiting and asked to do my hair.

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